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Adopt a Different Personality to be Successful

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Same person, same process, same action producers same results. If you want to get an extra ordinary result you have to become an extraordinary person. Any type of result is highly related with the person who is acting for that result. To get a different result you have to replace the man who is producing those malicious results.

But how can you replace yourself ? Ok then replace your head and places someone other’s head just like Ganesha( a Hindu God whose head was amputed by lord Shani but kind lord Shiva placed an elephant’s head over Ganesha’s neck). Still not possible ! Then I can’t help you. You have to change your head to be successful in life. Indirectly I am asking you to change your mind. If your mind changes for better then your whole office will automatically change.

Changing Your Mind

Changing your mind is not an easy task as you are habituated to do the same things that you have been doing for a long period of time. Bad habits are created effortlessly but erasing a bad habit requires a strong will power. Generating a good habit requires a high degree of commitment but uninstalling a good habit can be done in seconds just like uninstalling an app from our mobile. I have read many books on the topic Habit. Initially I have found these books helpful for changing my habits but after a few days my old habits pulled me towards it just like a magnet pulls a piece of iron. Who is the culprit here? Certainly my mind. So I decided to change my mind to incorporate new patterns and disapprove old behaviours in my life. This decision changed my destiny. Here are some tips on how to change your mind.

1. Strong Sentimental reason

An emotion is a physiological and mental feeling state that directs our attention and governs our behavior. Stronger the emotional reason to change, quicker will there be the behavioral change. So ask yourself, “Why I want to change my mentality?” If your answer is because I want to become rich then it can’t motivate you. But if your answer is “I want to take revenge for something” or ” I want to prove my ex girlfriend that I am the best.” then these answers will force you to remain motivated lifelong. Your answer should not be materialistic but it should be highly emotional.

A Man angry and annoyed with something
Highly emotional

2. Do it right now

Starting means half done. Early bird catches the worm. Idle brain is devil’s workshop. Don’t allow your brain to be idle. Start immediately. But, “how can you start everything right now?”Prioritise your work and do each work simultaneously. This is the most important habit one has to cultivate to change his personality. This single behaviour has power to change your entire destiny. So I name this behaviour as anti-procrastination pattern of a successful entity.

Is it difficult to follow? If you are not in a mood to do anything, start cleaning your study table, rearrange your books and clothes, DO SOMETHING USEFUL but don’t keep your brain idle. There are some useless work like chatting with friends, watching TV , watching social media posts in mobile and more. AVOID USELESS WORK.

3. Practice, Practice and Practice

Picture of Bruce Lee and his quote
Famous Quote of Bruce Lee

If you drive a car for the first time, you will learn something on driving. If you try it for the second time your driving skill will somewhat improve. But if you drive it hundred times, you will be an expert in driving that car. Again if you abstain yourself from driving for six months, your calibre in driving that car will decrease.

To be a master of any skill requires a lot of practice that can not be done in one or two days. Also to hold that mastered skill for the lifetime, one has to practice that skill on regular intervals.

In an interview, Mr Sachin Tendulkar (Indian cricket player) told the interviewer that he used to face 500 balls in net practice, everyday without missing a single day in a year for the last 17 years at sharp 6am morning.

By practice your skills improves. Only learning a skill is not important but to practice the skill over and over again is the vital thing needed to become it’s master.

Repeating a task again and again! Is it difficult or easy?

4. Do your Best

No one is perfect and perfection cannot be reached because there is always a room for a work to be done in a better way. The only thing we can do is to give our 100% effort to do our best.

This mentality to do our best should not be limited to our profession but it should be executed to every walks of life. If you are playing then do your best in playing that game. If you are cleaning your room then do your best to clean that room. If you are in office then do your best to do your duty sincerely, etc etc.

Creating a habit of doing best you can is nothing but doing every thing with care and passion.

5. Keep Yourself updated

Electric bill payment – on time, Attending seminar – on time, Hair cutting – on time, Professional task submission – on time, payment of house maid – on time, Your dream project task – on time

This means that you have updated yourself. There is no pending work left aside. Creating this habit to be updated is not a difficult task but it requires a certain degree of commitment.

6. Acceptance and Forgiveness

Be a performer but don’t try to become a reformer. Your mentality won’t match with others. You will say that the glass is half full and others will say that the glass is half empty. Views of others may be completely different than yours. They are right in their point of view and you are right in your point of view. It is wise not to comment on their point of view. Never try to change their way of life instead try to accept them and forgive them from your inner heart. It is better to forget those ignorant people who never brothers about your wise suggestions. So why to quarrel with others, let them live their life and you live in your own world.

