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My name is Md Raji and I’m the founder of Sur O Sargam and My Solution Consultancy Services. I’ve always been passionate about singing, learning music and motivating myself and others. Now I think I am enough experienced to teach different classes of music including Indian classical and light music. This blog along with my YouTube channel Sur O Sargam will help and encourage those students who eagerly want to learn music but unable to do so due to lack of resources. So let's together enrich our different talents inside us and motivate ourselves to do magical things in the world.

Don’t Worry be Happy Alone – 19 Steps

Naturally, some individuals are content alone. Yet being solo is a challenge for some. There are ways to become more comfortable with being alone if you fall into the latter category, even if you’re a hardcore extrovert.

Regardless of how you feel about being single, it is a worthwhile investment to build a healthy relationship with yourself. You spend quite a little time with yourself, after all, so you may as well learn to enjoy it.

Isn’t being alone the same as being lonely?
It’s important to untangle these two principles before getting into the various ways to find happiness in being alone: being alone and being lonely. Although there is some overlap between them, they are definitions that are entirely different.

You may be a person who completely basks in loneliness. You’re not friendless, antisocial, or loveless. With time alone, you’re just very happy. You’re actually looking forward to it. That is just being alone, not being lonely.

You may be surrounded by family and friends, on the other hand, but not really linked beyond a surface level, which makes you feel very lonely and disconnected. Or maybe being lonely only leaves you depressed and yearning for company. Loneliness is that.

It’s important to realise that being alone does not have to mean you’re sad before going into the ins and outs of being happy alone. Yes, you may be sad and feel lonely, but you don’t always have to go hand in hand with all of them.

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To get you started, short-term tips


The goal of these tips is to help you get the ball rolling. Overnight, they may not change your life, but they will help you feel more comfortable with being alone.

Some of them may be what you wanted to learn, exactly. Others may not be meaningful to you. Using them as stone-steppers. Add and shape them to suit your own lifestyle and personality along the way.

1. Avoid making comparisons

This is better said than done, but try to stop contrasting your social life with that of someone else. What matters is not the number of friends you have or the duration of your social outings. For you, it’s what works.

Note, you just have no way of knowing whether someone is genuinely content with a bunch of friends and a stuffed social calendar.

2. To social media, say “No”

Social networking is not necessarily negative or problematic, but take a couple of steps back if scrolling through your feeds makes you feel left out and depressed. That nourishment doesn’t tell the whole storey. Not by a shot of long.

If those people are genuinely happy or only give the impression that they are, you have no idea. It’s no reflection on you either way. So, breathe deeply and put things in perspective.

Perform a test run and for 48 hours, ban yourself from social media. Start setting yourself a daily limit of 10 to 15 minutes and stick to it if that makes a difference.

3. Reduce contacts on phones

Noticing a pattern around here? The notion of being alone has certainly altered cellphones and social media.

If they can pick up their phone and text or call just about anybody, is anybody really alone? Or check in on what the friend from high school is up to without even having to speak to them?

That’s not to suggest that technology is not an immensely valuable tool for community building and feeling close to loved ones who might be far away. But as a way to avoid being alone with your own ideas, it’s easy to focus on smartphones.

Turn your phone off the next time you’re home, and stash it away for an hour. To reconnect with yourself and discover what it feels like to be completely alone, use this time.

Not sure how to go around the time? Get a pen and notepad, and the next time you find yourself alone, jot down stuff you might enjoy doing.

4. Enable wandering in your mind

Does the idea of doing absolutely nothing leave you unsettled? That’s probably because a long time has passed since you just allowed yourself to be.

Experiment for 5 minutes by setting a timer. It’s that.

For five minutes,

Fernsehen TV

Art Records

The Sites

The podcasts

Books

Find a quiet position to sit or lay down. If you prefer, close your eyes, darken the room or look out the window. Try a boring job, such as knitting, dribbling a basketball, or cleaning pots, if that’s too sedentary.

Let your mind wander and see where it takes you, truly wander. If it does not take you very far at first, don’t be discouraged. Your mind will get used to this new independence with time.

5. Dating with yourself Fix

Self-dates can be a valuable method for learning how to be happier alone, but they can sound cliche.

Not sure what’s to be done? Imagine that you want to please a real date and show them a nice time. Where will you take them? What would you like to see or hear from them?

Now on that date, take yourself. At first it may feel a little different, but chances are you’ll see at least a couple of other people dining solo or buying a movie ticket for one.

You don’t have to go big if money is a concern. But note that paying for one is a lot cheaper than it is for two, too.

Sounds too overwhelming still? Begin small by sitting for just 10 minutes in a coffee shop. In your surroundings, be observant and soak. When you are comfortable with that it won’t seem so strange anymore to go out alone.

6. Exercise

Exercise can release endorphins that can make you feel happier, the neurotransmitters in your brain.

Start with only a few minutes a day if you are new to exercise, even if it’s just morning stretches. Each day, increase your operation by a minute or two. Try weight lifting, aerobics, or sports as you build confidence.

Plus, hitting the gym alone can be a fantastic starting point if you’re feeling uneasy about working out on your own.

7. Spending time with nature

Yes, a new cliche. Seriously, though, get outside. In the backyard, relax, take a stroll in the park, or hang out by the pool. Absorb nature’s sights, sounds and smells. Feel your face in the air.

ResearchTrusted Source indicates that it can boost symptoms of depression and lower blood pressure for 30 minutes or more a week spent in nature.

8. Lean into the benefits of being alone

Some people find it particularly hard to be content when living alone. It might be a little quiet, of course, because no one is there to listen to you whine after work or to remind you to turn the stove off.

But living alone has its benefits as well (naked vacuuming, anybody?). Try to manipulate the physical and mental space that comes with living alone:

Take all the room with you. Spend the day cooking a delicious meal that you can munch on for the next week, taking up the entire kitchen.
Only spread out. Trying to get yourself back into an old hobby? Get and spread all your supplies across the floor and determine what you want to use for your next project. Not finished making a decision in a single day? No trouble. When you’re done, leave it out, even though it’s a week from now.
Have a group with a dance. This is a very self-explanatory one. Put on your favourite music and crank it up, neighbours permitting. Dance like nobody watches, because well… they’re not.

9. Be humble and thankful

Research demonstrates that appreciation will improve feelings of satisfaction and hopefulness.

When you go about your day it is convenient to take things for granted. Spend some time focusing on the stuff you’re grateful for.

They don’t have to be amazing stuff that are mind-blowing. They can be as easy as the first cup of coffee you play over and over in the morning or the music you play because it calms your nerves.

Create a mental or physical list of the things you enjoy in your life. Whip out this list the next time you’re alone and feeling down, to remind yourself of what you have going for you.

