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Be the best version of yourself by self-discipline

Meaning of self-discipline

Discipline means behavioural order or code. Self-discipline refers to the very essential ability to control one’s own feelings. Self-Discipline contributes to overcoming one’s own limitations.

Life isn’t life without self-discipline. We need laws to guide us. To our elders, we have to be polite. Our seniors must be obeyed.

It’s significance

For success in life, self-discipline is most important. If we are at school or at home, discipline is a must. If we are in the workplace or in the playground, it is equally important. Without discipline, our lives, our culture, our country and even the universe will go astray. Therefore, some kind of discipline is needed everywhere. Order occurs in Nature. Even a small disorder contributes to confusion in the world of nature.

The formative days in schools and colleges: In any walk of life, self-discipline has to be taught. The best time for it is childhood. Quickly and effortlessly, the young mind discovers things. Students are encouraged to behave well at school. Their elders are taught to honour them. And in the playground, boys are taught to follow the rules of the games. Thus, student days are the most formative time in which it is possible to understand the importance of self-discipline.

Indiscipline evils

Without self-discipline, a man is just like an animal. His life and behaviour are becoming aimless. In today’s era, there is a great evil in self-discipline. In every walk of life, it is rising. The young and the elderly both do acts of lawlessness. Crimes and robberies today are on the rise. It seems like individuals have forgotten the importance of self-discipline. Over-crowding on buses and trains is very popular in India. It is also a common trait to travel without tickets. The talk of the city is student indiscipline.

Indiscipline causes

A major cause of indiscipline and discontent is lack of jobs. The problem is made even worse by overpopulation. Overcrowding induces indiscipline in schools and universities. Ultimately, poverty leads to extreme disorder, anger and indiscipline.

Self-Discipline, in truth, is a positive thing. It develops personality. It cultivates power and unity. It induces a feeling of cooperation. So Self-Discipline has to be something from childhood. In life, it is a secret to success. The higher the sense of self-discipline, the better it is for individuals and the country.

Developing the habit of self discipline

For those only starting out in life (and everyone else!), one of the most critical life skills to cultivate is the ability of self-discipline.

It’s a power house

I began to exercise and eat better, meditate and write more when I developed some self-discipline, I quit smoking and ran marathons, I started a blog, I read more and I worked earlier, I decluttered and transformed my finances. I am far from ideal, but I have learned a great deal.

But it creates problems if you don’t develop self-discipline: health issues, distraction, procrastination, financial problems, clutter, stuff piling up and distracting you, and much more.

So creating is such an essential skill, but most people don’t know where to begin. The purpose of this article is to help you get started.

I’m writing it for my kids, and for anyone else who would like to grow a superpower.

Finding inspiration

The first question is how are you even encouraged to get started? Most of us don’t want to think about our lack of discipline, let alone taking a number of steps.

The inspiration for me came from knowing that what I was doing wasn’t working. Ignoring the issues has only made matters worse. Attempting to be disciplined but doing it half-assedly just led me to feel bad about myself. Being totally undisciplined caused me a lot of pain.

You can establish a whole-hearted intention to stop harming yourself once you understand that you’re causing yourself pain. You might think, “All right, that’s enough to make my life worse.” Let’s try to make it a little worse.

You should tell yourself, with that in mind, that you are going to:

Begin to take small steps to make things easier.
Do the stuff that hurt less for you.
Push yourself a little bit into pain, but over time you can get better at this.
With some practise, get good at self-discipline.
When you train, keep these points in mind, as you get the desire not to practise, and as you make mistakes and then want to give up.

More on positive motivation

Wanting to assist others

For example, if you get better at exercising or healthy eating, you can support your elderly parents who need to do these things better. If you get better at not procrastinating on your life’s job, you can support more people with the meaningful work.

Life appreciating

Here on Earth, we have a limited time and the life we have is a blessing. We don’t completely understand the blessing we have when we procrastinate and give in to constant distractions, and don’t make the most of our time. Instead, by being present, being thankful, and being intent on how we spend our time, we will enjoy it.
We will begin to practise with these motivations, or whatever reasons move you the most.

Small acts

To get better at self-discipline, one of the most important things you can do is to take small acts. Tackling huge, intimidating projects can seem overwhelming … so don’t. Alternatively, approach basic acts, stuff so small that you can’t say no.

Got to do any taxes? Only do this for 5 minutes. Want to go running? Only 10 minutes of running. Have a paper on which to work? Only do the paragraphs for the first few. Want to go decluttering? Find just 5 things to declutter.

If you concentrate on small tasks, and split bigger projects into small tasks, you’ll get better at self-discipline.

Training for unfavourable situations

One of the reasons we don’t have self-discipline is because of the difficult, painful stuff that we flee from. We’d prefer to do simple, comfortable, familiar stuff.

So we flee to distractions, videos, games instead of facing our challenging, uncomfortable projects or finances. Our lives are destroyed by hiding from discomfort.

What you should say to yourself is that you have finished running. You are going to drive, a little at a time, into discomfort, and get good at being uncomfortable. Another of your superpowers is this. You are OK when others run (even if it’s not always fun).

Pushing yourself into pain, one little task at a time. See how it looks. See that this isn’t the world’s end. See that you are awesome enough to cope with pain, and that it is well worth the effects.

Keep impulses in mind

You’re going to have the desire to stop doing something complicated, or to put it off for now. They don’t serve you well those impulses.

Alternatively, build knowledge about certain desires, and see that you do not have to obey them.

To schedule a time for yourself where you can do nothing but X is a good way to do that. For starters, you can do nothing but write your book chapter for the next 10 minutes (or exercise, meditate, etc.). You can clearly see it when you have the desire to procrastinate or run into distractions, since you are either writing a novel, or you are not. If you have the desire to convince yourself that you can’t pursue it you will have to write a chapter in your book or sit there and do nothing.

The reason it works is that you set up a time where you do nothing but that one job, and you can see your temptation to run away. Use this to learn to keep your impulses in mind, and to see that you don’t have to obey them.