Is it difficult to accept and forgive some ignorant people of your society? If you forgive someone then you can easily erase everything about that person from your mind.

7. Always be in a Hurry

If you want a task to complete early then you have to be in a hurry.When you are in a hurry you won’t loose focus over the job and when you are highly focused, the quality of the task done unconsciously improves.

Also establishing a piece of work early gives opportunity to complete other works early. This habit in turn gives the advantage to complete a huge project before the time allotted by you in your goal schedule and you will achieve quick success.

8. Produce World Class Quality

You will be in a hurry to complete your task but never compromise with the quality. It should be the best and it should be the world class. Create a famous and high quality brand name for your product and services.

Creating good quality needs huge amount of time but once you create it, it’s re – creation won’t take much.

But how to attain world class quality? You will never create something world class in the first attempt. The only thing you have to keep in mind, ” I will produce better in my next attempt.”

This mindset to improve the quality in every occasion and in every opportunity will one day reward you with the quality that is called WORLD CLASS.

9. Keep yourself busy

What am I doing now? Ask this question 100 times a day and answer it honestly without any partiality in two words. Give two option for it. 1. USEFUL WORK and 2. USELESS WORK. Hang this question along with the two answers in every wall of your living rooms and in your place of work.

If the answer is “Useful work” then it’s OK and if the answer is “Useless work” then you are not busy enough to attain the wealth of success. Tell yourself “I am an important and busy person and I don’t have time for trifles. I am changing my way right now”.

A wooden board to motivate people to start now
Motivate yourself to do it now

You should be actually busy 24*7. Show off business is a different thing. You have to be honest with yourself that you are really busy and not making a false commitment.

10. Every Step Towards Growth and Progress

Once to an interviewer, Master batsman Mr Sachin Tendulkar Said,”I play cricket, I eat cricket, I think cricket,I sleep cricket, I dream cricket, I walk cricket, and cricket cricket & cricket is in every step of my life.” The burning desire in him to grow day by day made him The God of Cricket.

Your destination is towards north but you are walking towards either east, west or south. You are never going to reach your desired place. Similarly there are many directions in your life to roam about here and there but there is only one direction that will lead you towards success. That is the direction of growth and progress in every step of your life. Neglect the trifles and follow the path of Growth. Whatever you are doing now should be directly or indirectly related to your dream Goal.

11. Tarcking your Progress

Tracking the progress can be used to keep your motivation level up. Tracking can be classified in three ways.

A girl writing in her diary tracking progress
Tracking her progress

1. Tracking with respect to time

Keep a record on how much time you have spent in each classified task. Watch, is it increasing or decreasing, which work you need more attention, which work is taking maximum time and plan how to reduce it.

2.Tracking with respect to Quantity

Keep a journal to watch the quantity of product and services you have offered to the world. Watch weather it is decreasing or increasing. Make a weekly graph to track these changes. Modify your strategy to increase your production every week.

3. Tracking with respect to Quality

Develop some criteria to judge the quality of products and services. It is better to ask the people who uses your products and services. Establish a quality control department where you can measure and approve methods to improve the quality during and after the processing of that product.

Bottom line :

If you wants to change your personality then don’t focus on changing a fixed habits one by one, change everything suddenly and spontaneously. Your time starts now. After all present time is in your hand. Please like,comment, share and Subscribe

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Grow with the Positive Attitude

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Is it half-empty or half-full your glass? You can say your views about life, about your attitude towards yourself, if you are optimistic and cynical about your response to the old question of positive thinking, and it can affect your health.

Indeed some studies suggest that personality traits like optimism and pessimism can influence many health and well-being areas. An significant part of a successful stress management is the constructive thinking typically optimistic. Moreover, successful stress management is related to various health benefits. Do not be desperate if you appear to be cynical — you will learn good thought.

A good attitude is not just sports, it’s more than that, which smiles every time on your face. It is a matter of keeping this positive outlook and attitude even in turmoil. It is also said that positive and negative thoughts do the same for your body as good or bad diet! Feed your mind and you’ll discover remarkable improvements around you.

When you begin to think optimistically, your mind will become clear and you will see the world in a different light. You’re not going to blame yourself or anyone. You control your feelings absolutely and you will try to find a precious lesson at any reversal.

