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Adopt a Different Personality to be Successful

Same person, same process, same action producers same results. If you want to get an extra ordinary result you have to become an extraordinary person. Any type of result is highly related with the person who is acting for that result. To get a different result you have to replace the man who is producing those malicious results.

But how can you replace yourself ? Ok then replace your head and places someone other’s head just like Ganesha( a Hindu God whose head was amputed by lord Shani but kind lord Shiva placed an elephant’s head over Ganesha’s neck). Still not possible ! Then I can’t help you. You have to change your head to be successful in life. Indirectly I am asking you to change your mind. If your mind changes for better then your whole office will automatically change.

Changing Your Mind

Changing your mind is not an easy task as you are habituated to do the same things that you have been doing for a long period of time. Bad habits are created effortlessly but erasing a bad habit requires a strong will power. Generating a good habit requires a high degree of commitment but uninstalling a good habit can be done in seconds just like uninstalling an app from our mobile. I have read many books on the topic Habit. Initially I have found these books helpful for changing my habits but after a few days my old habits pulled me towards it just like a magnet pulls a piece of iron. Who is the culprit here? Certainly my mind. So I decided to change my mind to incorporate new patterns and disapprove old behaviours in my life. This decision changed my destiny. Here are some tips on how to change your mind.

1. Strong Sentimental reason

An emotion is a physiological and mental feeling state that directs our attention and governs our behavior. Stronger the emotional reason to change, quicker will there be the behavioral change. So ask yourself, “Why I want to change my mentality?” If your answer is because I want to become rich then it can’t motivate you. But if your answer is “I want to take revenge for something” or ” I want to prove my ex girlfriend that I am the best.” then these answers will force you to remain motivated lifelong. Your answer should not be materialistic but it should be highly emotional.

A Man angry and annoyed with something
Highly emotional

2. Do it right now

Starting means half done. Early bird catches the worm. Idle brain is devil’s workshop. Don’t allow your brain to be idle. Start immediately. But, “how can you start everything right now?”Prioritise your work and do each work simultaneously. This is the most important habit one has to cultivate to change his personality. This single behaviour has power to change your entire destiny. So I name this behaviour as anti-procrastination pattern of a successful entity.

Is it difficult to follow? If you are not in a mood to do anything, start cleaning your study table, rearrange your books and clothes, DO SOMETHING USEFUL but don’t keep your brain idle. There are some useless work like chatting with friends, watching TV , watching social media posts in mobile and more. AVOID USELESS WORK.

3. Practice, Practice and Practice

Picture of Bruce Lee and his quote
Famous Quote of Bruce Lee

If you drive a car for the first time, you will learn something on driving. If you try it for the second time your driving skill will somewhat improve. But if you drive it hundred times, you will be an expert in driving that car. Again if you abstain yourself from driving for six months, your calibre in driving that car will decrease.

To be a master of any skill requires a lot of practice that can not be done in one or two days. Also to hold that mastered skill for the lifetime, one has to practice that skill on regular intervals.

In an interview, Mr Sachin Tendulkar (Indian cricket player) told the interviewer that he used to face 500 balls in net practice, everyday without missing a single day in a year for the last 17 years at sharp 6am morning.

By practice your skills improves. Only learning a skill is not important but to practice the skill over and over again is the vital thing needed to become it’s master.

Repeating a task again and again! Is it difficult or easy?

4. Do your Best

No one is perfect and perfection cannot be reached because there is always a room for a work to be done in a better way. The only thing we can do is to give our 100% effort to do our best.

This mentality to do our best should not be limited to our profession but it should be executed to every walks of life. If you are playing then do your best in playing that game. If you are cleaning your room then do your best to clean that room. If you are in office then do your best to do your duty sincerely, etc etc.

Creating a habit of doing best you can is nothing but doing every thing with care and passion.

5. Keep Yourself updated

Electric bill payment – on time, Attending seminar – on time, Hair cutting – on time, Professional task submission – on time, payment of house maid – on time, Your dream project task – on time

This means that you have updated yourself. There is no pending work left aside. Creating this habit to be updated is not a difficult task but it requires a certain degree of commitment.

6. Acceptance and Forgiveness

Be a performer but don’t try to become a reformer. Your mentality won’t match with others. You will say that the glass is half full and others will say that the glass is half empty. Views of others may be completely different than yours. They are right in their point of view and you are right in your point of view. It is wise not to comment on their point of view. Never try to change their way of life instead try to accept them and forgive them from your inner heart. It is better to forget those ignorant people who never brothers about your wise suggestions. So why to quarrel with others, let them live their life and you live in your own world.

