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How to Leave your Comfort Zone to be Successful

December 13, 2020 Md Raji Leave a comment

Stepping out of your comfort zone

Let’s face it in life, there will always be things that we fear. Some of us are scared of the obvious “biggies” such as heights, snakes, flames or flights. Many of us, though, develop concerns about things that shouldn’t impede us, but they sometimes do.

Are you afraid of rejection? Risk Taking? Failure? Successful?

All of us strive to build “comfort zones” around us: barriers between what makes us feel relaxed and awkward.

Comfort zones are not always bad

They can prevent us from doing anything stupid or reckless sometimes. However most frequently, our comfort zones are based on a conviction that may or may not be valid. If in the past you have encountered an especially painful rejection, you could build a comfort zone that will prevent you from sticking your neck out there and being rejected again.

The comfort zone itself in this case, is not the problem. The problem is the underlying conviction that you will be rejected again.

Just because in the past you’ve been rejected does not mean that in the future you will be rejected again. The unique comfort zone can lead you to behave in ways that are detrimental to your own life success.

You’re going to fear meeting new individuals, getting involved in relationships, or even applying for new jobs. Deep inside, you are going to expect part of you to be rejected again, and you are going to do everything you can to minimise the risk of that happening. Pain is not fun to feel, and how our minds stop it at all costs is incredible!

You may not even be conscious of any of your comfort zones. Take a look at your life right now as it is. Do you make as much money as you would like? Are you satisfied with the job?

Will you enjoy meeting and getting to know new people? Are you capable of setting and achieving new targets for yourself? If you responded yes to those questions, your comfort zones are probably not hindering you in any way.

You may have some problems to work through if you replied no to all of these questions.

Here is an easy way to find out if you are held back by your fears: make a list of the worst things you can imagine happening. What are the deepest fears you have? What things don’t you like in your life? Oh, and why?

Ask yourself why it is, if you don’t like meeting new people. What is the worst thing about meeting someone new that you can imagine happening? Be frank with yourself. You do not have to show anyone this list.

Once you know what you are truly afraid of, ask yourself what the consequences would be if your worst fear were to be realized. And could you live with those consequences? Using the rejection example again, what would be the consequences of being rejected again? Would you be able to live with that? I think you’ll be surprised at how small most of the consequences are, and how easily we could live with them if we had to.

Fear has a way of making itself much bigger in our minds than it is in reality! We work ourselves into a sweat, terrified of the “what ifs” — when in fact, the outcome would be no big deal really. As with most other things, we’d simply pick ourselves up and continue on our way.

Once you know what your fears are, and you understand and accept the consequences, immediately do the thing you fear most. Yes, that’s right, I’m encouraging you to step out of your comfort zones! Refuse to let fear control you.

Tell your anxiety, “Thank you for trying to protect me, but anyway I’m going to do it.” And then do it. Do it again then. And that again. You Would feel nervous the first few times you venture out of your comfort zone. Expect and accept that. The fear won’t disappear overnight. But after your mind realises that the anxiety is groundless, it will go away.

Now just because you are overcoming your fears and widening your comfort zone doesn’t imply that you should also become reckless. Between blindly jumping into the unknown and taking a calculated risk, there is a major difference.

Take a few minutes to think about the action you intend to take before proceeding, weigh the ramifications, and ask if you’re ready to embrace them. Go for it if you are. If you’re not, that’s great!

Don’t feel like you need to force yourself past what you would be prepared to consider. For some time, you can place the problem on the back burner and rethink it later.

The point is to avoid letting your choices be made by fear, and begin making them yourself. It will take some time to get used to this new way of thinking, but you’ll start challenging your fear naturally before long and stop letting it control you.

When that happens, the standards of achievement and satisfaction you will achieve are not told!

The zone of comfort: no anxiety or confusion permitted

I was motivated by the Convid19 panademic to write this blog about taking a little leap and learning new stuff. This needs that you get out of your zone of comfort. It applies to anxiety levels, the most scientific definition of what a comfort zone is. Any type of action that keeps you at a consistently low level of anxiety is your comfort zone You are used to everyday tasks that would not make you feel nervous and awkward, because they are part of your comfort zone. Although individuals frequently refer to ‘getting out of your comfort zone’ in terms of doing new stuff, it is possible to count something that increases your anxiety levels as being beyond that zone.