Training for intervals

You can prepare yourself using interval training if you incorporate the above items into a system of bursts, or intervals:

Set your aim to exercise self-discipline and no longer harm yourself.
Set a mission on which to concentrate (writing, drawing, strength training, meditating, etc).
Set a 10 minute timer. Also, five minutes is perfect if 10 is too long. At 10 minutes, don’t go longer until you get strong, then increase to 12 and eventually 15. I don’t think I need to go beyond 15-20 minutes, even though I kick my ass.
Do nothing but sit there and watch your urges, or drive into your discomfort by doing the job.
Give yourself a 5-minute break when the timer goes off.

Repeat the actions

You can practise for a number of cycles, or for an hour or two, theoretically. Take a longer break then, and then do another series of intervals.

This kind of interval training is great, because it’s not that intense, you just train yourself in pain and watching impulses, and you can get a lot done this way.

Focus on others

Dig into deeper motivation when you find yourself struggling: doing your work/exercise/meditation, etc not for yourself but for others.

For example:

I’m writing this article to support my children and anyone else who could benefit from it.
I work out to be safe, not only for myself but for my children and others who may benefit, as an example.
Not only do I meditate for my own healing and peace, but so that I can help others find their own healing and peace.
To inspire others, you may draw or write or play music.
You might benefit in each instance… but you’re also doing it to benefit others. And this advantage is far more motivating for others than doing something just for yourself.

Try it… try to do someone else’s difficult task. Tell them that you would do it for them in advance, and keep them in mind while you do it. See if you are getting more inspired.

Success and failure victories

A big mistake many individuals make is that they screw up and get discouraged by it. They feel bad about messing up. This causes them to give up and not want to think about self-discipline being created.

Here is the thing: failure is a success, honestly.

Failure means you’ve been trying. So it was a victory from the beginning.

But it also means that you’ve learned something now you know that what you’ve been doing didn’t really work. You can try something a little different next time. Add more responsibility, do it at a different time, unplug your wireless router, get a buddy for a workout, whatever. You have new knowledge because of your mistake. You’ve grown, and that helps you to change yourself.

Failure constitutes a success. Often, achievement is a win. You should see it as an opportunity to learn, to improve, to get better no matter what your result is.

Drop any hopes of being perfect at this and just keep trying.

Instead of letting it get you discouraged, see it as a win the next time you struggle at whatever you are trying. No matter what then keep going, because giving up is just going to hurt you even more.

Seeking aid from others

You aren’t alone in this. You have relatives, friends, strangers online who are willing to support you. By reaching out to the people around you and asking for their assistance, form a support team.

Lots of people miss this because their lack of discipline embarrasses them. They believe that shameful is the way they act. This isn’t real. We all behave like this really, but we’re just afraid to show each other that side. But the fact is if you show people your “dark side, they really love you more, they trust you more, they connect more to you. So don’t be afraid to communicate with others in a vulnerable way.

Find the confidence to ask for assistance. When you focus on getting yourself into pain and injuring yourself less then let yourself be helped.

Approaches to Stop Struggling in Life

Struggling in life is something everybody manages with from time to time. If it’s relationship disputes, financial issues, or work-related problems, we may feel like everything is just piling on top of us.

The entire universe can seem to be against you, and no matter how hard you try, things just keep getting harder. I very well appreciate those feelings.

It may not be easy, but to help yourself resolve your challenges, there are numerous things you can do. In life, try these 11 ways to avoid struggling.

1. Know what you want to get

You will be motivated to drive through adversity by getting a good picture of what you want and where you want to be. If you don’t have a good reason for what you want, you’re not going to be as inspired.

In order to excel in life, you can not hold yourself as diligent and energised as you need to be. Defining what you want to accomplish will encourage you to be more patient and not find a way to conquer your burdens.

2. Recognise the problems

Sometimes we have not been honest in acknowledging “I’m struggling” in our minds. Perhaps reading this article is the first time you have acknowledged this to yourself. This is a fantastic first step that you are taking.

Release the feelings of insecurity and doubt that you have been experiencing. In a self-care book, you can write it down, or you can just say it out loud to yourself.

Let all the stuff you’ve been dealing with on the inside go out. You might feel a release of tension once you’ve accepted it.

You will start thinking in your head, “I am tired of struggling” after getting these stuff out. Then to end your issues, you should take one more step forward.

3. Modify your viewpoint

Life isn’t about what you’re going through at the moment. It’s also the way you frame what you feel. I know a lot from my past experiences with anxiety about this.

I dropped out of college twice because when I sat in a classroom, I could not cope with the overwhelming emotions I had. My head and neck were going to get tense, I’d feel like it was hard to breathe, and I’d think the worst was about to happen.

Via counselling and other educational videos, I discovered I could feel a bit better if I changed my outlook on what I was experiencing.

It didn’t always take away the pain I felt at the moment, but it helped me get through it. One mantra I like to keep in my mind is that I’m still going to be okay no matter what I go through in life.

You may also take the view that you are made stronger by the hardships you’re going through. When you push through more unpleasant times, the older you get, the more you know you can conquer virtually everything.

As this gloomy cloud of hopelessness over you, don’t look at the tough times you’re facing. Alternatively, try to see it as a bright light of potential to become more full as a person than you’ve ever been.

4. Modify your feeling pattern

One way you can change how you feel in your fights is to change your viewpoint. You can do so in other ways by doing things that energise you.

By using as much motivation as you can to keep going forward you can make it a little bit easier to overcome those challenges you are struggling with.

Hearing music you like, consuming foods that are good for you, or doing an exercise you like, can be some simple ways you can improve your emotions and blossom your energy.

Your emotions are not just something for which you’re trapped. Feelings are flexible. Adjusting them might not always be easy, but if you do it will help inspire you to move forward in life.

5. Make distinct choices

Nevertheless the argument is more critical here. Every day, we get into a normal routine of doing the very same things. And yet, we don’t stop asking why in life, we still feel like we have trouble with things.

Perhaps if we wanted to improve our decisions in life, there might be different outcomes that would reduce our challenges.

Let’s say you drive the same route every day to work, for instance, and end up in the same morning traffic jam that you hate.

Every day of your work week you could continue to be upset with this situation, or you could make a different choice as to how you get to work.