Is it difficult to accept and forgive some ignorant people of your society? If you forgive someone then you can easily erase everything about that person from your mind.

7. Always be in a Hurry

If you want a task to complete early then you have to be in a hurry.When you are in a hurry you won’t loose focus over the job and when you are highly focused, the quality of the task done unconsciously improves.

Also establishing a piece of work early gives opportunity to complete other works early. This habit in turn gives the advantage to complete a huge project before the time allotted by you in your goal schedule and you will achieve quick success.

8. Produce World Class Quality

You will be in a hurry to complete your task but never compromise with the quality. It should be the best and it should be the world class. Create a famous and high quality brand name for your product and services.

Creating good quality needs huge amount of time but once you create it, it’s re – creation won’t take much.

But how to attain world class quality? You will never create something world class in the first attempt. The only thing you have to keep in mind, ” I will produce better in my next attempt.”

This mindset to improve the quality in every occasion and in every opportunity will one day reward you with the quality that is called WORLD CLASS.

9. Keep yourself busy

What am I doing now? Ask this question 100 times a day and answer it honestly without any partiality in two words. Give two option for it. 1. USEFUL WORK and 2. USELESS WORK. Hang this question along with the two answers in every wall of your living rooms and in your place of work.

If the answer is “Useful work” then it’s OK and if the answer is “Useless work” then you are not busy enough to attain the wealth of success. Tell yourself “I am an important and busy person and I don’t have time for trifles. I am changing my way right now”.

A wooden board to motivate people to start now
Motivate yourself to do it now

You should be actually busy 24*7. Show off business is a different thing. You have to be honest with yourself that you are really busy and not making a false commitment.

10. Every Step Towards Growth and Progress

Once to an interviewer, Master batsman Mr Sachin Tendulkar Said,”I play cricket, I eat cricket, I think cricket,I sleep cricket, I dream cricket, I walk cricket, and cricket cricket & cricket is in every step of my life.” The burning desire in him to grow day by day made him The God of Cricket.

Your destination is towards north but you are walking towards either east, west or south. You are never going to reach your desired place. Similarly there are many directions in your life to roam about here and there but there is only one direction that will lead you towards success. That is the direction of growth and progress in every step of your life. Neglect the trifles and follow the path of Growth. Whatever you are doing now should be directly or indirectly related to your dream Goal.

11. Tarcking your Progress

Tracking the progress can be used to keep your motivation level up. Tracking can be classified in three ways.

A girl writing in her diary tracking progress
Tracking her progress

1. Tracking with respect to time

Keep a record on how much time you have spent in each classified task. Watch, is it increasing or decreasing, which work you need more attention, which work is taking maximum time and plan how to reduce it.

2.Tracking with respect to Quantity

Keep a journal to watch the quantity of product and services you have offered to the world. Watch weather it is decreasing or increasing. Make a weekly graph to track these changes. Modify your strategy to increase your production every week.

3. Tracking with respect to Quality

Develop some criteria to judge the quality of products and services. It is better to ask the people who uses your products and services. Establish a quality control department where you can measure and approve methods to improve the quality during and after the processing of that product.

Bottom line :

If you wants to change your personality then don’t focus on changing a fixed habits one by one, change everything suddenly and spontaneously. Your time starts now. After all present time is in your hand. Please like,comment, share and Subscribe

Be the best version of yourself by self-discipline

Meaning of self-discipline

Discipline means behavioural order or code. Self-discipline refers to the very essential ability to control one’s own feelings. Self-Discipline contributes to overcoming one’s own limitations.

Life isn’t life without self-discipline. We need laws to guide us. To our elders, we have to be polite. Our seniors must be obeyed.

It’s significance

For success in life, self-discipline is most important. If we are at school or at home, discipline is a must. If we are in the workplace or in the playground, it is equally important. Without discipline, our lives, our culture, our country and even the universe will go astray. Therefore, some kind of discipline is needed everywhere. Order occurs in Nature. Even a small disorder contributes to confusion in the world of nature.

The formative days in schools and colleges: In any walk of life, self-discipline has to be taught. The best time for it is childhood. Quickly and effortlessly, the young mind discovers things. Students are encouraged to behave well at school. Their elders are taught to honour them. And in the playground, boys are taught to follow the rules of the games. Thus, student days are the most formative time in which it is possible to understand the importance of self-discipline.