While anxiety is not something we are likely to be searching for, it can be unexpectedly helpful to have a little bit. To drive us to get our work done, or to boost our results, we sometimes need just a touch of anxiety. A scientific study found that output improved as anxiety levels grew when a task was very easy. However, elevated anxiety only improved to a certain extent when a task was more challenging, after which the combination of a difficult task and high anxiety caused performance to drop.

Uncomfortable uncertainty levels

The uncomfortable levels of uncertainty are responsible for much of the discomfort that comes from leaving your comfort zone. Uncertainty will make us respond to negative experiences more strongly. Even though we may come to like them over time, we are still more likely to react negatively to new stuff. Our comfort zones can effectively be made smaller by volatile social, political or economic circumstances. The more scared we are the smaller our comfort zone becomes and the harder it is to break out. Familiarity is relaxing and fun, so it’s no wonder we get our guard up with new stuff. It takes energy to try new stuff, so we are more likely to rely on old habits when we feel tired than to take a new chance.

5 reasons why moving out of your comfort zone is good

In the learning zone, you want to find the sweet spot and stop going so far out of your comfort zone that you enter panic mode. Some of the advantages of leaving the comfort zone are seen here.

1. It will help you to grow

When combined with the feeling of success, some anxiety and self-doubt can lead to personal development. This is why outdoor activities such as rock climbing or skydiving can be so exciting: they cause fear and discomfort, but when done, they give us a huge sense of achievement and raise our confidence levels.

2. Your comfort zone will expand

If your comfort zone is small, much of the time you will either be nervous or miss out on much of the fun that life has to bring. You’ll increase the amount of items you’re happy with by moving out of your comfort zone more often. As familiarity makes us more likely to enjoy something, you will also be able to enjoy more things in life, even if it turned us off at first.

3. Learning opportunities will increase

Doing new stuff motivates us and encourages us to learn
Novelty helps to boost the brain’s dopamine levels, which is part of the reward hub’ of the brain. The role of Dopamine focuses on encouraging us to go searching for rewards and that urge increases novelty. It has also been shown that novelty enhances memory and increases learning possibilities by making our brains more malleable.

4. It will improve your efficiency

You are not effective if you are too relaxed. We are looking for the middle ground where you are concerned, but where certain levels of anxiety are still manageable. You have effectively increased your comfort zone until you have acclimatised to the new level of anxiety.

5. It will be easier to harness creativity

We are motivated by discovering new experiences, mastering new talents, and opening the door to new ideas. In a way that nothing else does it educates us. Trying new things will lead us to focus on our old theories and where they conflict with our new experience, encourage us to learn more and question confirmation bias, our propensity to pursue only facts that we already agree with. Even in the short term, brainstorming, seeing old issues in a different light, and overcoming the obstacles we face with new energies can be improved by a positively unpleasant experience. I believe this definition fits my experience at the concert. This has given me a great deal of energy!

6 ways to leave your comfort zone

1. Doing daily stuff differently

To work, take a different path. Try a new restaurant without first reading the feedback. Go for a week or a month with a vegetarian. If the change you make is major or tiny, make a change on a day-to-day basis in the way you do stuff. Look for the viewpoint that comes, even if it is negative, from any transition. If things do not turn out the way you expected, do not be put off.

2. Taking time to take decisions

Often if you make fast decisions, slowing down is what it takes to make you uncomfortable. This is particularly true if fast thinking in your work or personal life is respected. Slow down, watch what’s happening, take the time to analyse what you see, and then step in. Often it will drive you out of your comfort zone just by defending your right to make an informed decision.

3. Trusting in yourself and making fast choices

Often making a snap decision is in order, just to get stuff going, if you are more comfortable considering all of the potential choices many times. Doing so will help you kickstart your personal ventures and teach your judgement to trust you. It will also show you that fast decisions as well as slow ones have fallout.