You might go to work sooner, or you might take another path. That one small distinct option could have a profound effect on your sense of struggle in life.

There could be a lot of other small choices that you could make. You can gradually get to a point where you know you’re no longer having trouble as you build up the amount of small changes you’re making.

6. Get other people’s encouragement

No one alone can face all their problems. To get through our challenges, we all need people to listen to us and give us words of encouragement.

To help take the pressure off your shoulders, take time to talk to those you’re closest to. There are always experts or volunteers who will be able to listen to you if you don’t have many individuals you’re close to in life.

Maybe you’ll feel a lot better about how you’re doing until you get to speak to somebody and be supported.

7. Quit expecting immediate gratification

If you expect all of your issues to go away tomorrow, you’re probably going to be in for a rude awakening. With so much we’re able to get in a moment, being careful in the process is more difficult.

Just as slow and steady won the race for the rabbit, slow progress tends to make you ultimately succeed. Keep trying to make things better day by day and see how things evolve over time.

8. Refrain from accusing others

If you constantly blame others for your issues, you find it harder to take responsibility for the choices you make. It’s your preferences that have the biggest effect on how good things are for you.

You can choose to be constructive and do stuff, or you can not do something. You can choose to be upbeat and have a positive outlook, or you can be pessimistic.

Accept your part in constructing the reality that you want and do what you can to make it happen.

9. Create a blueprint

It can be a fantastic way to stop them by putting together a strategy to overcome your challenges head on. To boost your mental well-being, your physical well-being, and your situations, start thinking about what different choices you should make.

Remembering the things you will do if you write them down would be simpler for you. Set up a timeline for when you’re going to do these stuff and get started on it.

10. Maintain perseverance

Improvement in condition just doesn’t happen immediately. To stop your challenges in the long term, you have to be consistent in your new lifestyle choices.

Maybe you can motivate a friend or family member to keep you responsible for your goals. Even if you only do one little thing on a regular basis to change your life, stopping your struggles will make a big difference.

Fighting is a natural part of life. Things just get difficult sometimes, but they can get better as well. All these tips, I hope, will help you overcome your circumstances and start feeling hope and joy again in your life.

11. Don’t give up too quickly

It’s quick to get discouraged when you’re facing adversity and give up on the direction you’re heading towards. But few people, by giving up, have ever gotten what they wanted.

It is the few who have chosen not to be dissuaded, and have continued to run toward their dreams, that typically make things happen. Do not let difficulties hold you down.

Get back up right, and begin to step forward again.

How to Build Confidence and Self Belief?

Many individuals seem to be born with a reasonably large share of faith. After they are knocked down, they tend to bounce along with a robustness that creates envy and spring back up. The good news is that you too, can establish trust. It doesn’t matter if you lack it as you continue to focus on growing it over time, it is always yours to learn now.

Part of the process of growing into ourselves is learning how to create trust. Here is how your faith can be established.

Connecting to yourself

Confidence and connection go together because, when we are real, we are most confident. We’re not trying to be someone else, appease others or live a should” dictated life.

When we are true to ourselves, we build and emit faith. Get clear about your intent and your beliefs, to be real. Trying to represent other people’s meaning and ideals can leave you feeling cheap and false.

Tell yourself what the things you really feel you need and want are.

Ask yourself what you want your legacy to be and for what you want to be remembered-by individuals you meet and individuals you only briefly associate with.

Authenticity is extremely desirable to some as well. When you start getting positive input from people who respect the real you, a positive cycle will begin where your confidence strengthens how you are viewed by others and the perception of others increases your trust.

Opening up

Open up to the world and make yourself curious about what’s going on around you. We become lifelong learners as we become curious, which helps to silence our inner critics.

We are not working out of anxiety, fear, or concern with the learner present. We are less likely to get our thoughts, aspirations, or plans shut down.

Building trust relies upon transparency. We find opportunities to succeed when we assume that choices exist, and that talents are to be found in challenges.

We feel comfortable knowing that we live in the land of opportunity. Hope remains, a hope of what is to come. When we create trust through development and awareness, we are energised by what can be.

Show up

Without apology, building trust includes being yourself.

It’s about walking into your glory with complete permission to be you. It’s about being accountable for but not holding back, your effects. It’s saying to yourself that as part of your everyday life, you matter and add in self-care.

Knowing that you’re relevant creates confidence. Then the question becomes how do you lean into that truth.

Developing a regular grounding practise is the perfect way to realise that you matter and ignite your sparks.

When we invite our lives to awe, wonder, and appreciation, we tap into the unique awareness that lives inside of us. Our sage self becomes connected to the rest of us and something greater is connected to the rest of us.

Another way to realise that we matter is to surround ourselves with individuals who really care for us.

Such individuals are an ongoing source of support and help you feel like the best version of yourself.

Do your utmost to maintain these kinds of positive relationships that are essential to building your trust with friends and family members.

Forget screw-ups

We all make mistakes, and when you want to build trust, the trick is to learn from them rather than let them threaten your self-worth.

Fix something that needs fixing, apologise to be part of the solution for something that calls for a sincere “I’m sorry,” and then let the screw-ups go.

Going over your errors is a nice way to see where you get lost, so it doesn’t benefit you or anyone else to go over them again and again. Such self-flagellation is just detrimental to your soul.

Yourself’s repeated negative review just allows for a less-than-ideal version of you. You want to be your own kind, thoughtful teacher in order to establish trust.

Adopt the character of an ancient, wise sage who sees you as a lovely, messy human being. The sage will talk to you softly, not over-stating the lesson, and lead you with a sweet assurance to new insights that you are whole and wonderful and willing.

The cool thing about it is that this sage lives inside you. When you screw-up, sit with it and see what it has to suggest, which will help you build trust.

Develop creativity

We skip the things that go around in our heads as we develop, that have us doubt ourselves, the thoughts that make us self-conscious, hesitate, and paralyse.

You may not think that you are talented, but the more honest reality is that in a long time, you have not tapped into your creativity, so it feels lost[1]. If you are not an artist, it does not matter. Through our feelings, we are imaginative about how we tell a storey or a joke, organise flowers in a vase, solve a problem, or help a friend.