Indiscipline evils

Without self-discipline, a man is just like an animal. His life and behaviour are becoming aimless. In today’s era, there is a great evil in self-discipline. In every walk of life, it is rising. The young and the elderly both do acts of lawlessness. Crimes and robberies today are on the rise. It seems like individuals have forgotten the importance of self-discipline. Over-crowding on buses and trains is very popular in India. It is also a common trait to travel without tickets. The talk of the city is student indiscipline.

Indiscipline causes

A major cause of indiscipline and discontent is lack of jobs. The problem is made even worse by overpopulation. Overcrowding induces indiscipline in schools and universities. Ultimately, poverty leads to extreme disorder, anger and indiscipline.

Self-Discipline, in truth, is a positive thing. It develops personality. It cultivates power and unity. It induces a feeling of cooperation. So Self-Discipline has to be something from childhood. In life, it is a secret to success. The higher the sense of self-discipline, the better it is for individuals and the country.

Developing the habit of self discipline

For those only starting out in life (and everyone else!), one of the most critical life skills to cultivate is the ability of self-discipline.

It’s a power house

I began to exercise and eat better, meditate and write more when I developed some self-discipline, I quit smoking and ran marathons, I started a blog, I read more and I worked earlier, I decluttered and transformed my finances. I am far from ideal, but I have learned a great deal.

But it creates problems if you don’t develop self-discipline: health issues, distraction, procrastination, financial problems, clutter, stuff piling up and distracting you, and much more.

So creating is such an essential skill, but most people don’t know where to begin. The purpose of this article is to help you get started.

I’m writing it for my kids, and for anyone else who would like to grow a superpower.

Finding inspiration

The first question is how are you even encouraged to get started? Most of us don’t want to think about our lack of discipline, let alone taking a number of steps.

The inspiration for me came from knowing that what I was doing wasn’t working. Ignoring the issues has only made matters worse. Attempting to be disciplined but doing it half-assedly just led me to feel bad about myself. Being totally undisciplined caused me a lot of pain.

You can establish a whole-hearted intention to stop harming yourself once you understand that you’re causing yourself pain. You might think, “All right, that’s enough to make my life worse.” Let’s try to make it a little worse.

You should tell yourself, with that in mind, that you are going to:

Begin to take small steps to make things easier.
Do the stuff that hurt less for you.
Push yourself a little bit into pain, but over time you can get better at this.
With some practise, get good at self-discipline.
When you train, keep these points in mind, as you get the desire not to practise, and as you make mistakes and then want to give up.

More on positive motivation

Wanting to assist others

For example, if you get better at exercising or healthy eating, you can support your elderly parents who need to do these things better. If you get better at not procrastinating on your life’s job, you can support more people with the meaningful work.

Life appreciating

Here on Earth, we have a limited time and the life we have is a blessing. We don’t completely understand the blessing we have when we procrastinate and give in to constant distractions, and don’t make the most of our time. Instead, by being present, being thankful, and being intent on how we spend our time, we will enjoy it.
We will begin to practise with these motivations, or whatever reasons move you the most.

Small acts

To get better at self-discipline, one of the most important things you can do is to take small acts. Tackling huge, intimidating projects can seem overwhelming … so don’t. Alternatively, approach basic acts, stuff so small that you can’t say no.

Got to do any taxes? Only do this for 5 minutes. Want to go running? Only 10 minutes of running. Have a paper on which to work? Only do the paragraphs for the first few. Want to go decluttering? Find just 5 things to declutter.

If you concentrate on small tasks, and split bigger projects into small tasks, you’ll get better at self-discipline.

Training for unfavourable situations

One of the reasons we don’t have self-discipline is because of the difficult, painful stuff that we flee from. We’d prefer to do simple, comfortable, familiar stuff.

So we flee to distractions, videos, games instead of facing our challenging, uncomfortable projects or finances. Our lives are destroyed by hiding from discomfort.

What you should say to yourself is that you have finished running. You are going to drive, a little at a time, into discomfort, and get good at being uncomfortable. Another of your superpowers is this. You are OK when others run (even if it’s not always fun).

Pushing yourself into pain, one little task at a time. See how it looks. See that this isn’t the world’s end. See that you are awesome enough to cope with pain, and that it is well worth the effects.