4. Beginning with small steps

Breaking out of your comfort zone takes a lot of bravery. If you go in with both feet, you get the same advantages as if you start slow, so do not be afraid to start slow. Identify your fears, and then, step by step, face them. It was not actually a fear of classical music; it was rather something to which I did not understand or feel connected. I took a step towards getting to know it and broadening my outlook.

5. Master in a new skill or language

There are many advantages to learning a foreign language, many of which apply to learning every new ability. Connect with individuals who inspire you or volunteer with an agency that does an outstanding job.

6. Travelling to new places

If you have been seeing the world from your front door all your life, you are missing out. Perhaps one of the best ways to expand your experiences is to explore new and interesting locations, and it does not have to be costly or hard to do.

What would you do to get out of your comfort zone?

Anyway, now I’d like to share the different challenges I’ve taken on this course over the past year. I was unable to achieve all the goals listed below but I witnessed a consistent growth within me that generated enormous levels of confidence from within.

Vocabulary Boosting Challenges

Within a month, add 150 words to your vocabulary.

Within a month, add 200 words to your vocabulary.

Within a month, add 300 words to your vocabulary.

In a month, add 300 words to your vocabulary with another person in tandem.

That means 10 words a day, 10 words per day,

Challenges of Push-ups

50 push-ups for two weeks a day.

100 push-ups for twenty days a day.

For a month, 100 push-ups a day.

150 push-ups for two weeks a day.

If you’re a beginner, start with 10 push-ups a day.

Challenges for Eating Habits

For a month, no fried food.

No food from the canteen for a month. No cold/aerated beverages for a month.

Every morning, “I will only consume homemade foods today.” manifest.

Challenges in Social life

For a month, say thanks to at least three people a day.

Every day, you call three people and make them happy for a month.

To some celebrity or renowned personality who influenced me in one way or another, a letter a day for a month.

Challenges for writing

On every topic/topic for two weeks, write ten ideas a day.

On any topic/topic for a month, write ten ideas a day.

For a month, write an average single post on your blog every day.

Creating the next day’s regular task ( in 300 words)

Write at least 2,000 words a day for a month.

Start with 500 words per day then slowly increase.

Challenges to Savings

Save Rs.100 a day by cutting expenses for a month.

Save Rs.150 a day by cutting expenses for a month.

Take this challenge based on the level of income and expenditures. You can start the process by saving only Rs 10.

Challenges for Reading

For a month, read 30 pages of a book every day.

For a month, read 50 pages of a book every day.

Read 5 editorials in the newspaper and 50 book pages a day for a month.

Challenges for better Living

For a month, no gossip.

No quarrels and conflicts in a month

Wake up for the month by 6:30 am.

Wake up for the month by 5:00 am.

For a month, no social media.

For a month, fifteen minutes of deep breathing meditation per day.

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Develop Habits to Grow ( 📈 ) Consistency with 0️⃣ Willpower

December 12, 2020 Md Raji Leave a comment

The Secret to Success is Continuity. Developing consistency is one of the keys to success in any region. Consistency of ideas and actions. It’s one of this year’s most valuable lessons I’ve learned. You will find that if you apply the theory of consistency to your trading, it has the power to take you to the next level of success you are finding with your trading.

One of the main things I teach to all my students is continuity. For the next few months, determine what your priorities are and work diligently to achieve them. Do something to work towards your objectives EVERY day. You’re going to find that this builds a habit which really helps develop momentum.

Consistency applies to habits. The acts we take every day are formed by behaviours. Action leads to results.

Build a definite plan to carry out your desire and begin to bring this plan into motion at once, whether you are ready or not.
There is initially a lot of resistance when you first alter your actions, because your brain is not used to functioning in this new way. But over time, the pathways in your brain literally start to change as you continually reflect on the new actions. Over time, when the new behaviour becomes a routine that is carried out with very little thought or effort, the momentum becomes easier to sustain.

My free time is a lot more scarce with two young kids than it used to be. So in order to make the most of my free time and improve my effectiveness, I had to establish consistency in my acts. Some of the new habits I have developed have been:

Per day, I set aside some times to inspect the markets, and I would not inspect them beyond those hours. Absolutely nothing is learned from monitor watching, in my opinion.

