sorrow | My Solution

Sorrow, tragedy, unhappiness, there are many other negative words make us run away from such a scenario, topic or place. We don’t want some sort of negativity around us, and we do so many things because of that. We’re denying it, dissuading it and even paying too much to stop grief. We are opposed to persons and elements that offer us negativity. But too many times, in preventing such situations, we do not succeed, as much as we want to shy away from such things. But it’s not knocking on your window, it’s pressing in, knocking down the doors.
We’re not able to do that and we collapse back on our faces.

Sorrow comes with so many respects. Financial, material, man-made or natural disasters, social failure, failure to investigate, loss of dear ones, and a myriad of forms, big and small. It takes away your vitality and your peace of mind. You’re such a mess. Why lament over spilled milk, though? Why do you become a recluse or find yourself a failure? Something that is unavoidable is bound to happen, if one recognises a situation as it is and does not get confused or lie about it to others as well as oneself, then I feel half the fight is won, there is no point in cursing yourself or others about one’s situation.

I would repeat my words again that it is most important to accept a situation. Acceptance is one of those elements of one’s mind that can make you a winner, and if it isn’t there a person will end up battling, weeping, living in an imaginary world, and finally end up in a pathetic situation.

Man proposes and God disposes, as it is said. Choices that we create for the good of ourselves and our loved ones often turn out to be absolutely wrong. Such choices cause pain and division between the members of the family. Then a long chain of quarrels and a game of blame begins. These quarrels and allegations result in people damaging each other for life and thus ending the relationship in turn. But why not embrace each other the way the person is, instead of souring auspicious life relations. I’m not saying this way, there won’t be any sorrow. Hard words, demoralising words, ignorant words will harm the heart, but at least there will be acceptance of the other person’s actions and you will manage the situation better, the sorrow will teach you patience and wisdom to cope with the situation.

We are powerless at times in the face of such circumstances. Aside from tolerating them, there is nothing else we can do. We need to develop patience for such occasions, and that is too much. In India, the list is long, from waiting in long queues to traffic jams. I’m going to add a terrible supervisor to that. What is one willing to do? If the job is not so important, a queue may be left, but a jam has to be crossed on the head with a brick of ice. There is no point in continuously honking as it will just add to the noise pollution and you will be hurled at by some abuses. Similarly, one has to live with a bad boss and learn the ability to stop or retaliate with silken blows. How successfully you can tolerate your boss is up to your nature, but acknowledging his horror and the wound of your fate with him will bring you less sorrow than anything else.

Sorrow comes in several forms; a partner’s moodiness, a friend, a colleague, or even a supervisor, who passes you on a fine day with a snide joke, making you nervous and throwing you off and bringing sorrow. For whatever excuse, plans run foul and cause you too much unhappiness, a feeling of depression, a feeling of repeated failure at things, an opportunity missed, a friendship that you are looking forward to an investment or even an arrangement to spend a nice time with family.

What does one do on such occasions? Tell yourself loudly that the end of the world is not here. Stand in front of the mirror and say vehemently to yourself that nothing has gone wrong. Again the sun will rise. You’re going to climb again. Accept the situation and immediately prepare stuff for the next occasion. Do more homework this time look at loopholes and make a proposal that is airtight. Don’t fear yourself of failing. See it and bounce back as a preparatory round.
You will not see sorrow as sorrow in this way, but a path to cross and step on into a happier life that is successful.

Procrastination is the act of delaying a task or collection of tasks or postponing them.
We still say that we procrastinate at all times!
If there is something important that needs good effort to be done, we generally procrastinate it.
Procrastination has become a derogatory word over the past few years since it is cited as one of the key causes of our failures. Procrastination is often considered a disease as well!
You tell people that you are procrastinating, so they immediately start giving you a lot of suggestions about how to stop it. There are thousands of ways for people to tell you to quit postponing work.
The truth, however, is we can’t. We’re not able to deter procrastination.

About why?
Since we are delaying or postponing anything in each movement. We aren’t?
We do something in each moment and postpone other works.
You’re waking up and postponing your night right now. Who would stop you from sleeping? You. You.
Waking up is delayed while you are sleeping. What is stopping you from getting up? You. You.
You’ve got the option of what to do and what to postpone. The actor is you. You are accountable for doing something and for delaying something else. Ever. Always.
So, we’re never able to stop procrastinating. Even the entire function of our body is based on procrastination.
Why are we treating procrastination as an immoral habit?
Since we are postponing nice stuff! As easy as that.
Are we postponing depression or rage? Never. Never.
Are we delaying happiness? Yes. Yes. What? How? We’re setting requirements. We’ll get a job if we work hard and we’ll be satisfied. You’ve delayed happiness.

Do we set conditions for frustration? If everything is done, then we’re going to get furious. Or unexpectedly it just comes.
Delay the sorrow and be grateful. Right now, do what makes you happy. Right now, do what makes you happier. Why postpone it for the future?
Now do the right things. Research right away. Right now work. Delaying bad stuff. Delaying needless things.
We’ve got a option. But we still postpone significant and correct things in the way we work. Society imposes on us the working mechanism. In this mechanism, we are taught to believe. That’s why, because we see satisfaction in college life, we work hard in school. In college, we study hard because we see satisfaction in a good salaried career. In the workplace, we work hard because we see peace in retirement. Yet we never feel happy and it still prevents happiness.
I’m not asking you to delay your hard work, just the way you delay satisfaction with your hard work.

Let me have an example for you. We feel good at solving it and happy after solving it if we solve a difficult mathematical problem or a difficult task (if it is chosen by ourselves). Yeah, we can feel stressful, but due to delayed frustration, anxiety and depression, that’s okay.
Delay the things that, right now, make you furious, nervous and sad. And begin doing the things that right now make you happy and fulfilled. Find anything like that out and don’t delay it. And you have a preference. The actor is you.