Keep impulses in mind

You’re going to have the desire to stop doing something complicated, or to put it off for now. They don’t serve you well those impulses.

Alternatively, build knowledge about certain desires, and see that you do not have to obey them.

To schedule a time for yourself where you can do nothing but X is a good way to do that. For starters, you can do nothing but write your book chapter for the next 10 minutes (or exercise, meditate, etc.). You can clearly see it when you have the desire to procrastinate or run into distractions, since you are either writing a novel, or you are not. If you have the desire to convince yourself that you can’t pursue it you will have to write a chapter in your book or sit there and do nothing.

The reason it works is that you set up a time where you do nothing but that one job, and you can see your temptation to run away. Use this to learn to keep your impulses in mind, and to see that you don’t have to obey them.

Training for intervals

You can prepare yourself using interval training if you incorporate the above items into a system of bursts, or intervals:

Set your aim to exercise self-discipline and no longer harm yourself.
Set a mission on which to concentrate (writing, drawing, strength training, meditating, etc).
Set a 10 minute timer. Also, five minutes is perfect if 10 is too long. At 10 minutes, don’t go longer until you get strong, then increase to 12 and eventually 15. I don’t think I need to go beyond 15-20 minutes, even though I kick my ass.
Do nothing but sit there and watch your urges, or drive into your discomfort by doing the job.
Give yourself a 5-minute break when the timer goes off.

Repeat the actions

You can practise for a number of cycles, or for an hour or two, theoretically. Take a longer break then, and then do another series of intervals.

This kind of interval training is great, because it’s not that intense, you just train yourself in pain and watching impulses, and you can get a lot done this way.

Focus on others

Dig into deeper motivation when you find yourself struggling: doing your work/exercise/meditation, etc not for yourself but for others.

For example:

I’m writing this article to support my children and anyone else who could benefit from it.
I work out to be safe, not only for myself but for my children and others who may benefit, as an example.
Not only do I meditate for my own healing and peace, but so that I can help others find their own healing and peace.
To inspire others, you may draw or write or play music.
You might benefit in each instance… but you’re also doing it to benefit others. And this advantage is far more motivating for others than doing something just for yourself.

Try it… try to do someone else’s difficult task. Tell them that you would do it for them in advance, and keep them in mind while you do it. See if you are getting more inspired.

Success and failure victories

A big mistake many individuals make is that they screw up and get discouraged by it. They feel bad about messing up. This causes them to give up and not want to think about self-discipline being created.

Here is the thing: failure is a success, honestly.

Failure means you’ve been trying. So it was a victory from the beginning.

But it also means that you’ve learned something now you know that what you’ve been doing didn’t really work. You can try something a little different next time. Add more responsibility, do it at a different time, unplug your wireless router, get a buddy for a workout, whatever. You have new knowledge because of your mistake. You’ve grown, and that helps you to change yourself.

Failure constitutes a success. Often, achievement is a win. You should see it as an opportunity to learn, to improve, to get better no matter what your result is.

Drop any hopes of being perfect at this and just keep trying.

Instead of letting it get you discouraged, see it as a win the next time you struggle at whatever you are trying. No matter what then keep going, because giving up is just going to hurt you even more.

Seeking aid from others

You aren’t alone in this. You have relatives, friends, strangers online who are willing to support you. By reaching out to the people around you and asking for their assistance, form a support team.

Lots of people miss this because their lack of discipline embarrasses them. They believe that shameful is the way they act. This isn’t real. We all behave like this really, but we’re just afraid to show each other that side. But the fact is if you show people your “dark side, they really love you more, they trust you more, they connect more to you. So don’t be afraid to communicate with others in a vulnerable way.

Find the confidence to ask for assistance. When you focus on getting yourself into pain and injuring yourself less then let yourself be helped.

How to be The Master of Your Own Mind?

Your mind is the most important weapon you have in your life for the production of good, but it can also be the most destructive force in your life if not used correctly. Controlling your emotions means influencing the way you live your life.

More precisely, your mind, your emotions, determines your perception and thus your understanding of reality. (And here’s why the truth is your perception)

I have heard that about 70,000 thoughts a day are thought of by the average person. That’s a lot, especially if they’re self-abusive, unproductive, and just a general waste of energy.

You may as well let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It’s your mind, it’s your thoughts; is it not time to take back your power? Isn’t it time for power to take over?