10. Give a break to yourself

A good thing is self-reflection. Harsh self-judgment is not that. It eats away at your faith and satisfaction in yourself. Switch into that more optimistic voice that exists in your mind when that harsh inner critic comes to call (you know it’s somewhere in there).

Do not judge yourself more harshly than anyone else would judge you. Everyone makes mistakes, so don’t keep on beating them up. Mind the many outstanding qualities that you possess.

11. Serve a top-notch meal by yourself

No partner for dinner? Eating alone doesn’t have to mean being in front of the TV eating pre-packaged food. For one, cook a fabulous meal.

Set the table, use a cloth napkin, light a candle, and if you’re having a dinner party, do whatever you do. On your own, you’re worth it all.

12. Locate a creative outlet

What did you always dream of doing, but put it off? If you are not good at it, don’t worry. The point is to try something fresh and unique, to take a risk outside of your comfort zone.

Taking on a project for home renovation. Learn to play an instrument, or write a short storey, or paint a landscape. Do it alone or join in a class. Give yourself plenty of time to see if it is worth pursuing.

You can at least mark it off your list if you don’t like it and move on to something else.

13. Make solo outing arrangements

Find things to do that are fun and place them on your schedule. Give yourself to look forward to something. Anticipation is half of the game, after all. Seeing it on your calendar could motivate you to follow through as well.

Visit and stay at a bed and breakfast in a nearby town. Attending a local festival or market for farmers. Buy a concert ticket or the awesome art show everyone’s talking about. Plan for something that you really care for and make it happen.

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You will start digging a little deeper as you get more familiar with the day-to-day aspects of being alone.

14. Shake the routine up

Even a well working routine will gradually turn into a rut, leaving you uninspired. Think about your routine and immediate surroundings every day. What’s going for you all the time, and what’s getting dull?

Take a shot at it if you are not sure. Freshen up things. Have your furniture rearranged or paint a wall. Start a garden, declutter and clean, or find a new coffee shop. See if you can change anything there to get yourself out of the rut.

15. Reinforce your coping skills

Life has its stressors and there are bad things going on. In ignoring this fact, there’s no point. But remember something bad happened last time and you found out how to deal with it? That’s a talent worth holding on improving.

Think about how you were dealing then and why it succeeded. Think of how you can use the same mentality to deal with events now occurring. This is also a good chance to provide some credit for yourself. Maybe you are far stronger and more resilient than you know.

16. Close social ties

You might find yourself spending less time socialising as you become more relaxed being alone. With that, there’s nothing wrong, but close social ties are still relevant.

Arrange to visit someone in your family or a friend, or after work, go hang out with the squad. Call and have a meaningful talk with someone you have not heard from in a long time.

17. Practice amnesty

What does your satisfaction have to do with forgiveness? As it turns out a lot. The act of forgiving, among other health benefits, can decrease stress, anxiety and depression.

It’s less about making the other person feel better than about feeling better about yourself. Yeah, that means that it counts to write a letter forgiving those who hurt you without actually submitting it absolutely.

Forgiveness will take your mind off a load. Do not forget to forgive yourself while you are at it, too.

18. Take note of your fitness

Physical health and vice versa can be affected by mental health. It can help improve your overall happiness by taking care of your physical health. Plus, it’s a good way to foster yourself in a good relationship.

Eat a healthy diet, exercise on a regular basis and get plenty of sleep as part of what you do with your time alone. In order to treat your pre-existing health problems, make sure to have an annual physical and see your doctor.

19. For the future, make preparations

Where do you want to be, both socially and professionally, in 5 years or in 10 years? What do you need to do to meet those objectives? In directing your choices, writing this down can be helpful.

To see if you’re on track or if targets can be updated, review this exercise regularly. Having plans for tomorrow will make you feel more confident and positive today.

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14 Steps to Uninstall the Self-Doubt from Within

Our doubts are the culprits, and by fearing to try, make us risk the good we sometimes might gain.

A disturbing and convincing voice that keeps you back may be self-doubt. This holds you back from seizing the possibilities. It makes it more difficult to get started or finish things than they need to be.

Sure, it can also be beneficial because it allows you to see your current shortcomings soberly or clearly admit a half-baked or bad idea. But mostly in life, it holds you back.

So how can you get around that how can you resolve those moments of self-doubt so that once again you can move forward?

I’ll explore some tips and practises in this article that have helped me to reduce that damaging inner voice.

1. Just say “No”

Firstly, be quick when your inner doubts bubble up.

Don’t let them spin out of control or evolve from a whisper to a stream of sentences that are discouraging. Speak back to the doubtful part of yourself, instead.

Say or yell something in your head, like No, no, no we’re not going down that road again.

Through doing so you will interrupt the pattern of thinking and avoid the taking over of the inner self-doubt.

2. Look at the past and wallow in your memories.

Be true to yourself and ask yourself the following:

How many times did the negative thing come into existence after I was still taking action when I doubted myself or worried anything might happen?

For me and possibly for you too, the answer is not very much at all.

Self-doubts are most often simply monsters in your brain that can be used by your mind to discourage changes and keep you in the comfort zone.

In spite of these self-doubts, if you look at the past and see how well things have gone several times, then it becomes easier to let go of them or ignore them and concentrate on the most probable optimistic result and take action.

3. Chat about the matter

They can become twisted, exaggerated and not very much in line with fact or rational expectations when you keep your thoughts on the inside.

When it comes to self-doubting feelings, this is very true.

Let them out into the sun, then. Chat about your self-doubts with someone close to you.

It will also help you to hear how exaggerated these feelings have become by only getting them out and speaking them out loud.

And you can get a shift of perspective by talking about those questions with someone who’s positive.

4. Don’t get caught in the pit of contrasts.

If you all too often compare yourself to other people, their accomplishments, and especially their high-light reels they post on social media, then self-doubt will easily creep up.

Comparing yourself against yourself is a better way to go about things. To see exactly how far you’ve come. In order to see what you have overcome.

And to see how you, as a human being have continued to improve, thrive and evolve.

5. Maintain diary.

For several reasons, maintaining a journal may be a helpful practise. When it comes to doubts about yourself, it will enable you to:

Keep your life on a realistic record.

And help you recall the good stuff, the milestones you’ve had, and how you’ve conquered barriers if you’re likely to remember things with a negative slant.

Gain clarification more conveniently.

If you have a problem outlined on paper or in a computer document, it is much easier to relieve worries and concerns and to obtain clarification than if you try to go through it all in your head.

It is easier to find answers and to see the problem in a better and more level-headed way by making lists of pros and cons, going through your thoughts and feelings and similar incidents from the past and writing down various viewpoints on the issue.

6. People don’t care about you

If you worry about what people will think or suggest if you do something then the self-doubt will become stronger easily and you get trapped in fear and in inaction.

When that happens, remind yourself that the reality is that what you do doesn’t really matter to people that much.