We want to be in our bodies and minds to create trust, to be alive in spirit, not just to examine ourselves in that noggin of ours. Trust asks us to be all in, and innovation helps to get us there.

Enjoy your days

You are confirming that you are not handling your circumstances but guiding yourself through your days by approaching your days with the mentality that there are gems to be found, and that your life is important.

Think about whether you intend on taking action. Do you respond or create? Is there an opening for humour to be brought in? What do you say yes to?

Even if the options are small, approaching things with the knowledge that you have choices and can set yourself up for success makes you feel optimistic.

Tell yourself what you need and make a list to be effective. It can have stuff like assistance, quiet time, a break, music, a deadline, a discussion.

Customize the list and don’t expect that all days or all hurdles will be served by one list.

When you decide to dance through your days and not push through them, you move from feeling like a victim to becoming the captain of your ship. Building trust depends on this viewpoint.

Take a bird’s eye view of what you think you have no power over to assist with perspective changes. Soak yourself in this vision, and ask the bird what it sees.

You’re going to see new ways of doing stuff. With wings out and the viewing point from 5,000 feet away, because of the space, experience, and compassion you put between yourself and your situation, your faith will soar.

Accept failures

When we shy away from disappointment, we want to stop it. We’re entering defensive mode.

Our trust is compromised by the resources, feelings, and acts that come from trying to defend ourselves from failure. We’re getting wobbly and watchful. Tightness, a contraction, is involved in vigilance. We need to grow in order to create trust.

Taking chances is the only way we can do that. We are built for growth, so the more we move from ourselves to discovering, living, and making, the more we create our confidence.

We’re stagnant without chance. We replicate, not evolve, the status quo over and over again.

Danger is a brilliant educator and forger. In defining our identity, as well as realising our dreams, he is a co-creator. Risk will as a result, create trust.

The more risks we take, when the danger does not pan out, we grow resilience. We remain tiny when trying to prevent failure.

Smallness is not what will get us where we want to go, nor will it create trust.

Never talk against yourself

To give yourself positive feedback about your acts, you should always do your best, but there is no need for judgement or harshness. With love, faith is built; not false praise, but genuine kindness that asserts and boosts.

No matter how little, don’t be shy about celebrating your victories. Trust is created by letting your body and mind take in what’s going well what you did was awesome, what’s unique about you, etc.

Set a goal

You instil a sense of purpose when you choose goals that you want to strive for, which will propel you towards the things you want to achieve. You create faith in your skills to get where you want to go while you accomplish big and small goals.

Start with short-term objectives and then establish long-term objectives. Your faith will soar as you see a better future for yourself in what you are accomplishing.

Experience and enjoy the process

Don’t get too serious about yourself. Not only would you feel more optimistic if you laugh and play while building your confidence, but you will increase your joy.

Ultimate thoughts

Have you found that faith spells out these steps? Try to make your own acronym list of stuff you think will help you build confidence in your everyday life if you feel creative and inspired.

When you focus on being the best version of yourself, cultivate constructive self-talk each day and be your own cheerleader. Everyone has to start somewhere so pick one of the above tips and begin your own journey of trust.

How to be The Master of Your Own Mind?

Your mind is the most important weapon you have in your life for the production of good, but it can also be the most destructive force in your life if not used correctly. Controlling your emotions means influencing the way you live your life.

More precisely, your mind, your emotions, determines your perception and thus your understanding of reality. (And here’s why the truth is your perception)

I have heard that about 70,000 thoughts a day are thought of by the average person. That’s a lot, especially if they’re self-abusive, unproductive, and just a general waste of energy.

You may as well let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It’s your mind, it’s your thoughts; is it not time to take back your power? Isn’t it time for power to take over?

Choose to be the one who thinks about your thoughts deliberately, consciously. Be someone who can control your emotions and become your mind’s master.

You will also change your emotions when you change your thoughts, and you will also remove the causes that set off those feelings. Both of these findings give your mind a greater level of calm.

I have a few thoughts currently that are not of my preference or an answer from my reprogramming. I am the master of my mind, so my mind is pretty calm now. It could also be yours!

Who cares about my thoughts?

You must understand that you are actually at the hands of many unwelcome “squatters” residing in your mind before you can become the master of your mind, and they are in charge of your thoughts.

You must know who they are and what their motive is, if you want to be their boss, and then you can take over and evict them.

In your brain, here are four of the “squatters” that build unhealthy and unproductive feelings.

1. Inner critic

This is your continuous abuser, who is also a cluster of:

The language of other people—many times your parents
Thoughts you have established based on the standards of your own or other populations
Comparing yourself with others, like those in the media
As a product of traumatic encounters like betrayal and rejection, the things you told yourself. Your understanding produces your self-doubt and self-blame, which in cases of rejection and betrayal, are most certainly undeserved.
Pain, low self-esteem, lack of self-acceptance, and lack of self-love motivate the Inner Critic.

Why else would you be abused by this individual? And because you’re this guy, why else would you abuse yourself? Why would you encourage someone to treat you this badly?

2. The worrier

In the world of what ifs,” this individual lives in the future.

The Worrier is influenced by fright, which is always unfounded and has no foundation. This individual is occasionally driven by fear that what occurred in the past would happen again.

3. The troublemaker or reactor

This is the one that induces rage, anger, and pain. Such causes originate from previous unhealed wounds. He will be set off by any event that is even remotely connected to a past wound.

Words or emotions can set this entity off and can also be set off by sounds and smells.

The Reactor has no true incentive and has weak control of impulses. He’s powered by past programming that if it ever did, no longer fits you.

4. The Sleep Depriver

This along with the internal critic and the worrier, can be a mix of any number of various squatters, including the inner planner, the rehasher, and the ruminator.

The motivation of The Sleep Depriver could be:

As an answer to the silence against which he is struggling,
Taking charge of the organisation you have forgotten throughout the day
Self-doubt, fear, low self-esteem, and generalised anxiety
For the inner critic and worrier, as indicated above
How do these squatters monitor you?

How to master the mind?

