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Adopt a Different Personality to be Successful

Same person, same process, same action producers same results. If you want to get an extra ordinary result you have to become an extraordinary person. Any type of result is highly related with the person who is acting for that result. To get a different result you have to replace the man who is producing those malicious results.

But how can you replace yourself ? Ok then replace your head and places someone other’s head just like Ganesha( a Hindu God whose head was amputed by lord Shani but kind lord Shiva placed an elephant’s head over Ganesha’s neck). Still not possible ! Then I can’t help you. You have to change your head to be successful in life. Indirectly I am asking you to change your mind. If your mind changes for better then your whole office will automatically change.

Changing Your Mind

Changing your mind is not an easy task as you are habituated to do the same things that you have been doing for a long period of time. Bad habits are created effortlessly but erasing a bad habit requires a strong will power. Generating a good habit requires a high degree of commitment but uninstalling a good habit can be done in seconds just like uninstalling an app from our mobile. I have read many books on the topic Habit. Initially I have found these books helpful for changing my habits but after a few days my old habits pulled me towards it just like a magnet pulls a piece of iron. Who is the culprit here? Certainly my mind. So I decided to change my mind to incorporate new patterns and disapprove old behaviours in my life. This decision changed my destiny. Here are some tips on how to change your mind.

1. Strong Sentimental reason

An emotion is a physiological and mental feeling state that directs our attention and governs our behavior. Stronger the emotional reason to change, quicker will there be the behavioral change. So ask yourself, “Why I want to change my mentality?” If your answer is because I want to become rich then it can’t motivate you. But if your answer is “I want to take revenge for something” or ” I want to prove my ex girlfriend that I am the best.” then these answers will force you to remain motivated lifelong. Your answer should not be materialistic but it should be highly emotional.

A Man angry and annoyed with something
Highly emotional

2. Do it right now

Starting means half done. Early bird catches the worm. Idle brain is devil’s workshop. Don’t allow your brain to be idle. Start immediately. But, “how can you start everything right now?”Prioritise your work and do each work simultaneously. This is the most important habit one has to cultivate to change his personality. This single behaviour has power to change your entire destiny. So I name this behaviour as anti-procrastination pattern of a successful entity.

Is it difficult to follow? If you are not in a mood to do anything, start cleaning your study table, rearrange your books and clothes, DO SOMETHING USEFUL but don’t keep your brain idle. There are some useless work like chatting with friends, watching TV , watching social media posts in mobile and more. AVOID USELESS WORK.

3. Practice, Practice and Practice

Picture of Bruce Lee and his quote
Famous Quote of Bruce Lee

If you drive a car for the first time, you will learn something on driving. If you try it for the second time your driving skill will somewhat improve. But if you drive it hundred times, you will be an expert in driving that car. Again if you abstain yourself from driving for six months, your calibre in driving that car will decrease.

To be a master of any skill requires a lot of practice that can not be done in one or two days. Also to hold that mastered skill for the lifetime, one has to practice that skill on regular intervals.

In an interview, Mr Sachin Tendulkar (Indian cricket player) told the interviewer that he used to face 500 balls in net practice, everyday without missing a single day in a year for the last 17 years at sharp 6am morning.

By practice your skills improves. Only learning a skill is not important but to practice the skill over and over again is the vital thing needed to become it’s master.

Repeating a task again and again! Is it difficult or easy?

4. Do your Best

No one is perfect and perfection cannot be reached because there is always a room for a work to be done in a better way. The only thing we can do is to give our 100% effort to do our best.

This mentality to do our best should not be limited to our profession but it should be executed to every walks of life. If you are playing then do your best in playing that game. If you are cleaning your room then do your best to clean that room. If you are in office then do your best to do your duty sincerely, etc etc.

Creating a habit of doing best you can is nothing but doing every thing with care and passion.

5. Keep Yourself updated

Electric bill payment – on time, Attending seminar – on time, Hair cutting – on time, Professional task submission – on time, payment of house maid – on time, Your dream project task – on time

This means that you have updated yourself. There is no pending work left aside. Creating this habit to be updated is not a difficult task but it requires a certain degree of commitment.

6. Acceptance and Forgiveness

Be a performer but don’t try to become a reformer. Your mentality won’t match with others. You will say that the glass is half full and others will say that the glass is half empty. Views of others may be completely different than yours. They are right in their point of view and you are right in your point of view. It is wise not to comment on their point of view. Never try to change their way of life instead try to accept them and forgive them from your inner heart. It is better to forget those ignorant people who never brothers about your wise suggestions. So why to quarrel with others, let them live their life and you live in your own world.

Is it difficult to accept and forgive some ignorant people of your society? If you forgive someone then you can easily erase everything about that person from your mind.