Every week, I set aside those moments to spend writing blog posts.
I shifted it to Sunday night for my market update, as this is a night we are normally home. As these are now arranged in advance, it reduces tension in my house as my wife can prepare in advance around this.
I made sure that each day I did anything to create my website. Most of the time, I spent 20 minutes writing a blog post or responding to emails before I went to sleep. But I was doing something at least, and building the momentum.

So how are you able to apply this to your company?
Begin to work on your daily journal. To fill this in with all your weaknesses from the previous week, set aside 30 minutes per week. Write down how things have behaved and how they have influenced you AND your feelings.

Management of time is something I teach. To perform certain tasks related to your company, set aside certain times per day / week.
These are just a few suggestions, but I’m sure there are a few more you can think of. So, note the following, when you think about the targets you want to set in 2021.

By setting up one habit at a time, success is achieved.

Focus on quality first not outcomes. You will work on the efficacy of your intervention later.

Via consistent action, habits are established.

How to develop permanent habits with 0️⃣ willpower ?

Replacing poor habits with positive habits is the best way to achieve success.

Imagine a moment when someone you loved was upset by your actions. How did you feel about that? Did your stomach render you sick? Did you feel like you were less of an individual?

I wanted to throw up when I first confronted my demons and looked in the mirror at the person I’d become.

I’ve been hung over from life. The only way to get over it was by efficient planning and target setting to modify my attitude and sweat it out.

The key-word is effective. My first step was to make a plan of action. I managed to come across a few habits in the process that ensured success.

Those habits meant that I would continue to do them until they became habits. Not only did they drive me to accomplish my goals, they smashed them to smithereens.

1. Avoid Giant step at first(☝️)

I used to leap head into my targets first. I’m sure you were there, excited about jumping into the deep end of the pool, and inspired.

Temper your arousal. Channel in careful preparation and continuity the desires. Giant actions, at least not in the beginning, are not sustainable.

You need a base ten times larger with behaviours firmly in place ten times longer to achieve a point where you can 10X your acts. Begin little, in other words.

Huge work in fits and starts is even worse than smaller but more reliable chunks over the long haul. Smaller is better in the case of habits.

It’s not just a theory. In 52 weeks, I managed to lose 50 pounds and used a one-minute trick to build a miracle morning of my own. Since emerging from bankruptcy, I used the concept of putting aside funds for investments. It has been used by other individuals to construct empires.

Typically, habits take between three and four months to develop. Small acts are simpler to preserve. One push up a day for four months is easy to do. It’s much tougher to work out five days a week at the gym for two hours a day, starting from ground zero at the same time.

Since they start out too high, most individuals struggle. They visit a gym and work out five days a week for two hours a day which rapidly drops to four, then three, then zero.

Although I have no problem working long hours when I get in the zone, in the beginning, it’s best to start tiny.

You can lift the workload once you’ve developed the habits. But you risk needless failure if you press too much.

2. Chaning (⛓️)Habits

When developing habits, there’s another trick you can use. Do not let yourself off the hook if you run out of time. To keep your chain running, behave in the smallest way. To your subconscious, your chain is vital.

If writing a page daily is your small action to develop a habit and you’re at the end of a long hard day, write a single sentence. Heck, if your eyelids sound like lead balloons, even a few words do.

The argument is that you shape habits if you can keep the chain going long enough no matter how trivial or small. Willpower becomes redundant once you develop a habit.

Your brain desires productivity. This is huge energy sucking on the wealth of your body. The brain of your lizard powers instinctive behaviour, the same section of the brain that sends intoxicated people home.

They get forced into your lizard brain once you’ve developed the habits. Not doing such things is harder than doing them, and the mind is free to concentrate on more immediate issues.

The trick is to keep going with the chain of tiny acts and then…

3. Considering 3️⃣ acts at a time

Most of the time, we become what you think of, and that’s the weirdest secret.

Act on the base of your routine with three strong foundations. Choose no more than 3 acts at a time. A split house is going to collapse.

Function for two to four months on that routine. Avoid the temptation to add more than three new behaviours, no matter how tempted you are. It’ll create the desire. It will build in your mind a positive picture.