The thinker and the observer of your thinking are you. You can monitor your emotions, but you have to pay attention to them so that you can define “who is running the show, which will dictate the tool you want to use.

Start each day with the goal of paying attention to your feelings when you think unnecessary thoughts and catch yourself.

To control your emotions, there are two ways:

Technique A- Disrupt and substitute for them

Technique B- Completely eradicate them

What is known as peace of mind is this second choice.

A way of reprogramming the subconscious mind is the technique of interrupting and replacing. Eventually, in applicable circumstances, the substitution thoughts would become the go-to” thoughts.

Using Technique A with the Inner Critic and Worrier, and the Reactor and Sleep Depriver with Technique B.

For inner critic

Interrupt it when you find yourself thinking something adverse about yourself (calling yourself names, disrespecting yourself, or berating yourself).

You may in your mind) say Stop!” No!-No! or Enough! Enough!” “Now I’m in control.” Then substitute it with an opposite or counter thinking or an affirmation that starts with “I am,” whatever your negative thought is about yourself.

For instance, if your thinking is I’m such a loser,” you can substitute it with, “I am the Universal Spirit’s Divine Creation.” I am a perfect learning spiritual being to master the human experience. I am an energy, light, and matter being. I am splendid, clever, and beautiful. Just as I am, I love and approve of myself.

To discredit the ‘voice’ that produced the idea, you can also have a conversation with yourself if you know whose voice it is:

Only because I was a loser and said so-and-so doesn’t make it real. It was his or her view, not a truthful assertion. Or maybe they were kidding, and because I’m insecure, I took it seriously.

If you know that you have recurrent self-critical thoughts, your counter thoughts or reinforcement can be written down or pre-planed so that you can be ready.

If possible, this is the first squatter you can evict, forcefully:

The Worrier riles them up.
When called such names by someone the names you call yourself become triggers, but he still retains the existence of the Reactor.
When you attempt to fall asleep, they are always there, so he perpetuates the Sleep Depriver.
They are bullies and are violent verbally and emotionally.
They are self-esteem destroyers. They are persuading you that you are not worthy. They are liars! They are liars! Get them out in the name of your self-worth!

Eliminate the worst critique, and the involvement of the other three squatters will also diminish you.

Replace them with your new best friends who value your life, promote it and strengthen it. This is a presence in your mind which you like.

For worrier

Prolonged anxiety is dangerous mentally, emotionally and physically. It can have consequences for long-term health.

Fear initiates the reaction to fight or flight, causes fear in the mind, and creates anxiety in the body. This will make it harder for you to effectively regulate your thoughts.

You should be able to instinctively identify a “fearful thought” from how you feel. The physiological signals that fear’s fight or flight response has kicked in are:

Increased heart rate, hypertension, or adrenaline rush
Shallow respiration or breathlessness
Tensed muscles
To interrupt any thinking of concern and then substitute it, use the above-stated form. But this time, with thoughts of appreciation for the result you want, you will replace your thoughts of concern.

This is the time to connect with it if you believe in a higher force. An example is here:

I tell the following (I call it a prayer) instead of thinking about my loved ones travelling in bad weather:

Without warning, thank you for watching over his car and keeping it clean, road-worthy, and free of maintenance problems. Thank you for being surrounded by only clean, diligent, and alert drivers. And thank you for keeping him/her safe, alert, and diligent. Smile and word it in the present tense as you think about it or say it aloud.

These can also make you feel it and maybe even begin to believe it.

If you can imagine what you are praying for the visualisation will strengthen the feeling so that in your vibrational area, you can increase the effect.

Take a relaxing breath now, slowly through your nose, and slowly through your mouth. Take as many as you want! Do it until you feel like your emotions are close to being in control.

Replacing fearful thoughts with appreciation, taking the steam out of the reactor, will minimise reactionary actions.

For example: If your child gets lost in the mall, screaming at them is the usual parental response that accompanies the scary thoughts when discovering them.

“I told you never to leave my sight.” This response only leads to the degree of fear of the child being lost in the first place.

Plus, it also shows them that when he or she makes a mistake, mum and/or dad will get angry, which may make them lie to you or not tell you anything in the future.

When they happen, change those fearful thoughts:

Thank you for watching over my child and keeping him safe (your option of Higher Power). Thank you for quickly helping me find him.

Then after this thought process, when you see your child, your only response would be appreciation, and that seems like a better option for all the individuals involved.

For troublemaker or reactor

It will take a little more attention and contemplation after the fact to recognise and heal the causes of the triggers to completely remove this squatter. But by then, by initiating conscious breathing as soon as you sense his presence, you can prevent the Reactor from being out of control.

As with the Worrier, the thoughts or feelings of the Reactor trigger the fight or flight response. It would be the same with the physiological signs of his presence. You should be able to tell the difference between anxiety, rage, irritation, or pain with a little focus.

I’m sure you’ve heard the suggestion to count to ten when you get angry. Well if you breathe consciously during that time, you can make those ten seconds much more productive.

Conscious breathing is as easy as it sounds… just be aware of your breathing. Pay attention to the air that comes in and comes out.

Via your nose, breathe in:

Feel the air in your nostrils going in.
Feel the lungs expanding and overflowing.
Concentrate on your growing belly.
Via your nose, breathe out:

Feel the lungs emptying out.
Concentrate on your dropping abdomen.
Feel the air coming out of the nostrils.
For as long as you want, do this. If you like, quit the situation. This offers time for the adrenaline to normalise. Now with a calmer, more realistic outlook, you will approach the problem and prevent destructive actions, and you will be more in control of your emotions.

One of the problems this squatter triggers is that it adds to the problems of the sleep depriver. You will decrease reactionary activity by evicting or at least regulating the reactor, which will eliminate the need for rehashing and ruminating that might prevent you from falling asleep.

Master your mind and stop you and your relationships from adding tension to the Reactor!

For Sleep Depriver

(They, along with the Inner Critic and the Worrier, are made up of the Inner Planner, the Rehasher, and the Ruminator.)

There was a very common issue I was plagued with not being able to turn my mind off at bedtime. This weakness stopped me from falling asleep and thus from having the sleep of a restful and restorative night.