They have full hands to think about themselves, their children and animals, work and upcoming sports events, and to worry about what people would think of them.

7. Maybe the issue is of someone else

When you are questioned by others, it’s easy to begin to doubt yourself.

If someone rejects you and you don’t get a second date that you think went pretty well after that first one, then it’s not so strange to get down on yourself.

But what if what he or she said or did is just not at all about you?

Maybe a bad day, month or marriage is your co-worker who verbally lashed out at you.

And because the other person’s mom got sick and he had to concentrate on that or because he reconnected with his ex-girlfriend and decided to give another shot to their relationship, you would not have gotten the second date.

You don’t know anything about another person’s life that’s going on. And around you the universe doesn’t revolve.

So be careful not to misunderstand and generate blame and doubt within yourself without any excuse.

8. Get an inspiration boost.

Let the passion, inspiration and positive hope of someone else spill over to you.

Spend 20 minutes doing that with an audio book, a podcast, or a book. The Tim Ferriss podcast has helped me with this lately, and I have always listened to Brian Tracy’s audio books over the years to get this boost.

This fast 20-minute session will significantly assist you to turn your self-doubts into hope and to think about your challenge constructively.

9. Big achievement comes after a series of losses

Then you can tend to see things through a negative and dark lens when you have a setback. This latest setback may be seen as something that is actually going to be the new standard.

This way of looking at things will trick you into believing that continuing to take action doesn’t make sense.

Then instead:

Remember: It’s not just because you lost that you are a loser.

For someone who takes risks, losses occur. It is merely an aspect of living life entirely.

Things go well sometimes and sometimes they don’t. So don’t make this big thing, or your identity, a disappointment.

Ask yourself: what is one thing from this setback that I can learn?

Using the error or loss to your benefit and step on in a wiser way once again.

10. Stretch up your abilities.

For example, if you always have self-doubt before a presentation in school or at work, then your presentation abilities would be sharpened.

In front of a mirror or in front of a friend, read a few books about it and practise at home. Or to get the expertise or information you need, join Toastmasters.

And in those circumstances, you’ll feel more secure, capable and comfortable.

11. Use word of compassion and empathy

A common way of dealing with self-doubt is to get mad at yourself and your lack of movement. As a way to get yourself to step on, try to beat yourself up.

In my experience, that does not help that much.

I have realised that a better alternative is to be kind and positive when experiencing self-doubt. So I use words of compassion and empathy towards myself but I ask myself as well:

In order to move forward in this case, what is one very small step I can take?

Then I take that very tiny step and continue to move step by step to where I want to go.

12. Celebrate with small win

If you have taken a small move forward in months or years, such as setting up your own website or heading for the first 5 minute sprint, and you’re done with it, then you have a win.

It may be a tiny one, but that’s still a win. Celebrate it therefore.

Get a nice snack or your favourite dinner meal, spend some time on your favourite hobby, or buy something that you’ve wanted for a while now.

This will refresh your drive and recharge it and make it feel more exciting and enjoyable to take action. And it will put aside self-doubts so that you can continue to move and get smaller and larger wins.

13. Don’t plan for each and every step

It can become draining to try and plan every step you can make on a road towards a goal or dream and lead to quite a bit of self-doubt.

And it typically doesn’t work that well anyway, because when faced with reality, the best laid plans always start to fall apart a bit or require some improvement.

So do a bit of rough planning and launch your journey afterwards.

And note that along the way to what you want, you can still course-correct. Encouraged by the new insights, experience and feedback you will get as you move down that path.

14. Prioritise work schedules

To uninstall the self doubt, know how to prioritise work affects the progress of your project, the dedication of your team, and your position as a leader. Every project requires clear objectives. You can rely on technical activities, no matter how well planned, to involve changing orders, re-prioritization and the constant presence of surprises. That’s just the usual order of things.

One of the biggest challenges for project managers and leaders is to specifically prioritise the work that counts on a daily basis. In order to ensure that no one operates on yesterday’s objectives, you have to be cautious and have the correct kind of project insight. It takes a great deal of practise to get this right.

How to Make Plan to Achieve Target

Right now if your 2020 goals sound out of control, it’s perfectly understandable. It becomes impossible to know how to make a plan to achieve target and stick to it with so many unexpected adjustments due to COVID-19.

The thing is that our world is constantly evolving. It’s not overly obvious much of the time or we treat it reasonably well.

However, since we are all affected, this unique global challenge is different. For our economy, our livelihood, and our original plans for the year, this has created turmoil. And for many of us it seems unmanageable.

Just sitting and waiting is tempting. And how can you make a plan if you don’t know what’s next to happen? However, our desire to adapt is the one thing that hasn’t changed, and we can use this to build new goals and make a strategy that works for us now.

The ability to change our acts is something that we are all born with. Currently, it is one of our biggest gifts for childhood. We use it as a baby to switch from crawling to walking.

It’s the same ability that we use to wash our hands more often and keep a healthy physical distance. When we decide not to watch the television and instead listen to a constructive podcast, we exercise versatility.

This muscle has been used by many of us to transfer our work online during isolation.

In fact, one of the five principles for success is called behavioural flexibility. Together with sensory perception, we give ourselves the full opportunity to succeed.

The good news is you can make a strategy in any situation by embracing this muscle of versatility. This involves times, like now when you feel you have no leverage. It’s just a matter of remaining conscious and adapting as you go.

Here’s how to start off.

Project for the year

A well-known technique for achieving success is to begin with the end in mind and to work backwards. It is a habit that has stood the test of time, as shared by Stephen Covey in his book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

It’s difficult to properly prepare or affect what we do without understanding our objective.

This highly successful habit, even in the current situation, is important. You can always decide on an outcome that you like, no matter what happens in your external world.

You will start finding ways to help you accomplish it when you get clear on this and write it down.

Realistic

Evaluate if the timeline is feasible when you set your objectives. Often, depending on factors beyond our control, our deadlines can be a little too tight.

This does not mean that we will not accomplish them.

You will be able to reach a very short deadline depending on your choice of tactics and your workload. Take a rational and sensible look at your target and determine if the timetable is reasonable. Change the deadline if not.

Don’t map your plan

This is one of the biggest errors I can see in any year at any time. People map out their plans for the whole year, each move recorded month by month, through a desire for certainty. Mapping the entire year could be why many people are dumping their plans during the crisis.

If we do this, when we go forward, we leave no room to adapt and it restricts our ability.

Our brain and our external surroundings change as we begin to take action. This indicates that we are mindful of greater possibilities that might help us accomplish much more. But we’ve got to leave room for this possibility.

We use smaller chunks and deadlines while we are making a schedule. This leaves space for modifications, and we optimise our scope for achievement.

Make your 90 day plan first

This means just for your initial fifth, chunking your targets down into a 90-day plan. You leave space when you do this to be adaptable to whatever comes up.