Positive understanding and self-talk

Looking positively doesn’t mean that you stick your head in the sand and disregard less fun circumstances in your life. Positive thinking actually means that you are more positive and constructive about unpleasantness. You feel that the best, not the worst, will happen.

Self-talk also begins with optimistic thought. Self-discussion is a never-ending stream of untalked thoughts from your brain. These automatic thoughts can be good or bad. Any of your self-discussions come from reason and reasoning. Other self-talk can come about because of the lack of information. You create misconceptions.

If your emotions are more negative, your life outlook would be more pessimistic. You definitely are an optimist — someone who practises good ideas, if your thoughts are always positive.

The health benefits of positive thinking


The impact of positive thought and motivation on health continue to be investigated by researchers. Positive thinking health benefits may include:

Entire life improvement
Reduced depression rates
Higher distress rate
Greater tolerance to the prevalent cold
Better physical and psychological health
Better cardiovascular health and decreased cardiovascular disease risk of death
During struggles and periods of stress, stronger coping abilities.

It’s unclear why these health benefits are encountered by individuals who participate in positive thinking. One hypothesis is that maintaining a good attitude helps you to deal with stressful conditions better, which decreases the negative health effects of stress on your body.

Strong and optimistic individuals are often thought to prefer to live healthy lifestyles; they get more physical exercise, adopt a healthier diet, and do not smoke or consume alcohol in excess.

Identifying adverse thinking

Not sure whether you are positive or pessimistic about your self-talk? Some common forms of adverse self-talk include:

Filtering of.

You magnify a situation’s negative aspects and philtre out all of the good ones. You had a nice day at work, for instance. You finished your assignments in advance and were complimented for doing a simple and comprehensive job. You concentrate only on your strategy that evening to do even more tasks and forget about the congratulations you got.

Individualizing

You automatically blame yourself when something negative happens. You learn, for instance, that a friends’ evening out is postponed, and you presume that the change of plans is that no one wanted to be around you.

Catastrophization

You expect the worst immediately. The coffee shop drive-through gets your order incorrect and you immediately assume that it would be a nightmare for the rest of the day.

To polarise.

You just see stuff as either good or bad. The middle ground is not there. You feel like you’re going to have to be flawless or you’re a complete failure.
Focusing on thinking positively
You will be able to learn to transform negative thoughts into constructive thinking. The method is easy, but it takes time and practice-after all you’re developing a new habit.

Here are some ways of thinking and behaving in a more optimistic and positive way:

Identify places that should be changed.

First, define aspects of your life that you typically think negatively about whether it’s work, your daily commute or a relationship, if you want to become more motivated and engage in more positive thinking. In a more optimistic way, you can start small by concentrating on one field to approach.
Just check on yourself. Stop and analyse what you’re thinking regularly during the day. Try to find a way to put a positive spin on them if you find that your feelings are mostly negative.

Just be open to humour.

Give yourself permission, especially during difficult times, to smile or laugh. Find humour in daily activities. You feel less depressed when you can laugh at life.

Practice a safe way of life.

Go for about 30 minutes of exercise on most days of the week. During the day, you can also split it up into 10-minute blocks of time. Exercise may have a beneficial effect on mood and stress reduction. To power your mind and body, adopt a balanced diet. And master stress management strategies.

Stay with positive people

Surround yourself with individuals who are optimistic. To offer helpful advice and suggestions, make sure that those in your life are optimistic, compassionate people you can rely on. Negative individuals can increase your level of stress and cause you to question your ability to handle stress in healthy ways.

Practice self-talk positively.

Say nothing about yourself that you’re not going to say to someone else. Be patient with yourself and be positive. If a negative thought enters your mind, analyse it rationally and respond with affirmations of what is good about you. Dream about stuff in your life that you’re grateful for.
Here are some examples of detrimental self-talk and how a constructive thought twist can be applied to them:

Negative self-talk but Positive thought

I’ve never before done it. It is a chance to learn something new.

It is too complex. From a different angle, I will approach it.

I haven’t got the resources. The mother of creativity is needfulness.

To get this done, I’m too lazy. I wasn’t able to fit it into my schedule, but certain goals can be re-examined.

There isn’t any chance it’ll work. I will try to get it to work.

It’s a step too drastic. Let’s take the opportunity.

No one bothered to speak with me. I’ll see if I can open the communication channels.

In this I’m not going to get any better. I’ll give it a try again.

Here are a few more reasons why a healthy attitude should be established in life:

Gladness:

It is understood that a good attitude is connected with the feeling of happiness. A state of mind is happiness; it comes from inside and is not dependent on external influences. You will be in peace and feel satisfied when you think positively. To put it simply, you can be happy right now with a positive attitude… regardless of any situation you are in.