Here’s how I conquered my mind and the Sleep Depriver and all of his cronies were evicted.

I started by concentrating on my breathing, paying attention to my belly’s rise and fall, but that did not hold the thoughts out for long. Then I came up with a substitute solution that prevented uncontrolled thought, imagining the word when breathing in and thinking the word when breathing out.
To fit the duration of my breath, I would and do) elongate the word. I turn back to in, out when I find myself wondering.
I’m still thinking about this strategy, sort of, but the wheels are no longer spinning out of control. I have power over my thoughts and mind, and I choose silence. I started to yawn after just a couple of cycles from the first time I tried this process, and I’m usually asleep within ten minutes.

I bring an improvement in focus to very rough nights by keeping my eyes in a look-up role (closed, of course).

I look for my third eye sometimes but that hurts my eyes.

If you’re having trouble falling asleep because you can’t shut your mind off, I highly suggest that you try this process. Each night, I still use it. Tonight, you should start sleeping better!

This form can also be used any time you want to:

If you wake up too fast, fall back to sleep!
Shut the thoughts down
Calm the emotions
Focusing simply on the present moment

Conclusion :

Your mind is an instrument, and it can be used for constructive purposes or destructive purposes, like any other instrument.

You can choose unwanted, undesirable, and harmful tenants to invade your mind, or you can choose desirable tenants, such as harmony, appreciation, compassion, affection, and joy.

Your mind can become your best friend, your greatest supporter, and someone you can count on and allow yourself to be there. You should get your thoughts under control. The selection is yours!

How to Quit a Toxic Relationship?

It’s never as quick to learn how to leave a toxic relationship  — not particularly when you are in love with your partner.

You know just how emotionally, physically and mentally draining it can be if you’ve been in a toxic relationship. But if it is so taxing to have a toxic relationship, why is it so difficult to leave?

You’ll find out why it’s hard to leave a toxic relationship in this article and how to leave a toxic relationship for good.

Knowing if you’re in a Toxic Relationship

It’s difficult sometimes to know whether or not you are in a toxic relationship. It is also because of the manipulation of the partner-toxicity involved.

Another explanation why accepting that you’re in a toxic relationship may be challenging is that there is no external violence. You may not be hit or cross any overt sexual boundaries by your partner, but that doesn’t mean you’re in a safe relationship.

When learning how to abandon a toxic relationship, making a pro/con list can be a helpful first move.

The benefit may be that your partner makes you laugh, that you enjoy the same interests, and that you love them.

But in your present circumstances, what are the cons of being?

It’s important to be honest with yourself when you build this list. Is any of the above done by your partner?

Doesn’t provide you with privacy

Break you off from family/friends/finances

Prevents you from attending work or school

Regulation and envy

Giving all the options in your relationship

Pressures you into stuff in which you are not happy

Criticises you frequently

Is faithless

Talks to you down

Property Destroys

Sends text messages that are threatening

Invades your privacy – checks/follows you on your phone/social media

Threatens to do something bad if you get out of the relationship

Gaslights/acts as the stuff they do are not a big deal.

If you are reminded of your partner by these destructive habits, this could be the wake-up call you need to take action and get out of your dangerous relationship.

Why do toxic relationships persist with individuals?

Oxytocin is one of the key culprits. Oxytocin is a hormone produced during periods of intimacy in your body. This may involve making love with others, holding hands, hugging, or even cuddling.

It causes you to be more trusting of your partner when oxytocin is released, even when trust is not warranted. Often this sly little hormone is guilty of bonding promotion, which can make it seem difficult for your partner to quit, even though you know they’re not right for you.

Besides the influence of oxytocin, there are 5 other factors that make it hard to leave a toxic relationship:

Emotional abuse

Emotional abuse can be debilitating for everyone, leaving the person vulnerable without self-esteem, making it impossible to make a decision to start again.

Life threatening

It can be risky to leave a toxic relationship, leading to all kinds of effects, including death. Data indicates that a toxic partner kills a greater percentage of women after leaving a toxic relationship in weeks than when they stay in the relationship.

Social burden

There is always social pressure to want a relationship from friends, family members, etc This pressure only makes the situation worse.

Societal reaction

People don’t really want to confess to someone that they are going through a tough time that cuts through relationships. For fear or guilt of being blamed or criticised, people in abusive relationships don’t want to accept the kind of violence they are going through.

Consequences of emotional stress

Afraid

This is a continuing concern or experience of risk. You tend to have confidence problems with someone with whom you find yourself that building a relationship becomes an overtime problem.

Disgrace

You may not feel free to connect with someone who knows what you’ve learned, such as friends, family members, etc., which can also contribute to isolation.

Perplexity

Your mind is always wandering, and you tend to lose concentration and can’t concentrate on a single assignment.

Narcotics or drinking

Violence also contributes to improper use of medicine and drinking. It is an illusion to believe that it will take away the pain.

Suicide

If there is so much pain and trauma, it can always result in the group taking their lives.

Trouble with sleep

You don’t have to love sleep the way you do. Anxiety and emotions become the order of every moment.

Quitting a toxic relationship

Find the better you deserve

You’ll never find someone better than your partner will wear on you in months or years of being told, and you might even begin to believe it. But it’s not real.

What abusers do is break down self-esteem and self-worth to keep their victims stuck in the relationship.

Let this be “I deserve better!” “Become your motto every day. Every day, remind yourself of your worth.

You have tried your best to make your relationship work, but love is not enough sometimes and for your own mental and physical well-being, you need to move on.

Creating support

The feelings you have for a toxic breakup are just the same as going through a good relationship breakup. You’re going to feel conflicted, lovesick, relaxed, sad, and much more.

If you have been financially dependent on your ex, leaving a toxic relationship is particularly difficult, but don’t despair!

When you take the plunge, instead of concentrating on why this will be challenging, concentrate on creating a support structure that you will need. Research indicates that help from friends and family decreases psychological distress during difficult times.

Getting a system of help around would make it easier for you to move forward.