You keep your interest high by doing less than you would do but doing it regularly. You’re focusing on doing better. You imagine both the action that is needed and the end result. You become the end product of that.

4. Attaching (🖇️) new actions to old ones

Don’t wait. Only be selective. Be intentional. And so the patterns pile up. To become your perfect self, behaviours should be key. Do any fundamental preparation if you’re not sure what your perfect self looks like.

You can only stack a new habit on top of the old one when you’re sure you’ve developed a habit, and no sooner than two months.

The glue for new habits is old habits. Routines are superglue-like. Attach your new actions to an existing routine when you first start. The older it is the better.

5. Getting started early ( 🌄)

Typically, when you take action in the morning, you get the most successful results. And don’t let the word fool you in the morning. Your morning, whether it’s 6 AM or 6 PM, is when you wake up.

It’s like supergluing your acts to lifelong patterns to add new habits to your’ morning’ routine. This produces strong associations of mindset.

You also get the added bonus of being intentional at the start of your day. Efficient mornings affect your mood. For your remaining waking hours, they set the tone.

6. Monitoring ( 👩‍💻 )

How do you know the chain length? What about the amount of habits that you have piled up? If you keep track, you won’t know.

Using whatever procedure you want. It could be a physical diary, Google Docs, your personal blog, or Fitbit. But it’s like sucker-punching yourself every time you try to develop a new habit if you don’t chart your progress in any way.

7. Practicing ( 🔁 )

Habits are unlike most skills that require conscious practise. Habits are automatically created. But usually those are the behaviours you want to avoid.

Positive, productive behaviours require deliberate contemplation. Otherwise you’ll get in the habit of ineffectively doing it.

The good news is that they need less attention once they’re created. But still, watch them so you can change your course when you hit a speed bump.

By thinking daily, weekly and monthly about your growth, the way to focus on your habits is. Have you got them done? Have you been intentional? Did you offer the effort and the attention required? Have you noticed flaws or failures and various methods to fix them?

It doesn’t take more than a couple of minutes per night, but you have to think. Otherwise you’ll risk developing an ineffective habit for a lifetime.

8. Maintaining journals ( 📒)

Scientific research indicates that with transparency, you are more likely to accomplish your objectives.

Journals are the accountability partner for a busy guy. In a pinch, they’ll do it. If you make them public, they’ll be better. But with individuals you know and trust, the best accountability partners are.

Mentors, mentors, and even help groups on Facebook can be productive at keeping you on track.

Don’t turn your sessions of transparency into storey time. Use them as truthful reflections of the method, instead. To prevent traps, use them as opportunities to find alternatives to challenges and maps.

I just gave you a roadmap for the development of permanent, productive habits. Are you going to stick it in a drawer and forget? Or are you going to use it to direct the life you want to live and supercharge it? Comment below

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Is There Any Magical Success Recipe ?

November 7, 2020 Md Raji Leave a comment

The biggest secret of success is that there are no secrets about it.

The successful individuals and the direction they have taken to achieve success are known to all.

Yet by following their course, no one can become successful.

There is no magical success recipe that anyone should use to achieve success in life.

If you examine two effective persons, you will discover two distinct success routes.

If you had to analyse 10, you’d get 10 routes.

Let ‘s look at the examples of the leaders who were India’s PM.

Narendra Modi: Grand Orator, Violent, Maker of Quick Decisions.

Manmohan Singh: Talks less, submissive, makes few choices

Atal Bihari Vajpayee: Fantastic, affable orator, team man, team man

They all have different attributes and they achieved success in their own way.

In the same way, you can find every great writer, sportsman, businessman carving their own path to success.

If you follow any of them, you are most likely to fail in life because

No two people have same abilities, aptitude and talents

No two people face the same people and the world

No two people can use the same formula for success

You have to design your own success based on your own aspirations, abilities and the need of the world.

Just like there has never been a person like you in the world, there can also be no readymade formula of success made for you.

You can draw inspiration from every successful person, but you have to carve out your own path of success in life.

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How to be Successful in Life with Confidence?