Choose to be the one who thinks about your thoughts deliberately, consciously. Be someone who can control your emotions and become your mind’s master.

You will also change your emotions when you change your thoughts, and you will also remove the causes that set off those feelings. Both of these findings give your mind a greater level of calm.

I have a few thoughts currently that are not of my preference or an answer from my reprogramming. I am the master of my mind, so my mind is pretty calm now. It could also be yours!

Who cares about my thoughts?

You must understand that you are actually at the hands of many unwelcome “squatters” residing in your mind before you can become the master of your mind, and they are in charge of your thoughts.

You must know who they are and what their motive is, if you want to be their boss, and then you can take over and evict them.

In your brain, here are four of the “squatters” that build unhealthy and unproductive feelings.

1. Inner critic

This is your continuous abuser, who is also a cluster of:

The language of other people—many times your parents
Thoughts you have established based on the standards of your own or other populations
Comparing yourself with others, like those in the media
As a product of traumatic encounters like betrayal and rejection, the things you told yourself. Your understanding produces your self-doubt and self-blame, which in cases of rejection and betrayal, are most certainly undeserved.
Pain, low self-esteem, lack of self-acceptance, and lack of self-love motivate the Inner Critic.

Why else would you be abused by this individual? And because you’re this guy, why else would you abuse yourself? Why would you encourage someone to treat you this badly?

2. The worrier

In the world of what ifs,” this individual lives in the future.

The Worrier is influenced by fright, which is always unfounded and has no foundation. This individual is occasionally driven by fear that what occurred in the past would happen again.

3. The troublemaker or reactor

This is the one that induces rage, anger, and pain. Such causes originate from previous unhealed wounds. He will be set off by any event that is even remotely connected to a past wound.

Words or emotions can set this entity off and can also be set off by sounds and smells.

The Reactor has no true incentive and has weak control of impulses. He’s powered by past programming that if it ever did, no longer fits you.

4. The Sleep Depriver

This along with the internal critic and the worrier, can be a mix of any number of various squatters, including the inner planner, the rehasher, and the ruminator.

The motivation of The Sleep Depriver could be:

As an answer to the silence against which he is struggling,
Taking charge of the organisation you have forgotten throughout the day
Self-doubt, fear, low self-esteem, and generalised anxiety
For the inner critic and worrier, as indicated above
How do these squatters monitor you?

How to master the mind?

The thinker and the observer of your thinking are you. You can monitor your emotions, but you have to pay attention to them so that you can define “who is running the show, which will dictate the tool you want to use.

Start each day with the goal of paying attention to your feelings when you think unnecessary thoughts and catch yourself.

To control your emotions, there are two ways:

Technique A- Disrupt and substitute for them

Technique B- Completely eradicate them

What is known as peace of mind is this second choice.

A way of reprogramming the subconscious mind is the technique of interrupting and replacing. Eventually, in applicable circumstances, the substitution thoughts would become the go-to” thoughts.

Using Technique A with the Inner Critic and Worrier, and the Reactor and Sleep Depriver with Technique B.

For inner critic

Interrupt it when you find yourself thinking something adverse about yourself (calling yourself names, disrespecting yourself, or berating yourself).

You may in your mind) say Stop!” No!-No! or Enough! Enough!” “Now I’m in control.” Then substitute it with an opposite or counter thinking or an affirmation that starts with “I am,” whatever your negative thought is about yourself.

For instance, if your thinking is I’m such a loser,” you can substitute it with, “I am the Universal Spirit’s Divine Creation.” I am a perfect learning spiritual being to master the human experience. I am an energy, light, and matter being. I am splendid, clever, and beautiful. Just as I am, I love and approve of myself.

To discredit the ‘voice’ that produced the idea, you can also have a conversation with yourself if you know whose voice it is:

Only because I was a loser and said so-and-so doesn’t make it real. It was his or her view, not a truthful assertion. Or maybe they were kidding, and because I’m insecure, I took it seriously.

If you know that you have recurrent self-critical thoughts, your counter thoughts or reinforcement can be written down or pre-planed so that you can be ready.

If possible, this is the first squatter you can evict, forcefully:

The Worrier riles them up.
When called such names by someone the names you call yourself become triggers, but he still retains the existence of the Reactor.
When you attempt to fall asleep, they are always there, so he perpetuates the Sleep Depriver.
They are bullies and are violent verbally and emotionally.
They are self-esteem destroyers. They are persuading you that you are not worthy. They are liars! They are liars! Get them out in the name of your self-worth!