Make firm decision

Breakups, no matter what the case is are tough. You’re leaving a life you’ve grown used to, and even if you know it’s no longer healthy to have a relationship, it still hurts, leaving the life you’ve built for yourself.

There may be moments when your partner is tempted to get back, but stand firm! You deserve a partner who supports and loves you.

Do not offer some false hope to your ex of getting back together. In your decision to leave the relationship, be firm and do not move.

Cut off all contacts

One of the biggest times for leaving a dysfunctional relationship will be after you’ve broken up, cutting off all touch with your ex.

In order to get back together, staying in touch with your ex opens the door for you. Plus, it will make the memory of the relationship feel fresh in your mind to see your ex via social media. When you feel that here’s what to do.

Focus on the future, keep yourself focused instead of living in the past. Remove your ex from social media, block your phone and find ways to stop seeing your ex in person. These acts are going to make it clear you don’t want anything to do with them.

Remove the damaged part

You have already tried all the tricks to get your partner to change their abusive ways if you are at the point of breaking up.

You may have gone to rehab, taken a relationship class, or made date nights a priority, but nothing worked.

Your spouse will not improve, and it’s necessary to always remind yourself of this.

You did what you could to encourage them and to reason with them and it didn’t work out. After a divorce, do not expect miracles.

It is definitely only because of the shock of the divorce, even though an abusive ex changes his ways. Their risk of returning to their abusive actions is extremely high if you get back together.

It is one thing to learn how to leave a toxic relationship, but to follow through with it is a completely different storey. If you have trouble leaving an abusive or toxic spouse, reach out to an abusive relationship help line like Day One to a trusted friend, family, or call/text/chat.

Ultimate experience

It is also a feeling of commitment or depression to want to get out of a toxic one instantly to get into another relationship. Take it simple, learn to find yourself, and think about how the last one started, so you don’t have the same experience. Before thinking about moving into a new one, take your time to recover fully from past relationship hurts and pains.

Clear all Self Doubts of Your Life

Every human being is the subject of doubts about himself and others as well. Are we in the dilemma of choosing what to do or not to do? In Arjuna’s view, the same problem occurred in the land of the Mahabharata in Kurukshetra. Before Lord Krishan, he shared his reluctance to fight with his nearest and beloved ones. And his doubts cleared up through the message of Bhagvad Gita and he stood up again to fight for the right and his victory was assured as his strength and support because of Lord Krishan on his side. During the current pandemic, the future is so unforeseen and full of uncertainties. And again, we must take the blessing and power of Almighty God to guide us with morality and practicality to solve these dilemmas. We can’t win any fight, be it the Mahabharata battle, or the battle of our minds with doubts about ourselves and others. The uncertainty was about winning or losing, or good over bad, at the time of the Mahabharata. At the present moment, life or death is in question.

We are all Arjun (as the soul) with doubts in mind. But we are not fortunate enough to have Lord Krishan on our side in his physical form, but in the form of Bhagvad Gita, we definitely have his divine form to which we can surrender our “I-ness,” suspicions, and all kinds of dilemmas that create suspicion in our minds.

In Bhagvad Gita, it is said, “Whatever happened, happened for the good, whatever happens, happens for the good, and whatever will happen also will happen for the good.” But my mind still wonders why what good is in it? Supposing that if a relationship didn’t succeed, we might assume it was bound to happen and for a cause it happened. Or do we, in our own hands, attempt to act and take care of things? You don’t have to think about the future, it is said, nor should you pay attention to the past. You are in charge of the moment only so live it to the fullest. “You have the right to work, but you don’t have any right over the result” And I think this is Bhagvad Gita’s wisest message.

People run after money in present times of materialism, want a big home, yearn for a luxury car besides securing the children’s future, so basically we are goal-driven. We all do not work because we want or like doing our jobs, but we do it just to think about the outcomes. During our reviews, we all work extra hours or do overtime assuming (result oriented) that our managers would highly score us on our results. This is something we all need to stop, because suffering is inevitable if our goals are not met. Basically, all because of expectations from this materialist and mortal universe, I am feeling this pain. And like Arjun, in our search for light on our dilemmas, we can all benefit from these timeless teachings and grow self-confidence.

Krishan’s first teaching to Arjun clarified that this material world is not true reality. It’s an illusion and we are all the actors who perform our respective roles assigned by our director to us, i.e. God. We experience profound pain when and when we play the temporary roles too seriously and feel detached from the centre of our true strength. And Krishan reminds Arjun that it is a mortal body, but our soul is immortal.

The second teaching reminded Arjun to pursue his dharma as a life purpose. Krishan urges him to be a fighter for justice and the promotion of good over evil. He reminds Arjun to fulfil his dharmic duty to achieve salvation. If you don’t engage in this fight against evil, you’re going to incur sin violating your dharma and your honour. But then my mind wonders, ‘How are we going to know what’s going to happen? (an action for which you are guilty of doing it).

The consequences of mental turbulence and overthinking and not of intervention are self-doubt, concern and anxiety. However if we act, we will either reach our goals and find satisfaction or fail, but we will benefit from the experience. And what I have learned from my experiences to date is that for the sake of some reward or applause, one should never engage in acts but to honestly and genuinely perform our duties.

The Google search engine is full, though not sufficient, of knowledge on different aspects of the necessary wisdom. To become fearless, we have to work without worries , the real and not virtual world of today.

One may rely entirely on the sermons of Gita, my conviction from the holy land of Kurukshetra, to make the search for the solution of doubts complete.

Learn and Retain Using Curiosity

There is something in common with most of the breakthrough discoveries and notable inventions throughout history: they are the product of curiosity. Without curiosity, the laws of physics may never have been developed by Sir Isaac Newton, Alexander Fleming possibly would not have discovered penicillin, and pioneering radioactivity studies by Marie Curie would not exist. A fundamental human trait is the impulse to discover new knowledge and experiences and explore novel possibilities. The ability to learn and discover new things, and to find out how they work, is curiosity. The more curious we are about a topic, the easier it is to learn details about that subject.

Curious individuals often ask questions and check their minds for answers. Their minds are involved all the time. Since the mind is like a muscle that through continuous exercise becomes stronger, the mental exercise generated by curiosity makes our mind stronger and stronger.