November 5, 2020 Md Raji 14 Comments

Have you ever felt that if you boost your faith, you would have more opportunities and a happier life?

Self-confidence means being confident of your own worth, skill, and strength, irrespective of your situation.

Your performance level in life is directly proportional to your trust and self-belief levels.

Actually, not everyone who was born would look at life with faith. We all have those flaws that make us self-deprecating, but everything can really be solved. You can develop your trust if you know how to do it step by step, which makes you become more desirable and opportunities will come naturally.

To really be SELF-CONFIDENT, apply the following Solutions in life.

1. Learn how compliments are acknowledged

When getting compliments, everybody has a different reaction. Some are glad to embrace it, some are arrogant, but some are humiliated.

Shame is not the best thing to do out of all three responses, since it reveals that you are a person who is less confident in yourself, and does not even value the other person’s opinion.

So when you get a compliment, instead of rejecting it, simply smile and say, “Oh, thank you.” Don’t think people are flattering you, believe you have some beliefs, and you’re going to feel more secure.

2. Don’t set goals beyond your means

You have a tight schedule: 50 calls, 20 meetings with clients, 30 readable manuscripts and hundreds of responsive emails. And what are you seeing? If the job is not performed very well, it will definitely be disappointing.

Actually, no one is flawless, and you set a schedule that can hardly be done well by even the most perfect person.

You would almost definitely get more anxious when making an untouchable strategy.So don’t set targets that are beyond your means, and while you work, take a few minutes to relax.

3. Learn how to keep contact with the eye

The eye is a location where exceptional knowledge can be transmitted. You can catch the emotions of the other person very easily through eye contact. A person will try to avoid the opposite individual’s eyes, to conceal the fact that they are lying.

Generally, avoiding eyes while speaking primarily indicates a lack of self-confidence. So, the best way to gain confidence from the other person is to maintain eye contact.

4. When walking, always keep your back straight,

Straight back, airy movements, steady steps-all signs of a person who is confident.

So stop the bent back at all costs and have to look down when walking. There has been research showing that having a confident body language will decrease the level of stress of a individual. And, obviously, your life will be much more enjoyable because there is less tension.

5. Find the best answer for nervousness

Nervousness , click to read more on confidence

Have you ever, in your opinion, spoken to yourself? Actually, everybody is — this is almost definitely something that is — but not everyone can manage it. Since interactions with yourself can contribute to negative thoughts.

Try another way, however. Try thinking about why you feel anxious instead of thinking negatively? Write down all potential triggers, then ask yourself if they really are precise? Are they confident it will happen?

You will understand that most of the negative things that you think about are irrelevant after doing the above steps. What are you worried about, then?

6. Mark your own accomplishments

Enjoying for her own accomplishments, click to read more

You can start by marking what you have done throughout the day if you want to feel more optimistic. Not only the big stuff, but there are also some influences on the little things. For instance, “reading 10 pages of a novel” or “memorising 20 new words” or even … “Breakfast” (if you want to create a healthier life).

7. Chatting with foreigners

Seeking opportunities to talk to people you meet in your life (but don’t know them) is a perfect way to practise talking. From a cashier, a taxi driver on a motorbike, or a bakery man in a pub … With them, be friendly. Not everybody likes to chat, of course, so if you feel the other person looks awkward, refrain.

Also, go to a band, a bar that you don’t know, and begin to practise conversation if you want to learn to connect at a higher level. You’ll find things getting more interesting, and more optimistic, in particular.

8.Offer to assist

Offering help, click to read how to attract

This is a real trick, as it’s based on the fact that we all want to feel respected. Anyone would feel better knowing that others had enough respect to rely on, but unfortunately, very few individuals were willing to ask for or support others willingly.

So it will make you feel more valuable and helpful to offer your own help, so you can no longer feel vulnerable and lonely.

9. No more wasting time on social media

Social networking is very easy, but it brings several drawbacks as well. You prefer to look at pictures of other people and compare them to your own … Wretched life, and, of course, let your confidence go down.

In fact, it should be understood that the position where there is an underlying rivalry between users is social networking, to see who is more successful. People would then decide to post the most stunning, spectacular, flashiest, and most believable videos.