Building traction takes 90 days. This implies that it takes three months to see the results of a technique that we use. This is an unconscious idea, but we can use it to help us remain on track and move forward consciously.

Divide your year, starting from where you are now into four quarters. Then, decide what results need to be reached in the first 90 days for each 12-month target.

Write down the objectives and determine which techniques to use.

Chunk the plan to first month

Different sized pieces of data inspire various individuals. Many individuals feel more compelled by major image targets. Others feel more encouraged by shorter-term targets.

Longer-term lovers do not want to chunk targets down and can take haphazard action. Many who love knowledge find it hard to see the big picture and may get lost.

Using both big and small chunks is the most effective way to make a plan.

You will experience a sense of accomplishment far earlier by chunking your goals down to what you can accomplish in the first month. It keeps you on track and helps you to accomplish more.

Check your 90-day goals and set expectations that match with them for the first month. In your planner, write them down to make them stick in your mind.

Break it down again

Note how, and this includes our first week, we only set targets for “firsts.”

It’s a natural inclination to want to schedule all month long, but it’s not. This can keep you seriously stuck or put way too much pressure on you.

Plus, note that there is often more than one way for something to be done. There are possibilities that we will not even see until we have done anything else. This means we can restrict ourselves if we map the month out.

Setting targets just for the first week leaves plenty of space for the unexpected, so we can change it to suit changing circumstances. It also means that at the week’s end, we will feel good about ourselves when we look at all the ticks. That is what our unconscious mind likes!

In your calendar, write results for the first week that will help you meet your goals for the month.Plan and scheme your work

This is where many individuals, especially when things are rapidly evolving, come off track.

It’s easy to get overwhelmed with a list of goals and no structure to execute each week. If we’re not organising every day we can spend a whole week feeling like we’re not going anywhere.

It can also significantly enhance our wellbeing to structure our week and shape a routine. Some of the advantages include lower levels of stress and better sleep.

We feel like we are going somewhere when we structure each week and day. This motivates us, even when the unexpected happens, to keep going.

In order to accomplish your objectives, write a schedule in your journal about what you will do each day of the week. This is where you can map it out and build a schedule on a regular timeline.

Reflect and redesign the strategy

I recommend that you do this, at least at the end of each month. However it is important to do this more often as things are evolving rapidly.

Using our knowledge and versatility constantly, by looking at how we can improve, we can make the most of any situation. To keep up with the external world and stuff that we have no control over, we should easily make changes.

We can also see where errors have been made or where we can subtly adjust anything to optimise outcomes.

This is why we are not planning out the year. It gives us much more versatility to react to external changes positively.

Check for what has worked and how you can do more of it at the end of each month or more often if you need to. Take into account what didn’t work and how you might change it. See what you need to begin to do or avoid doing.

Then, to include those improvements, write your schedule for the next week or plans for the following month.

Repeat and Rinse

Rinse and repeat until you hit the end of your 90 days. Create a schedule for the next three months and downgrade your targets in exactly the same way.

You will find that you are enhancing the momentum that you have already created when you continue to do this. You’re going to experience a tremendous sense of satisfaction, and this is going to inspire you to do more.

At this point, you will find that some of your priorities may have changed slightly, and that’s all right. Note, the mind grows to see new possibilities when you take new actions. Since you have found something better, this can alter your shorter-term objectives.

That’s a cool thing and it’s all part of being versatile, so run with it.

Ultimate thoughts

You can always make a strategy by adapting, whether you’re actually surfing the COVID-19 crisis or another challenge altogether.

More than that in any case, preparation without flexibility can get in the way. Since nothing is static, this includes the good times.

You will find your observations are pleasantly surprising when you prepare thus leaving room to readjust to external changes.

How to Build Confidence and Self Belief?

Many individuals seem to be born with a reasonably large share of faith. After they are knocked down, they tend to bounce along with a robustness that creates envy and spring back up. The good news is that you too, can establish trust. It doesn’t matter if you lack it as you continue to focus on growing it over time, it is always yours to learn now.

Part of the process of growing into ourselves is learning how to create trust. Here is how your faith can be established.

Connecting to yourself

Confidence and connection go together because, when we are real, we are most confident. We’re not trying to be someone else, appease others or live a should” dictated life.

When we are true to ourselves, we build and emit faith. Get clear about your intent and your beliefs, to be real. Trying to represent other people’s meaning and ideals can leave you feeling cheap and false.

Tell yourself what the things you really feel you need and want are.

Ask yourself what you want your legacy to be and for what you want to be remembered-by individuals you meet and individuals you only briefly associate with.

Authenticity is extremely desirable to some as well. When you start getting positive input from people who respect the real you, a positive cycle will begin where your confidence strengthens how you are viewed by others and the perception of others increases your trust.

Opening up

Open up to the world and make yourself curious about what’s going on around you. We become lifelong learners as we become curious, which helps to silence our inner critics.

We are not working out of anxiety, fear, or concern with the learner present. We are less likely to get our thoughts, aspirations, or plans shut down.

Building trust relies upon transparency. We find opportunities to succeed when we assume that choices exist, and that talents are to be found in challenges.

We feel comfortable knowing that we live in the land of opportunity. Hope remains, a hope of what is to come. When we create trust through development and awareness, we are energised by what can be.

Show up

Without apology, building trust includes being yourself.

It’s about walking into your glory with complete permission to be you. It’s about being accountable for but not holding back, your effects. It’s saying to yourself that as part of your everyday life, you matter and add in self-care.

Knowing that you’re relevant creates confidence. Then the question becomes how do you lean into that truth.

Developing a regular grounding practise is the perfect way to realise that you matter and ignite your sparks.

When we invite our lives to awe, wonder, and appreciation, we tap into the unique awareness that lives inside of us. Our sage self becomes connected to the rest of us and something greater is connected to the rest of us.

Another way to realise that we matter is to surround ourselves with individuals who really care for us.

Such individuals are an ongoing source of support and help you feel like the best version of yourself.

Do your utmost to maintain these kinds of positive relationships that are essential to building your trust with friends and family members.

Forget screw-ups

We all make mistakes, and when you want to build trust, the trick is to learn from them rather than let them threaten your self-worth.

Fix something that needs fixing, apologise to be part of the solution for something that calls for a sincere “I’m sorry,” and then let the screw-ups go.

Going over your errors is a nice way to see where you get lost, so it doesn’t benefit you or anyone else to go over them again and again. Such self-flagellation is just detrimental to your soul.

Yourself’s repeated negative review just allows for a less-than-ideal version of you. You want to be your own kind, thoughtful teacher in order to establish trust.

Adopt the character of an ancient, wise sage who sees you as a lovely, messy human being. The sage will talk to you softly, not over-stating the lesson, and lead you with a sweet assurance to new insights that you are whole and wonderful and willing.