7. Always be in a Hurry

If you want a task to complete early then you have to be in a hurry.When you are in a hurry you won’t loose focus over the job and when you are highly focused, the quality of the task done unconsciously improves.

Also establishing a piece of work early gives opportunity to complete other works early. This habit in turn gives the advantage to complete a huge project before the time allotted by you in your goal schedule and you will achieve quick success.

8. Produce World Class Quality

You will be in a hurry to complete your task but never compromise with the quality. It should be the best and it should be the world class. Create a famous and high quality brand name for your product and services.

Creating good quality needs huge amount of time but once you create it, it’s re – creation won’t take much.

But how to attain world class quality? You will never create something world class in the first attempt. The only thing you have to keep in mind, ” I will produce better in my next attempt.”

This mindset to improve the quality in every occasion and in every opportunity will one day reward you with the quality that is called WORLD CLASS.

9. Keep yourself busy

What am I doing now? Ask this question 100 times a day and answer it honestly without any partiality in two words. Give two option for it. 1. USEFUL WORK and 2. USELESS WORK. Hang this question along with the two answers in every wall of your living rooms and in your place of work.

If the answer is “Useful work” then it’s OK and if the answer is “Useless work” then you are not busy enough to attain the wealth of success. Tell yourself “I am an important and busy person and I don’t have time for trifles. I am changing my way right now”.

A wooden board to motivate people to start now
Motivate yourself to do it now

You should be actually busy 24*7. Show off business is a different thing. You have to be honest with yourself that you are really busy and not making a false commitment.

10. Every Step Towards Growth and Progress

Once to an interviewer, Master batsman Mr Sachin Tendulkar Said,”I play cricket, I eat cricket, I think cricket,I sleep cricket, I dream cricket, I walk cricket, and cricket cricket & cricket is in every step of my life.” The burning desire in him to grow day by day made him The God of Cricket.

Your destination is towards north but you are walking towards either east, west or south. You are never going to reach your desired place. Similarly there are many directions in your life to roam about here and there but there is only one direction that will lead you towards success. That is the direction of growth and progress in every step of your life. Neglect the trifles and follow the path of Growth. Whatever you are doing now should be directly or indirectly related to your dream Goal.

11. Tarcking your Progress

Tracking the progress can be used to keep your motivation level up. Tracking can be classified in three ways.

A girl writing in her diary tracking progress
Tracking her progress

1. Tracking with respect to time

Keep a record on how much time you have spent in each classified task. Watch, is it increasing or decreasing, which work you need more attention, which work is taking maximum time and plan how to reduce it.

2.Tracking with respect to Quantity

Keep a journal to watch the quantity of product and services you have offered to the world. Watch weather it is decreasing or increasing. Make a weekly graph to track these changes. Modify your strategy to increase your production every week.

3. Tracking with respect to Quality

Develop some criteria to judge the quality of products and services. It is better to ask the people who uses your products and services. Establish a quality control department where you can measure and approve methods to improve the quality during and after the processing of that product.

Bottom line :

If you wants to change your personality then don’t focus on changing a fixed habits one by one, change everything suddenly and spontaneously. Your time starts now. After all present time is in your hand. Please like,comment, share and Subscribe

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Habit| Pattern creation |Sticking multiple behaviours

Habits offers a validated basis for change-every day, regardless of the goals. In this context I have shared practical strategies that will teach you precisely how to construct healthy habits, break bad habits, and control small behaviours.

If you find it hard to change your habits, you’re not going to have a problem. The problem is your system. Bad habits do not repeat themselves because, only because you have the wrong method of adjustment, you do not want to change. You aren’t up to your goals. You drop to the stage of the computer. Here, to push you to new heights, you will get a validated system.

The matter of discussion is ability to distil complex concepts into simple behaviours that are easy to implement. Here, biology, psychology, and neuroscience is applied to create an easy-to – understand guide to prevent positive habits and evil habits as the most tested hypotheses. Coveted artists, business leaders, life-saving doctors and star comedians who have made use of little science habits to master their crafts and vault to the increased level of their fields on the way to gold medals.

To learn how to:

Make time for new habits (even when life’s insane);

Resolve the loss of motivation and self-control;

Set and optimise success;

When you’re running off, get on track again;

Habits reshapes your perspective about success and outcomes and provides you with the resources and strategy required to produce your habits-be it a championship squad, a company hoping to redefine an industry, or just someone trying to leave, lose weight, minimise stress, or accomplish other goals.

