Many individuals seem to be born with a reasonably large share of faith. After they are knocked down, they tend to bounce along with a robustness that creates envy and spring back up. The good news is that you too, can establish trust. It doesn’t matter if you lack it as you continue to focus on growing it over time, it is always yours to learn now.
Part of the process of growing into ourselves is learning how to create trust. Here is how your faith can be established.
Connecting to yourself
Confidence and connection go together because, when we are real, we are most confident. We’re not trying to be someone else, appease others or live a should” dictated life.
When we are true to ourselves, we build and emit faith. Get clear about your intent and your beliefs, to be real. Trying to represent other people’s meaning and ideals can leave you feeling cheap and false.
Tell yourself what the things you really feel you need and want are.
Ask yourself what you want your legacy to be and for what you want to be remembered-by individuals you meet and individuals you only briefly associate with.
Authenticity is extremely desirable to some as well. When you start getting positive input from people who respect the real you, a positive cycle will begin where your confidence strengthens how you are viewed by others and the perception of others increases your trust.
Open up to the world and make yourself curious about what’s going on around you. We become lifelong learners as we become curious, which helps to silence our inner critics.
We are not working out of anxiety, fear, or concern with the learner present. We are less likely to get our thoughts, aspirations, or plans shut down.
Building trust relies upon transparency. We find opportunities to succeed when we assume that choices exist, and that talents are to be found in challenges.
We feel comfortable knowing that we live in the land of opportunity. Hope remains, a hope of what is to come. When we create trust through development and awareness, we are energised by what can be.
Without apology, building trust includes being yourself.
It’s about walking into your glory with complete permission to be you. It’s about being accountable for but not holding back, your effects. It’s saying to yourself that as part of your everyday life, you matter and add in self-care.
Knowing that you’re relevant creates confidence. Then the question becomes how do you lean into that truth.
Developing a regular grounding practise is the perfect way to realise that you matter and ignite your sparks.
When we invite our lives to awe, wonder, and appreciation, we tap into the unique awareness that lives inside of us. Our sage self becomes connected to the rest of us and something greater is connected to the rest of us.
Another way to realise that we matter is to surround ourselves with individuals who really care for us.
Such individuals are an ongoing source of support and help you feel like the best version of yourself.
Do your utmost to maintain these kinds of positive relationships that are essential to building your trust with friends and family members.
We all make mistakes, and when you want to build trust, the trick is to learn from them rather than let them threaten your self-worth.
Fix something that needs fixing, apologise to be part of the solution for something that calls for a sincere “I’m sorry,” and then let the screw-ups go.
Going over your errors is a nice way to see where you get lost, so it doesn’t benefit you or anyone else to go over them again and again. Such self-flagellation is just detrimental to your soul.
Yourself’s repeated negative review just allows for a less-than-ideal version of you. You want to be your own kind, thoughtful teacher in order to establish trust.
Adopt the character of an ancient, wise sage who sees you as a lovely, messy human being. The sage will talk to you softly, not over-stating the lesson, and lead you with a sweet assurance to new insights that you are whole and wonderful and willing.
The cool thing about it is that this sage lives inside you. When you screw-up, sit with it and see what it has to suggest, which will help you build trust.
We skip the things that go around in our heads as we develop, that have us doubt ourselves, the thoughts that make us self-conscious, hesitate, and paralyse.
You may not think that you are talented, but the more honest reality is that in a long time, you have not tapped into your creativity, so it feels lost. If you are not an artist, it does not matter. Through our feelings, we are imaginative about how we tell a storey or a joke, organise flowers in a vase, solve a problem, or help a friend.
We want to be in our bodies and minds to create trust, to be alive in spirit, not just to examine ourselves in that noggin of ours. Trust asks us to be all in, and innovation helps to get us there.
Enjoy your days
You are confirming that you are not handling your circumstances but guiding yourself through your days by approaching your days with the mentality that there are gems to be found, and that your life is important.
Think about whether you intend on taking action. Do you respond or create? Is there an opening for humour to be brought in? What do you say yes to?
Even if the options are small, approaching things with the knowledge that you have choices and can set yourself up for success makes you feel optimistic.
Tell yourself what you need and make a list to be effective. It can have stuff like assistance, quiet time, a break, music, a deadline, a discussion.
Customize the list and don’t expect that all days or all hurdles will be served by one list.
When you decide to dance through your days and not push through them, you move from feeling like a victim to becoming the captain of your ship. Building trust depends on this viewpoint.
Take a bird’s eye view of what you think you have no power over to assist with perspective changes. Soak yourself in this vision, and ask the bird what it sees.
You’re going to see new ways of doing stuff. With wings out and the viewing point from 5,000 feet away, because of the space, experience, and compassion you put between yourself and your situation, your faith will soar.
When we shy away from disappointment, we want to stop it. We’re entering defensive mode.
Our trust is compromised by the resources, feelings, and acts that come from trying to defend ourselves from failure. We’re getting wobbly and watchful. Tightness, a contraction, is involved in vigilance. We need to grow in order to create trust.
Taking chances is the only way we can do that. We are built for growth, so the more we move from ourselves to discovering, living, and making, the more we create our confidence.
We’re stagnant without chance. We replicate, not evolve, the status quo over and over again.
Danger is a brilliant educator and forger. In defining our identity, as well as realising our dreams, he is a co-creator. Risk will as a result, create trust.
The more risks we take, when the danger does not pan out, we grow resilience. We remain tiny when trying to prevent failure.
Smallness is not what will get us where we want to go, nor will it create trust.
Never talk against yourself
To give yourself positive feedback about your acts, you should always do your best, but there is no need for judgement or harshness. With love, faith is built; not false praise, but genuine kindness that asserts and boosts.
No matter how little, don’t be shy about celebrating your victories. Trust is created by letting your body and mind take in what’s going well what you did was awesome, what’s unique about you, etc.
Set a goal
You instil a sense of purpose when you choose goals that you want to strive for, which will propel you towards the things you want to achieve. You create faith in your skills to get where you want to go while you accomplish big and small goals.
Start with short-term objectives and then establish long-term objectives. Your faith will soar as you see a better future for yourself in what you are accomplishing.
Experience and enjoy the process
Don’t get too serious about yourself. Not only would you feel more optimistic if you laugh and play while building your confidence, but you will increase your joy.
Have you found that faith spells out these steps? Try to make your own acronym list of stuff you think will help you build confidence in your everyday life if you feel creative and inspired.
When you focus on being the best version of yourself, cultivate constructive self-talk each day and be your own cheerleader. Everyone has to start somewhere so pick one of the above tips and begin your own journey of trust.