The cool thing about it is that this sage lives inside you. When you screw-up, sit with it and see what it has to suggest, which will help you build trust.

Develop creativity

We skip the things that go around in our heads as we develop, that have us doubt ourselves, the thoughts that make us self-conscious, hesitate, and paralyse.

You may not think that you are talented, but the more honest reality is that in a long time, you have not tapped into your creativity, so it feels lost[1]. If you are not an artist, it does not matter. Through our feelings, we are imaginative about how we tell a storey or a joke, organise flowers in a vase, solve a problem, or help a friend.

We want to be in our bodies and minds to create trust, to be alive in spirit, not just to examine ourselves in that noggin of ours. Trust asks us to be all in, and innovation helps to get us there.

Enjoy your days

You are confirming that you are not handling your circumstances but guiding yourself through your days by approaching your days with the mentality that there are gems to be found, and that your life is important.

Think about whether you intend on taking action. Do you respond or create? Is there an opening for humour to be brought in? What do you say yes to?

Even if the options are small, approaching things with the knowledge that you have choices and can set yourself up for success makes you feel optimistic.

Tell yourself what you need and make a list to be effective. It can have stuff like assistance, quiet time, a break, music, a deadline, a discussion.

Customize the list and don’t expect that all days or all hurdles will be served by one list.

When you decide to dance through your days and not push through them, you move from feeling like a victim to becoming the captain of your ship. Building trust depends on this viewpoint.

Take a bird’s eye view of what you think you have no power over to assist with perspective changes. Soak yourself in this vision, and ask the bird what it sees.

You’re going to see new ways of doing stuff. With wings out and the viewing point from 5,000 feet away, because of the space, experience, and compassion you put between yourself and your situation, your faith will soar.

Accept failures

When we shy away from disappointment, we want to stop it. We’re entering defensive mode.

Our trust is compromised by the resources, feelings, and acts that come from trying to defend ourselves from failure. We’re getting wobbly and watchful. Tightness, a contraction, is involved in vigilance. We need to grow in order to create trust.

Taking chances is the only way we can do that. We are built for growth, so the more we move from ourselves to discovering, living, and making, the more we create our confidence.

We’re stagnant without chance. We replicate, not evolve, the status quo over and over again.

Danger is a brilliant educator and forger. In defining our identity, as well as realising our dreams, he is a co-creator. Risk will as a result, create trust.

The more risks we take, when the danger does not pan out, we grow resilience. We remain tiny when trying to prevent failure.

Smallness is not what will get us where we want to go, nor will it create trust.

Never talk against yourself

To give yourself positive feedback about your acts, you should always do your best, but there is no need for judgement or harshness. With love, faith is built; not false praise, but genuine kindness that asserts and boosts.

No matter how little, don’t be shy about celebrating your victories. Trust is created by letting your body and mind take in what’s going well what you did was awesome, what’s unique about you, etc.

Set a goal

You instil a sense of purpose when you choose goals that you want to strive for, which will propel you towards the things you want to achieve. You create faith in your skills to get where you want to go while you accomplish big and small goals.

Start with short-term objectives and then establish long-term objectives. Your faith will soar as you see a better future for yourself in what you are accomplishing.

Experience and enjoy the process

Don’t get too serious about yourself. Not only would you feel more optimistic if you laugh and play while building your confidence, but you will increase your joy.

Ultimate thoughts

Have you found that faith spells out these steps? Try to make your own acronym list of stuff you think will help you build confidence in your everyday life if you feel creative and inspired.

When you focus on being the best version of yourself, cultivate constructive self-talk each day and be your own cheerleader. Everyone has to start somewhere so pick one of the above tips and begin your own journey of trust.

How to be The Master of Your Own Mind?

Your mind is the most important weapon you have in your life for the production of good, but it can also be the most destructive force in your life if not used correctly. Controlling your emotions means influencing the way you live your life.

More precisely, your mind, your emotions, determines your perception and thus your understanding of reality. (And here’s why the truth is your perception)

I have heard that about 70,000 thoughts a day are thought of by the average person. That’s a lot, especially if they’re self-abusive, unproductive, and just a general waste of energy.

You may as well let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It’s your mind, it’s your thoughts; is it not time to take back your power? Isn’t it time for power to take over?

Choose to be the one who thinks about your thoughts deliberately, consciously. Be someone who can control your emotions and become your mind’s master.

You will also change your emotions when you change your thoughts, and you will also remove the causes that set off those feelings. Both of these findings give your mind a greater level of calm.

I have a few thoughts currently that are not of my preference or an answer from my reprogramming. I am the master of my mind, so my mind is pretty calm now. It could also be yours!

Who cares about my thoughts?

You must understand that you are actually at the hands of many unwelcome “squatters” residing in your mind before you can become the master of your mind, and they are in charge of your thoughts.

You must know who they are and what their motive is, if you want to be their boss, and then you can take over and evict them.

In your brain, here are four of the “squatters” that build unhealthy and unproductive feelings.

1. Inner critic

This is your continuous abuser, who is also a cluster of:

The language of other people—many times your parents
Thoughts you have established based on the standards of your own or other populations
Comparing yourself with others, like those in the media
As a product of traumatic encounters like betrayal and rejection, the things you told yourself. Your understanding produces your self-doubt and self-blame, which in cases of rejection and betrayal, are most certainly undeserved.
Pain, low self-esteem, lack of self-acceptance, and lack of self-love motivate the Inner Critic.

Why else would you be abused by this individual? And because you’re this guy, why else would you abuse yourself? Why would you encourage someone to treat you this badly?

2. The worrier

In the world of what ifs,” this individual lives in the future.

The Worrier is influenced by fright, which is always unfounded and has no foundation. This individual is occasionally driven by fear that what occurred in the past would happen again.

3. The troublemaker or reactor

This is the one that induces rage, anger, and pain. Such causes originate from previous unhealed wounds. He will be set off by any event that is even remotely connected to a past wound.

Words or emotions can set this entity off and can also be set off by sounds and smells.

The Reactor has no true incentive and has weak control of impulses. He’s powered by past programming that if it ever did, no longer fits you.

4. The Sleep Depriver

This along with the internal critic and the worrier, can be a mix of any number of various squatters, including the inner planner, the rehasher, and the ruminator.

The motivation of The Sleep Depriver could be:

As an answer to the silence against which he is struggling,
Taking charge of the organisation you have forgotten throughout the day
Self-doubt, fear, low self-esteem, and generalised anxiety
For the inner critic and worrier, as indicated above
How do these squatters monitor you?

How to master the mind?

The thinker and the observer of your thinking are you. You can monitor your emotions, but you have to pay attention to them so that you can define “who is running the show, which will dictate the tool you want to use.

Start each day with the goal of paying attention to your feelings when you think unnecessary thoughts and catch yourself.