The product of daily habits is progress, not once-in-a-lifetime changes.
You should be much more concerned with your direction of development than with your current performance. A lagging indicator of your behaviours is your observations. Your net worth is a lagging predictor of your financial habits. Your weight is one lagging predictor of your eating habits. Your experience is a lagging predictor of your learning habits. Your clutter is a lagging predictor of your cleaning habits.
You get what you repeat. Time magnifies the margin between success and failure. It will multiply whatever you feed it. Good conduct makes it your ally’s time. Bad behaviours build time for the enemy. Goals are about the performance you want to get. Systems are about mechanisms that contribute to certain results. If you want to guess where you’re going to end up in life, all you have to do is follow the curve of small gains or slight losses, and see how your daily decisions will be multiplied by ten or twenty years down the line.

Breakthrough moments are often the product of many previous actions that build up the capacity required to bring about a drastic shift. If you find yourself struggling to build a new habit or break a poor one, it is not because you have lost the ability to.

The aim of setting objectives is to win the game. In order to continue playing the game, construction systems are intended. Goal-less thinking is true, long-term thinking. It is not about any unique accomplishment. The continual refinement and continuous improvement cycle is about it.

In the end, it is your contribution to the process that will decide your results. Patterns are the combined interest in self-improvement. In the long run, having 1 percent better accounts for a lot every day. Habits are a double-edged sword. They can work for you or against you, which is why knowing the details is crucial. Minor changes sometimes appear to make no difference until you cross a vital threshold. The most successful results of any compounding process are delayed. You’ve got patience to use.
Then forget about setting targets if you want better results. Focus on the strategy instead.

You do not climb to the level of your ambitions. You sink to the extent you have of the systems.

Your pattern decides your identity

We want and want to make the wrong stuff improve.

We are trying in the wrong direction to change our behaviours.

There are three stages of shifting behaviour:

Changes in the observations,

Changes in the strategies,

The change in your identity.

The results are precisely what you earn. Processing is just what you do. Identity has to do with what is believed by you. The emphasis is on what you want to do with habits that are focused on performance. With identity-based habits, the emphasis is on who you want to become. The ultimate source of innate motivation is, when a habit becomes part of your daily routine.

This is a basic procedure with two steps:

Decide which sort of person you wish to be.

Prove it for yourself with small wins.

Ask yourself, “Who is the type of person that will get the result I want?” Focusing on who you want to become is the most effective way to change your behaviours, not on what you want to achieve.

How can good habits be developed?

Whenever you want change in your behaviour, ask yourself:

How do I make this obvious?

How do I find this attractive?

How do I make things simple?

How am I going to find it fulfilling?

A habit is a pattern that has been repeated enough times to become automatic. The ultimate goal of behaviour is to solve the problems of life with as little resources and effort as possible. Any habit can be broken down into a feedback loop that involves four steps:

Cue

The cue sends a bit of data to your brain to cause a behaviour. It’s a piece of information predicted by a reward. We spend a great deal of our time researching signs that predict rewards such as money and popularity, power and status, appreciation and acceptance, love and friendship, or a feeling of personal fulfilment. These pursuits, of course, often indirectly improve our chances of survival and reproductive success, which is the deeper reason behind what we do.

Craving

Cravings are the second step of the habit forming loop. They are the driving force behind every habit. Without some kind of inspiration and desire, we have no reason to act. An urge to alter your inner state is correlated with any craving

Response

The third stage is response. The response is the real habit that you carry out, which can lead to a thought or an action being made. Whether an answer depends largely on how motivated you are and how much pressure is associated with the activity. If for a particular action there is more physical or mental effort required than you are willing to consider, then you will not do it. Your answer depends on your abilities as well. It sounds simple, but such a habit can grow only if you are able to do it.

Reward

Finally, the response produces a reward. Rewards are the end result of any habit. Rewards, by themselves, offer advantages. Next, food and water have the resources that you need to live. More money and gratitude is offered by getting a boost. Getting in shape improves your wellbeing and your dating chances. But the more immediate benefit is that incentives satisfy your need to consume or gain status or gain acceptance. Rewards, at least for a moment, provide contentment and relief from desire.
Second, incentives teach us which acts are worth remembering in the future. Your brain is a reward detector. Your sensory nervous system is actively tracking the actions that satisfy your needs as you go about your life and provide satisfaction. Pleasure and feelings of dissatisfaction are part of the mechanism of input that helps the brain to distinguish useful activity from useless behaviour. Rewards close the feedback loop and end the cycle of behaviours.

New Habit Formation

A fundamental collection of rules that we can use to build healthy behaviours is

Begin with an incredibly small habit

They say things like, “I just need more motivation,” or “I wish I had as much willpower as you do,” while new habits are not formed by most people.

That is an incorrect answer here. Research shows that willpower is like a muscle. It gets tiring when you use it during the day. Another way of thinking about this is that the drive ebbs and flows. It rises and falls.