Our mind expects and anticipates new ideas linked to it while we are curious about something. They will soon be remembered when the ideas arrive. The ideas may move right in front of us without curiosity, and yet we miss them because our mind is not prepared to recognise them.

By being curious, we can see new worlds and possibilities that are not typically available. They are concealed behind the surface of everyday existence, and to look underneath the surface and explore these new worlds and possibilities requires a curious mind.

Andrew, a University of California researcher, recently performed a series of studies to find out just what happens in the brain when our interest is aroused. These experiments showed insights into how memory is influenced by a source of intrinsic motivation – curiosity. The team discovered that there was increased activity in the hippocampus, a brain region that is essential for creating new memories, when curiosity inspired learning.

Curiosity can place the brain in a state that helps it to learn and retain knowledge of any sort, such as a vortex that draws in everything you are driven to learn, as well as everything around it, explains Dr Matthias Gruber, lead author.

We think more deeply and rationally about decisions when our interest is activated, and come up with more imaginative solutions. Experts agree it is very important to promote interest in all ages, from schools to the workplace and to elderly care. It has been shown that knowing or doing something fresh and different makes for a good attitude and satisfaction.

An significant characteristic of a genius is curiosity. I don’t think there’s an intelligent giant we can find who isn’t a curious guy. The physicist and Nobel Laureate Albert Einstein has been widely cited as saying, “The important thing is not to stop questioning.” Curiosity has its own current explanation. Never lose a sacred curiosity

Hard Working Attitude is Worship

Worship is our confidence in work. Many people even claim that without luck, nothing can be done.

Work is important, and one can not accomplish anything without work. If luck is still with you, in addition to work, it definitely adds value. We may also assume that working with luck would have better outcomes. And chance alone does not yield the desired results. There is therefore no alternative to working.

Everyone has to understand the facts, so every person has to work to their full capacity.

Working with a constructive, optimistic, genuine, committed and hard-working attitude would be regarded as worship and lead to achievement. It must be meaningful and meaningful to function in their respective areas.

In order to make the world strong , the above definition and practise must be inculcated in all our working culture.

Peoples are looking forward to embracing the right and healthy working culture in the future.

Rational thinking can Solve Majority of Problems

We need to make a variety of choices every day in our everyday lives, some of which have smaller or greater effects on our lives. What shirt I wear, for instance, or which movie I watch, or which book I want to read first. At and point of our lives, we have to make choices that make it very difficult for us to choose the right option at all times. But there are some ways of improvising our chances of selecting the best alternative. ‘Critical thought’ is one of them.

Rational thinking means the problem is studied and evaluated and a logical decision is taken to solve the problem. A critical approach is an approach to an issue that helps one to deconstruct the situation and expose its hidden problems, helping to make reasonable choices. Therefore, instead of selecting options that sound right, rational thinking helps one make the choice by removing all other options that are not effective or useful after reviewing all possible options.

The following are the ways in which we should think objectively to overcome any issues.

Right choice

It’s easier if we ask ourselves why we need these items and what their utility is for us when making the decision to choose between two choices. It will help us understand their importance for our long-term target if we understand the usefulness of these choices, and therefore we choose the most suitable choice that will favour the long-term.

Collect information

It is necessary to have full knowledge of the choices between which we have to make a decision. There are greater chances that it will get wrong if we make choices based on a lack of understanding. Therefore we must strive to get data from good sources so that when choosing the best choice, it will not generate misjudgment and any prejudice.

Application of information

In order to make the right decision, the information we have obtained from different sources must be used in the correct sense. Therefore we have to ask ourselves what principles and conclusions might be appropriate in this situation when making a decision, whether our analysis of knowledge is logically sound. It helps to understand the whole meaning behind the method and helps to remove unreliable alternatives.

Consider the consequences

We must think about its short-term and long-term consequences before making any decisions. If we make choices without considering consequences, then it can cause issues. For a shorter time, certain solutions look enticing but have several long-term negative implications. Therefore it helps to choose viable choices to weigh the consequences before making decisions.

Exploring the opinions of others

Often, our view of certain topics can differ from others. We must respect those who have a contrary opinion of ours, when making appropriate decisions. We need to understand the context and the reasons why those choices were chosen. This helps us to consider other options, analyse and make more informed decisions about our own choices.

One of the many ways we can ease the decision-making process and eliminate the process of choosing in our everyday lives is through these five logical thinking methods. Critical thinking does not fully eliminate the hard choices from our lives, but in the amount of good choices it does benefit us. It provides us with a mechanism from which we can better evaluate knowledge about day-to-day life and make reliable decisions.

How to Observe Life when You are Perfect and Unique ?

Did you ever think that he/she looks better than me! I want the height that he or she has! She’s so blessed that she has this or that! He is better than me in his/her life! In our everyday lives, these types of thoughts sometimes wander through our heads. Why is it important to equate ourselves to others? In our own way, we’re all special. – of us has strengths and weaknesses that are different. We’ve all got flaws. Just think for a moment, if everyone looked the same then this world will be a place of boredom, which is why God made us all special with distinct features. When we begin to equate ourselves with others, we prefer to emulate others by believing that if I do this I will be at ease, but by doing so we are only demeaning our identity, our life, and not recognising the specific characteristics that are ingrained in us. Comparing ourselves with others just blocks our real ability.

Think about the cause of mental or physical disturbances among people for a moment. Half of the concerns arise because of similarities with others. If someone gets good in some way or the other, we feel inferior. Inferiority normally exists among our peers. Learning from others is necessary, but not judging one another in a way that affects our mental well-being. If you embrace yourself the way you are, you will win the inner war of self-respect. Comparing your strengths and weaknesses, comparing your positive and bad habits, but not comparing yourself to others if you just want to compare yourself. No one like you has ever been on Earth and never will be. Dare to be different from each other and dare to be the way you are. Be positive in your character and what you have and also accept your weirdness and be excited throughout your life’s journey. Trust is the greatest gem we can all wear to look perfect or pretty.

There is no distinction between the sun and the moon. When it is their moment, they shine.