Eliminate the worst critique, and the involvement of the other three squatters will also diminish you.

Replace them with your new best friends who value your life, promote it and strengthen it. This is a presence in your mind which you like.

For worrier

Prolonged anxiety is dangerous mentally, emotionally and physically. It can have consequences for long-term health.

Fear initiates the reaction to fight or flight, causes fear in the mind, and creates anxiety in the body. This will make it harder for you to effectively regulate your thoughts.

You should be able to instinctively identify a “fearful thought” from how you feel. The physiological signals that fear’s fight or flight response has kicked in are:

Increased heart rate, hypertension, or adrenaline rush
Shallow respiration or breathlessness
Tensed muscles
To interrupt any thinking of concern and then substitute it, use the above-stated form. But this time, with thoughts of appreciation for the result you want, you will replace your thoughts of concern.

This is the time to connect with it if you believe in a higher force. An example is here:

I tell the following (I call it a prayer) instead of thinking about my loved ones travelling in bad weather:

Without warning, thank you for watching over his car and keeping it clean, road-worthy, and free of maintenance problems. Thank you for being surrounded by only clean, diligent, and alert drivers. And thank you for keeping him/her safe, alert, and diligent. Smile and word it in the present tense as you think about it or say it aloud.

These can also make you feel it and maybe even begin to believe it.

If you can imagine what you are praying for the visualisation will strengthen the feeling so that in your vibrational area, you can increase the effect.

Take a relaxing breath now, slowly through your nose, and slowly through your mouth. Take as many as you want! Do it until you feel like your emotions are close to being in control.

Replacing fearful thoughts with appreciation, taking the steam out of the reactor, will minimise reactionary actions.

For example: If your child gets lost in the mall, screaming at them is the usual parental response that accompanies the scary thoughts when discovering them.

“I told you never to leave my sight.” This response only leads to the degree of fear of the child being lost in the first place.

Plus, it also shows them that when he or she makes a mistake, mum and/or dad will get angry, which may make them lie to you or not tell you anything in the future.

When they happen, change those fearful thoughts:

Thank you for watching over my child and keeping him safe (your option of Higher Power). Thank you for quickly helping me find him.

Then after this thought process, when you see your child, your only response would be appreciation, and that seems like a better option for all the individuals involved.

For troublemaker or reactor

It will take a little more attention and contemplation after the fact to recognise and heal the causes of the triggers to completely remove this squatter. But by then, by initiating conscious breathing as soon as you sense his presence, you can prevent the Reactor from being out of control.

As with the Worrier, the thoughts or feelings of the Reactor trigger the fight or flight response. It would be the same with the physiological signs of his presence. You should be able to tell the difference between anxiety, rage, irritation, or pain with a little focus.

I’m sure you’ve heard the suggestion to count to ten when you get angry. Well if you breathe consciously during that time, you can make those ten seconds much more productive.

Conscious breathing is as easy as it sounds… just be aware of your breathing. Pay attention to the air that comes in and comes out.

Via your nose, breathe in:

Feel the air in your nostrils going in.
Feel the lungs expanding and overflowing.
Concentrate on your growing belly.
Via your nose, breathe out:

Feel the lungs emptying out.
Concentrate on your dropping abdomen.
Feel the air coming out of the nostrils.
For as long as you want, do this. If you like, quit the situation. This offers time for the adrenaline to normalise. Now with a calmer, more realistic outlook, you will approach the problem and prevent destructive actions, and you will be more in control of your emotions.

One of the problems this squatter triggers is that it adds to the problems of the sleep depriver. You will decrease reactionary activity by evicting or at least regulating the reactor, which will eliminate the need for rehashing and ruminating that might prevent you from falling asleep.

Master your mind and stop you and your relationships from adding tension to the Reactor!

For Sleep Depriver

(They, along with the Inner Critic and the Worrier, are made up of the Inner Planner, the Rehasher, and the Ruminator.)

There was a very common issue I was plagued with not being able to turn my mind off at bedtime. This weakness stopped me from falling asleep and thus from having the sleep of a restful and restorative night.

Here’s how I conquered my mind and the Sleep Depriver and all of his cronies were evicted.