To control your emotions, there are two ways:

Technique A- Disrupt and substitute for them

Technique B- Completely eradicate them

What is known as peace of mind is this second choice.

A way of reprogramming the subconscious mind is the technique of interrupting and replacing. Eventually, in applicable circumstances, the substitution thoughts would become the go-to” thoughts.

Using Technique A with the Inner Critic and Worrier, and the Reactor and Sleep Depriver with Technique B.

For inner critic

Interrupt it when you find yourself thinking something adverse about yourself (calling yourself names, disrespecting yourself, or berating yourself).

You may in your mind) say Stop!” No!-No! or Enough! Enough!” “Now I’m in control.” Then substitute it with an opposite or counter thinking or an affirmation that starts with “I am,” whatever your negative thought is about yourself.

For instance, if your thinking is I’m such a loser,” you can substitute it with, “I am the Universal Spirit’s Divine Creation.” I am a perfect learning spiritual being to master the human experience. I am an energy, light, and matter being. I am splendid, clever, and beautiful. Just as I am, I love and approve of myself.

To discredit the ‘voice’ that produced the idea, you can also have a conversation with yourself if you know whose voice it is:

Only because I was a loser and said so-and-so doesn’t make it real. It was his or her view, not a truthful assertion. Or maybe they were kidding, and because I’m insecure, I took it seriously.

If you know that you have recurrent self-critical thoughts, your counter thoughts or reinforcement can be written down or pre-planed so that you can be ready.

If possible, this is the first squatter you can evict, forcefully:

The Worrier riles them up.
When called such names by someone the names you call yourself become triggers, but he still retains the existence of the Reactor.
When you attempt to fall asleep, they are always there, so he perpetuates the Sleep Depriver.
They are bullies and are violent verbally and emotionally.
They are self-esteem destroyers. They are persuading you that you are not worthy. They are liars! They are liars! Get them out in the name of your self-worth!

Eliminate the worst critique, and the involvement of the other three squatters will also diminish you.

Replace them with your new best friends who value your life, promote it and strengthen it. This is a presence in your mind which you like.

For worrier

Prolonged anxiety is dangerous mentally, emotionally and physically. It can have consequences for long-term health.

Fear initiates the reaction to fight or flight, causes fear in the mind, and creates anxiety in the body. This will make it harder for you to effectively regulate your thoughts.

You should be able to instinctively identify a “fearful thought” from how you feel. The physiological signals that fear’s fight or flight response has kicked in are:

Increased heart rate, hypertension, or adrenaline rush
Shallow respiration or breathlessness
Tensed muscles
To interrupt any thinking of concern and then substitute it, use the above-stated form. But this time, with thoughts of appreciation for the result you want, you will replace your thoughts of concern.

This is the time to connect with it if you believe in a higher force. An example is here:

I tell the following (I call it a prayer) instead of thinking about my loved ones travelling in bad weather:

Without warning, thank you for watching over his car and keeping it clean, road-worthy, and free of maintenance problems. Thank you for being surrounded by only clean, diligent, and alert drivers. And thank you for keeping him/her safe, alert, and diligent. Smile and word it in the present tense as you think about it or say it aloud.

These can also make you feel it and maybe even begin to believe it.

If you can imagine what you are praying for the visualisation will strengthen the feeling so that in your vibrational area, you can increase the effect.

Take a relaxing breath now, slowly through your nose, and slowly through your mouth. Take as many as you want! Do it until you feel like your emotions are close to being in control.

Replacing fearful thoughts with appreciation, taking the steam out of the reactor, will minimise reactionary actions.

For example: If your child gets lost in the mall, screaming at them is the usual parental response that accompanies the scary thoughts when discovering them.

“I told you never to leave my sight.” This response only leads to the degree of fear of the child being lost in the first place.

Plus, it also shows them that when he or she makes a mistake, mum and/or dad will get angry, which may make them lie to you or not tell you anything in the future.

When they happen, change those fearful thoughts:

Thank you for watching over my child and keeping him safe (your option of Higher Power). Thank you for quickly helping me find him.

Then after this thought process, when you see your child, your only response would be appreciation, and that seems like a better option for all the individuals involved.

For troublemaker or reactor

It will take a little more attention and contemplation after the fact to recognise and heal the causes of the triggers to completely remove this squatter. But by then, by initiating conscious breathing as soon as you sense his presence, you can prevent the Reactor from being out of control.

As with the Worrier, the thoughts or feelings of the Reactor trigger the fight or flight response. It would be the same with the physiological signs of his presence. You should be able to tell the difference between anxiety, rage, irritation, or pain with a little focus.

I’m sure you’ve heard the suggestion to count to ten when you get angry. Well if you breathe consciously during that time, you can make those ten seconds much more productive.

Conscious breathing is as easy as it sounds… just be aware of your breathing. Pay attention to the air that comes in and comes out.

Via your nose, breathe in:

Feel the air in your nostrils going in.
Feel the lungs expanding and overflowing.
Concentrate on your growing belly.
Via your nose, breathe out:

Feel the lungs emptying out.
Concentrate on your dropping abdomen.
Feel the air coming out of the nostrils.
For as long as you want, do this. If you like, quit the situation. This offers time for the adrenaline to normalise. Now with a calmer, more realistic outlook, you will approach the problem and prevent destructive actions, and you will be more in control of your emotions.

One of the problems this squatter triggers is that it adds to the problems of the sleep depriver. You will decrease reactionary activity by evicting or at least regulating the reactor, which will eliminate the need for rehashing and ruminating that might prevent you from falling asleep.

Master your mind and stop you and your relationships from adding tension to the Reactor!

For Sleep Depriver

(They, along with the Inner Critic and the Worrier, are made up of the Inner Planner, the Rehasher, and the Ruminator.)

There was a very common issue I was plagued with not being able to turn my mind off at bedtime. This weakness stopped me from falling asleep and thus from having the sleep of a restful and restorative night.

Here’s how I conquered my mind and the Sleep Depriver and all of his cronies were evicted.

I started by concentrating on my breathing, paying attention to my belly’s rise and fall, but that did not hold the thoughts out for long. Then I came up with a substitute solution that prevented uncontrolled thought, imagining the word when breathing in and thinking the word when breathing out.
To fit the duration of my breath, I would and do) elongate the word. I turn back to in, out when I find myself wondering.
I’m still thinking about this strategy, sort of, but the wheels are no longer spinning out of control. I have power over my thoughts and mind, and I choose silence. I started to yawn after just a couple of cycles from the first time I tried this process, and I’m usually asleep within ten minutes.

I bring an improvement in focus to very rough nights by keeping my eyes in a look-up role (closed, of course).

I look for my third eye sometimes but that hurts my eyes.

If you’re having trouble falling asleep because you can’t shut your mind off, I highly suggest that you try this process. Each night, I still use it. Tonight, you should start sleeping better!