Trust Yourself:

You will start feeling better about yourself when you develop a good attitude. With more respect and affection, you will handle yourself, and this in turn will raise your levels of trust and inner strength. You will take on new challenges and emerge from your convictions that are self-limiting.

Strength in Immune system:

People are vibrant, enthusiastic and balanced with a good attitude. Positive thinking often has a beneficial impact on health; it decreases stress and increases the general well-being. Your body recovers quicker, even though you fall ill.

Focused more:

You achieve mental equilibrium through positive thought, which also allows the brain to carry out functions properly. You learn to remain focused and as a result, in difficult circumstances, you can come up with the right decisions.

To cultivate a healthy mindset by training the mind:

A perfect way to train the mind to think positively is to repeat positive affirmations. On a regular basis, reading inspirational and inspiring quotes will help you conquer negative thoughts and instil in you a sense of hope.
Tackle things with a good outlook when some negative occurrence happens and strive to learn an optimistic lesson from it.

Practicing everyday constructive thought

Don’t plan to become an optimist overnight if you happen to have a gloomy outlook. But with practise, there will gradually be less self-criticism and more self-acceptance in your self-talk. The world around you can therefore become less critical of you.

You’re more able to cope with daily pressures in a more positive way when your state of mind is usually optimistic. The capacity can contribute to the health benefits of positive thinking that are commonly observed.

Know, your emotions and actions are dictated by your ideas. So if a negative thought comes to your mind, replace it with a positive one immediately. Even if you are in a desperate state of affairs, you can comfortably float through the tough process with a positive outlook.
Resolve to be content, no matter what the situation is like. If things do not work in your favour, instead of stressing, work with a positive attitude towards your goals and you will soon see impressive results!

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Long Term Concentration is the Key Factor to Succeed

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The ability to concentrate has become uncommon in an increasingly fast-paced environment with new trends and an abundance of data. A typical thing today is the ever-ringing sound of alerts and plenty of distractions. Practicing mindfulness and self-control has become more important than ever.

According to the American Psychological Association’s 2017 report, always being accessible on an electronic device will lead to higher levels of stress, affecting our performances negatively. Most of our engagements and classes occur online as a student during Covid hours, which made me wonder how to avoid distractions from stealing my attention.

That is how Deepika Rathore came across me.
Deepika Rathore is a sniper who is accomplished. As she mentions, all that makes all the difference for us is about the thoughts you think and why you think them.”

Along with concentration, one needs the commitment to accomplish their goals. We need to see, practise, and dream about it which encourages us to remain focused on the tasks that we want to accomplish. In order to ensure that they stay inspired, people like to place sticky notes or posters that they can look at each day. How to persevere amid setbacks is another significant factor. We are all programming ourselves to win, but the results may be very different.

Our minds are always clouded by nervousness and a desire to succeed and make us lose track of our thoughts.

In three distinct ways, the human mind struggles with focus.

The fear of not being good enough: we should learn to believe that for general satisfaction and remarkable achievement, the way we are is adequate. It is more critical that we aspire to do better every day than to try to be the best version of ourselves.

Distracting future thoughts: we overwhelm ourselves with thoughts such as What if life doesn’t go as we expected? It can be more satisfying to concentrate on the undemanding present in which our desires and emotions are acknowledged than to chase after what is not yet there. More frequently, we should ask ourselves: how can I work with what I’ve got at the moment?

Frustrations about the lack of time: In the present world, there are infinite choices to choose from, so it is important to start prioritising. As well as that, the more prospects there are, the more, i.e., prioritising away, there is to refrain from.

Focus is an essential and dynamic feature of our minds. Our mind is continuously processing information, but information filtering is a skill that requires practise.

Choosing the right thoughts is crucial and learning to notice the troubling thoughts as our minds can only concentrate solely on one thing at a time. Focusing on a totally neutral thought, a painting, a key holder, like a leaf on a tree, will help us return to the present moment and knock the troubling thoughts out of our heads.

We need to learn to direct our attention inward into our inner heart, goals, and feelings to achieve long-term concentration, which does not require continuous input from outside sources.

Emphasis is all connected with the desire to understand, synthesise and guide our lives in the right direction. It is easy to feel lost and out of control, with machines becoming increasingly intelligent and capable.

The art of concentration must be practised and these experiences shared with the coming generations, who will live in a very different age.