I started by concentrating on my breathing, paying attention to my belly’s rise and fall, but that did not hold the thoughts out for long. Then I came up with a substitute solution that prevented uncontrolled thought, imagining the word when breathing in and thinking the word when breathing out.
To fit the duration of my breath, I would and do) elongate the word. I turn back to in, out when I find myself wondering.
I’m still thinking about this strategy, sort of, but the wheels are no longer spinning out of control. I have power over my thoughts and mind, and I choose silence. I started to yawn after just a couple of cycles from the first time I tried this process, and I’m usually asleep within ten minutes.

I bring an improvement in focus to very rough nights by keeping my eyes in a look-up role (closed, of course).

I look for my third eye sometimes but that hurts my eyes.

If you’re having trouble falling asleep because you can’t shut your mind off, I highly suggest that you try this process. Each night, I still use it. Tonight, you should start sleeping better!

This form can also be used any time you want to:

If you wake up too fast, fall back to sleep!
Shut the thoughts down
Calm the emotions
Focusing simply on the present moment

Conclusion :

Your mind is an instrument, and it can be used for constructive purposes or destructive purposes, like any other instrument.

You can choose unwanted, undesirable, and harmful tenants to invade your mind, or you can choose desirable tenants, such as harmony, appreciation, compassion, affection, and joy.

Your mind can become your best friend, your greatest supporter, and someone you can count on and allow yourself to be there. You should get your thoughts under control. The selection is yours!

How to be Successful by Forgiving All?

I used to hate any cliché about forgiveness that exists.
It seems that forgiveness is like the greatest betrayal to our very own selves. After what has happened to us, we don’t want to give up the fight for justice. We want blood for blood, and it is our ego that is burning and giving birth to red hot rage and toxicity right in the middle of this situation that begins to pump throughout our system.

Rage becomes an intrinsic part of the body and makes us oblivious to the fact that harm has already been done and things can not be resolved by revenge. By repeating the scenario of what has happened to us and continuing to feed the fire raging inside us, we hurt ourselves every day. Let me tell you that this is just your anger speaking and remember that wishing pain and suffering for anyone can not bring you the treasure of surreal happiness. We all want peace and think that if we see the person suffering who once made us suffer, our mind and soul will calm.

It won’t wash away the pain of what’s happened to you and give you immediate peace, so try to forgive, but it’s one of the key tools that can help you survive the long, uphill peace fight.
Forgiveness is a selfish thing to do because, because of what has happened to us, it means getting ready to stand up on our feet, take the control back into our hands and refuse to live a miserable existence. It means giving up hope for a different past and heading into the future path of glowing and rising bravely and optimistically.
As everybody makes mistakes, forgive others and yourself and that is what makes us human. Every day, we are mere creatures doing our best, fighting our own battles to create a better world for us.

Don’t forget to forgive yourself when forgiving others as well. Since you are also a hero and, however, in shining armour, you are your very own knight.

Today, forgive yourself for the ways that you have chosen to struggle through your suffering. Your instinct of survival that developed when you were unable to control your pain and hurt, doesn’t make you a bad human being. As you have done everything you can think of and managed to survive and find your way back to life, it makes you stronger and courageous.


Forgive yourself for changing your mind about the things that were your ultimate dream target you once believed were. In an ever-growing world, we all live and get to learn something new about people and different things every day. So it’s our responsibility to forgive ourselves for having the self-awareness of some very big things to change our minds.

Forgive yourself for not being enough loving. Often in your life, there may be someone who is willing to give up everything for you and do his / her best every day to give you everything, but even though you forced yourself to, you still can’t love them. Love is something that can’t be pushed into being, it’s something that automatically flourishes. So don’t feel bad, because you deserve the love that sparks your soul and brings sunshine to your life , making it fun and easy to give and take.


Forgive yourself for all the chances that you haven’t taken and all the things that you haven’t written. Anything to do or say is never too late. So get up and go to that destination, make that call and send that I miss you text because it’s never too late and trust me that God has his own thing for the best to work out.

And eventually, resolve to forgive yourself and others for all the mistakes we haven’t made yet and we’re going to mess up again and maybe bigger than we’ve done before, but we’re going to get to know something different and bigger than the previous one as well. Life is too short to sit and waste your energy hating someone in one place and in one condition. Make space for more mistakes, step and forgive out of your comfort zone. As there are a lot of encounters waiting for you to be experienced and a lot of faces to be kissed that wait to love you more than you could have expected, move on and love more people. So take and forgive a step forward.