This form can also be used any time you want to:

If you wake up too fast, fall back to sleep!
Shut the thoughts down
Calm the emotions
Focusing simply on the present moment

Conclusion :

Your mind is an instrument, and it can be used for constructive purposes or destructive purposes, like any other instrument.

You can choose unwanted, undesirable, and harmful tenants to invade your mind, or you can choose desirable tenants, such as harmony, appreciation, compassion, affection, and joy.

Your mind can become your best friend, your greatest supporter, and someone you can count on and allow yourself to be there. You should get your thoughts under control. The selection is yours!

Remedies to Lack of Motivation

You’re in luck if you’re suffering from a lack of motivation, because you’re about to learn the 7 main reasons why you’re short on the motivational energy you need to achieve your goals successfully… And exactly how to fix each of them.

You’ll have the skills you need to unleash the motivating engine inside you by the time you’re finished reading this.

1. Lack of clarity

This first one is by far the most popular of all the reasons responsible for why you may be lacking in the motivation department: either you don’t know what you want, or there’s a lack of clarification about what you want.

One of the first questions I ask whenever I do goal-setting workshops with individuals is What do you want?” ”

You will be shocked by how many individuals are unable to provide me with a convincing answer to that issue.

In other words: What is the result that you are after? If all were to go exactly as expected or better, what would it look like?

When we are confused of what we are after in the first place, it is hard to get motivated to do something at all. On the other hand, if we take those fuzzy visions that we have and put them into focus by writing them down as targets, then the inspiration will naturally flow.

They will give you so many numbers that make your head spin if you ask a traditional sports fanatic about their favourite team. From pace to points per game and on and on, they will give you all the information you need to know about a team and its players.

Yet they can hardly recall what they had for dinner last night when someone asks them about the particulars of their own lives.

And it is also not a question of intelligence.

I think most individuals are just as smart as they make up their minds to be. They wouldn’t have such an in-depth knowledge of the stats of their favourite team if it were a matter of intellect.

It’s not a matter of intellect. It’s about concentration.

If in any area of your life you lack motivation, it’s likely because you haven’t decided what you want in that area in detail. And there’s anything we can’t concentrate on if we don’t realise what we’re striving for.

My solution

The solution to the first explanation behind why most people lack motivation is straightforward. Bear in mind that a mark that you can’t see can’t be reached. That said, in each of the major areas of your life, define and write down some persuasive, exciting goals for yourself – physical, financial, emotional, spiritual, etc.

2. Physiological expression

Take a moment to visualise in your mind what a person really looks like, physically, who has a lack of motivation.

How do they stand if a person is unmotivated? Where are they seated? Have they got a good posture or a bad posture? Are they held upright by their shoulders or are they slumped forward? Is their back rounded or upright?

Now imagine what a completely inspired person looks like…

Where does a driven individual stand? Close and narrow, or upright and open?

How does a driven individual walk? Head holding low, or head holding high? Are they slumped forward with their shoulders, or pushed back neatly as they walk?

Where are they seated? What’s their stance like? Are they sitting upright, or are their backs bent forward? =

How are they speaking?

Where are they standing?

What if I told you that by mimicking the images of a motivated person that you just pictured in the eye of your mind, you might immediately motivate yourself?

My solution

Motion contributes to being inspired. Learn to monitor your physiological state if you want to get inspired. This is how:

Next, find out what kinds of gestures you make spontaneously when you feel inspired…
Do those things, then and your mind is going to suit your body.
When you put yourself in a position to genuinely feel more motivation, you’ll begin to feel more motivated. When you’re motivated, act like you move. When you’re motivated, stand like you stand.

Here is my dumb, but extremely effective, method of using my body to lift my motivation: Jump in the air. The hands clap. And at the top of your lungs, scream out.

Only try it and see if your state does not change.

3. Low target level

Whatever we try to accomplish, writing a book, losing weight, achieving the ideal relationship with our significant others, it is the degree of ambition that we have to reach those goals that ends up being the main factor in achieving them.

But so many people are trying to put restrictions on their wishes. They say they don’t need crazy success, they tell themselves and others. This kind of thinking is risky because we restrict the scope of what we’re willing to do to accomplish our goals when we limit the scope of our desire. And when we narrow the scope of what we are prepared to do, we restrict the scope of our encouragement.

A lack of thrilling and desirable quickly leads far too many individuals down the path of motivation levels that are lacklustre.

You will restrict what you are willing to do to build it if you limit your future success, which limits your motivation, not to mention your overall feeling of satisfaction about the life you lead.

What is known as the 10X Rule is the solution to this problem, which states that:

You need to set goals that are 10 times what you believe you want and then do 10 times what you think it’s going to take to achieve those goals.

While some people would tell you that setting unrealistic targets destroys motivation and that “underpromising and overdelivering” is safer, this line of reasoning is simply dumb.

10X-targets, often referred to as “stretch goals,” can only inspire you to do more and try more than you have ever done before. Besides, even if we fall short of achieving our goals and ambitions at the 10X level, it’s better to fall short of achieving a massive goal than just achieving a small one because if you aim high enough you’re going to demand more from yourself and get better in pursuit of a massive goal.

My solution

We appear to feel lethargic and unmotivated to accomplish them when we have puny, uninspiring objectives. On the other side, we feel motivated and invigorated to take steps towards achieving them because we have big and optimistic goals.

Set huge targets, then. Take action massively.

Pressure yourself to the limits of the outermost. You will find that the more you take action, the more you become more inspired to continue doing even more.

4. Highly overwhelmed

“Have you ever been so stressed, under so much pressure, so overwhelmed, that you’d rather say Screw it. “I don’t even care,” than to keep marching on with something you’re trying to do?

One thing we know about being frustrated (or stressed to the gills), regardless of the cause, is that it can sap motivation, big time.

When you’re overwhelmed, it is difficult to get motivated.

Here are a few realistic solutions to get you on track again…

My solution

Perhaps you took the point I made earlier, about your objectives of aiming higher and 10X-ing to get you inspired, to heart. But maybe you have also been striving a little higher than your current capabilities. If that’s the case, lower the bar bit-by-bit before you find your sweet spot (which is between your current skill and a target that’s just hard enough to accomplish that you have to stretch to accomplish it).

Or, you might just have way too many things on your plate. If that’s the case, rather than attempting to do so many things concurrently, it’s time to pair up and concentrate on smashing one major target at a time. This is like the old saying,

“You won’t even catch one if you chase two rabbits.”

5. Vulnerable to procrastination

If we don’t have enough clarity on what to do next, another factor that can trigger overwhelming, which leads to a huge depletion of motivation. Such uncertainty contributes to procrastination. And procrastination contributes to a loss of creativity.

Here is how this one should be fixed:

Chunk it down to an urgent step that is doable.