Resolve this dilemma by choosing a new habit that is clear enough that you don’t need motivation to do it. Instead of starting with 5 km of running per day, start with half a km of running per day. Instead of trying to read the entire book every day, begin by reading one page per day. Keep it quick enough that you’ll get it finished without motivation.

Elevate the habit in very small ways

One percent gains add up surprisingly rapidly. As do one-percent rises.

Rather than attempting to do something spectacular from the beginning, start small and gradually expand. Along the way, your willpower and encouragement will strengthen, making it much easier to stick to your habit for good.

When you build up, break habits into pieces.

If you manage to add one percent a day, you will find yourself rising very quickly within two or three months. It is important to keep each habit logical, so that you can sustain momentum and make the behaviour as easy as possible to accomplish.

Building up to 5kms running? Second, split it into 1-km segments.

An effort to read fifty pages a day? Five sets of 10 are going to be much easier as you make your way there.

Get back on track easily after you break up

High performers make errors, commit mistakes, and get off track, just like everyone else. The difference is that, as soon as possible, they get back on track.

Current research has shown that if you break your habit, regardless of when it occurs, it does not have a measurable impact on your long-term success. Rather than aiming to be perfect, drop the all-or-nothing mentality.

You need not expect to fail, but you should prepare for failure. Take some time to consider what would discourage the habit from happening. What items are there that are likely to get in your way? What are those occasional catastrophes that are likely to drag you off course? How do you intend to work on these issues? Or how, at least, can you quickly bounce back from them and get on track again?

It’s just that you’ve got to be reliable, not impeccable. Focus on developing the persona of someone who would never lose a habit twice.

Be reliable and stick with a speed you can sustain.

Be reliable and stick with a speed you can sustain.

Maybe, learning to be patient is the most valuable skill of all. You will make enormous progress if you are persistent and patient.

If you are gaining weight in the gym, you should probably go slower than you thought. When you add daily sales calls to your business strategy, you should probably start with less than you expect to handle. Patience, that’s it. Do things that benefit you.

New habits should feel straightforward, especially in the beginning. If you stay consistent and keep developing your habit, it will get difficult enough, quick enough.

Numerous behaviours stacking

Stacking a habit is a particular form of exercise. Instead of combining the new habit with a specific period, you merge it with an established habit.

The standard formula for stacking is:

I ‘m going to [NEW HABIT] after / before [CURRENT HABIT].

Examples here are:

I’ll meditate on it for a minute after pouring my coffee each morning.

I will switch to my working clothes immediately after I remove my work shoes.

I’ll mention one thing I’m grateful for, after I sit down for dinner today.

I’ll give a kiss to my partner when I get to bed at night.

How long will it take and how long will it take after I put on my running shoes, I’ll teach my friend or family Member.

You have already developed your current patterns into your brain. It works so well again. Again. For several years, you have improved habits and behaviours. By linking behavior patterns to a cycle that is already formed in your mind you are more likely to embrace new behaviment.

You will begin to create huge batteries together by chaining smaller comportaments if you master this fundamental structure. This allows you to take advantage of a dynamism that leads to another action.

A Mean and Straight Forward Person

Well mean is something that carries harsh words and straight forward is what carried a fact, the only difference is that mean can hurt a lot and can not be forgotten while the truth can be spoken in a respectful manner straight forward.

I can’t speak for other people, but there is a huge difference, I think, between being easy and being mean.

I know a few straightforward people, and I enjoy their company, actually. Since they say what’s on their mind, and between the lines, you don’t need to guess their purpose. Communication makes it simple. They make it really clear that they’re not happy or they’re not happy about something and they tell you why. They even express their happiness very frankly when they’re excited about something. They express their gratitude with their entire heart when you help them out. They point it out when you make a mistake and ask you to make a improvement.

In the other hand, a mean person is bitter and manipulative. To belittle and injure other people, they hide behind “honesty” or “being straightforward.” They exploit the feelings of other people to get what they want. They blame other people for their mood when they’re not happy; when other people help them out, they always take the credit and never say thank you unless they really had to; they make a mistake, they laugh at you; they tell you that you did something good, they tell you that you’re never going to compare with them. They’re too greedy that they’re never going to consider the chance that someone could be better than them. They just hurt people intentionally: by their words and by their behaviour. If they’re telling the truth, it ought to be about bringing people down. They’re just talking to submissive individuals to tell them how much control they have. For their own gain, they just alter their claims.

But they’ll play the victim when you rat them out, asking you to embrace their “honesty.”
I do not hate straightforward people, I do not like manipulative and cruel people with “honesty” hiding their spite. Typically I stay quiet when a person exhibits a mean behaviour in front of me. I don’t want to demonstrate animal behaviour as an person,