happiness | My Solution

A strong tree is not strong because it has stronger branches, but deep down in the earth it has the strongest roots and that is why a tree can not be extirpated.
As every other tree, however, our personality is only a branch, while our emotions are the roots of our minds. The more feedback we provide to our thinking, the deeper the roots become. The key compost to our roots is ‘showing off to strengthen and extend its space and cover the full portion of our thought process. These secret and silent mechanisms make us so miserable that the root cause of our misery is scarcely found. Do we fail to know, do we not even come to understand why we suffer? And that’s why, by blaming other people for their inner pain, most of us find the explanation outside the universe! Isn’t it ridiculous and funny?

But that is the way that it is…
We live in a world in which we are surrounded by people whose main aim is to show off their lives! They pretend and project all the time that what they have done is remarkable. How much they’ve won is just amazing. They also want to demonstrate how to relax their lives by spending enormous cash on luxury and comfort, and how happy they are. And they have to run like Bolt, think like Jobs, behave like Ambani, and work like a machine to become richer and wealthier to retain this so-called position. And they think that what they were yesterday, today or tomorrow, can’t be the same. They need to keep upgrading their status from now on so that people can never mark them a loser!

It means that by worrying about what others think about them, they live every single moment of their life! That’s why they make sure that no one can regard them as an average man, who has decoded the true meaning of happiness, who understands the life process, and who knows the ultimate purpose of his life.
These people have a world of their own, where they are the rulers and creators of their own lives. Only to appease their subtle ego, they receive nothing but the admiration of others. They don’t believe it is worth living unless and until individuals don’t appreciate their accomplishments. That is why they never admire themselves unless they are not respected by people. Slow & steady, they become so reliant on others that they constantly need to praise and remind them how superior you are to one or the other person around them. Yet they know, the one who praises is only trying to trick him, and yet, this lie is recognised as a universal fact!

But the truth is a mystery that can not be solved until the mental state of acceptance and denial is achieved. In the circle of greed, ego and desire, the acceptance of being no one and ignorance of others, especially those who make us predictable fools and bind us. A wise person can maybe sacrifice his integrity just to fulfil his ego’s never-ending appetite. As the ego builds a circle of greed and wishes, as it is satisfied, the essence of desire is to extend further. We have to accept the very simple fact that suffering is the product of ego and desire. As long as they remain and grow, the ego of self and desire for praise induces pain in each one of our lives. That’s why we should obey Bhagavad Gita’s teachings, which clarify that unless we surrender the meaning of I, which is nothing but Ahamkara, harmony can not be attained.

Well mean is something that carries harsh words and straight forward is what carried a fact, the only difference is that mean can hurt a lot and can not be forgotten while the truth can be spoken in a respectful manner straight forward.

I can’t speak for other people, but there is a huge difference, I think, between being easy and being mean.

I know a few straightforward people, and I enjoy their company, actually. Since they say what’s on their mind, and between the lines, you don’t need to guess their purpose. Communication makes it simple. They make it really clear that they’re not happy or they’re not happy about something and they tell you why. They even express their happiness very frankly when they’re excited about something. They express their gratitude with their entire heart when you help them out. They point it out when you make a mistake and ask you to make a improvement.

In the other hand, a mean person is bitter and manipulative. To belittle and injure other people, they hide behind “honesty” or “being straightforward.” They exploit the feelings of other people to get what they want. They blame other people for their mood when they’re not happy; when other people help them out, they always take the credit and never say thank you unless they really had to; they make a mistake, they laugh at you; they tell you that you did something good, they tell you that you’re never going to compare with them. They’re too greedy that they’re never going to consider the chance that someone could be better than them. They just hurt people intentionally: by their words and by their behaviour. If they’re telling the truth, it ought to be about bringing people down. They’re just talking to submissive individuals to tell them how much control they have. For their own gain, they just alter their claims.

But they’ll play the victim when you rat them out, asking you to embrace their “honesty.”
I do not hate straightforward people, I do not like manipulative and cruel people with “honesty” hiding their spite. Typically I stay quiet when a person exhibits a mean behaviour in front of me. I don’t want to demonstrate animal behaviour as an person,