My solution

Take whatever it is that you lack the drive to do and chunk it down to an urgent, feasible next move that you can take right away.

I’ve recently been thinking about this workload, and because of the sheer volume associated with a project like this, I feel overwhelmingly frustrated and demotivated. And just as I was about to curl up in the corner of my office in the foetal position, I remembered I needed to take my own goddamn advice and chunk down this thing.

Instead of worrying about everything that needed to be achieved, I decided to ask myself What can I do right now to make progress on this objective?” For me the response to that was to write out the outline. What I’ve done. And when I started doing it the sense of motivation that began to bubble up was remarkable.

So the secret is here:

Think about whether you need to chunk stuff down into something feasible to move the ball forward if you’re low on motivation. And if that’s the question, chunk your idea into something doable (or whatever you’re not motivated about)-and then do it!

6. Not sufficiently precise

With ADHD, motivation is like a fickle, transient emotional creature. For an extended period of time, it’s hard to get it to focus on a single thing… unless you provide it with very specific directions.

One reason you can lack motivation is that you leave things too open.

The drive can disappear when things are unclear.

If you can’t tap into the inspiration you need to succeed, it could be because it’s too elusive about whatever you want to get motivated for. Here are a couple of examples of typical objectives that are much too vague:

Wake yourself up faster.
Train more.
Balanced eating.
If you were to pick any of the examples above, here’s how things will most likely turn out:

You’ll start off at the very beginning with lots of encouragement…

But you’ll find after a little while that the inspiration dies away and loses its potency.

What’s the remedy, then?

My solution

Give clear and actionable instructions to your brain. In order to unleash the motivational energy you are looking for, doing this will provide it with the regulated concentration it needs.

Asking yourself questions is an outstanding way to drill down and get precise. Here is a fantastic one that will narrow things down and spark some inspiration as a consequence:

How am I going to know I’m successful? ”

With something particular and measurable, answer the question.

Specific: To help clarify the idea, come up with at least 3 examples of pairing stretch goals with SMART goals; then draft/outline/record article and episode.

Measurable: Refer to my previously published goal-setting posts, along with 1-3 accurate goal-setting books. Then, brainstorm ideas before I decide on three excellent examples I can use to illustrate this idea clearly.

The more specific you are about the behaviours and habits that you need to take, the smaller they become. And the smaller the action, the simpler it is to empower yourself to do it. Eventually, those small, concrete steps you take on a regular basis are piled on top of each other, leading to a continuous sense of encouragement and achievement.

7. Seeking inspiration instead of seking habit

The final reason most individuals suffer from a continuing lack of motivation is simply that none of us can be motivated all the time at the end of the day. People always say to me, “Wow you’re so motivated.” But here’s the truth: I only look like I’m motivated all the time, when I’ve only been diligent in the reality of implementing some keystone habits that matter most to me in the areas of my existence.

You see, I don’t have to gather the courage to get up and go to the gym at 5am every morning, because it’s a routine.

Right now, I don’t have to push myself to concentrate on writing this post, because I have formed a habit of writing every day.

I don’t have to push myself to do what I’ve been used to in my life, because habits are things with little to no conscious thinking or effort that we do frequently and automatically.

So the real question here is How do you build habits?

My solution

A smarter way to achieve your objectives, and the behaviours you will need to achieve them, is to channel all your resources and concentrate on approaching each of them one at a time, as follows:

Choose your target: What is one big long-term goal that you are completely committed to achieving over the next 12 months or more?

Choose your habit: What is the ONE new habit you can make, so that you can meet or surpass your target by creating it? To find it out and write it down, take a moment.

Next, read what you can possibly know about how to do it correctly. Oh, go deep. One of my big habits, for instance, is writing. No matter what, I do it every single day. I never publish the bulk of what I write. And that’s great with me because without cranking out the bad stuff first, I can’t get the nice stuff. Every day, I write because my ultimate goal is to continue to evolve for the rest of my life as a writer. There’s always space for growth, no matter how amazing I think I may be.

Identify a habit that you should keep doing all the time. It needs to be something that, no matter what you can integrate into your routine and conduct on a regular basis. Eventually, without stressing about it or having to get yourself all motivated, it’ll be something you can do quickly. You have the habit installed at this stage, so it needs minimum effort to execute and you can put it on autopilot. And if you want to, you can start to develop another new habit now.

The last word

What’s the explanation for your lack of motivation? Identify why you feel demotivated and discuss with my above solutions the root cause of your lack of motivation, and you will soon find yourself motivated even at the most difficult period!

How to Quit a Toxic Relationship?

It’s never as quick to learn how to leave a toxic relationship  — not particularly when you are in love with your partner.

You know just how emotionally, physically and mentally draining it can be if you’ve been in a toxic relationship. But if it is so taxing to have a toxic relationship, why is it so difficult to leave?

You’ll find out why it’s hard to leave a toxic relationship in this article and how to leave a toxic relationship for good.

Knowing if you’re in a Toxic Relationship

It’s difficult sometimes to know whether or not you are in a toxic relationship. It is also because of the manipulation of the partner-toxicity involved.

Another explanation why accepting that you’re in a toxic relationship may be challenging is that there is no external violence. You may not be hit or cross any overt sexual boundaries by your partner, but that doesn’t mean you’re in a safe relationship.

When learning how to abandon a toxic relationship, making a pro/con list can be a helpful first move.

The benefit may be that your partner makes you laugh, that you enjoy the same interests, and that you love them.

But in your present circumstances, what are the cons of being?

It’s important to be honest with yourself when you build this list. Is any of the above done by your partner?

Doesn’t provide you with privacy

Break you off from family/friends/finances

Prevents you from attending work or school

Regulation and envy

Giving all the options in your relationship

Pressures you into stuff in which you are not happy

Criticises you frequently

Is faithless

Talks to you down

Property Destroys

Sends text messages that are threatening

Invades your privacy – checks/follows you on your phone/social media

Threatens to do something bad if you get out of the relationship

Gaslights/acts as the stuff they do are not a big deal.

If you are reminded of your partner by these destructive habits, this could be the wake-up call you need to take action and get out of your dangerous relationship.

Why do toxic relationships persist with individuals?

Oxytocin is one of the key culprits. Oxytocin is a hormone produced during periods of intimacy in your body. This may involve making love with others, holding hands, hugging, or even cuddling.

It causes you to be more trusting of your partner when oxytocin is released, even when trust is not warranted. Often this sly little hormone is guilty of bonding promotion, which can make it seem difficult for your partner to quit, even though you know they’re not right for you.

Besides the influence of oxytocin, there are 5 other factors that make it hard to leave a toxic relationship:

Emotional abuse

Emotional abuse can be debilitating for everyone, leaving the person vulnerable without self-esteem, making it impossible to make a decision to start again.

Life threatening

It can be risky to leave a toxic relationship, leading to all kinds of effects, including death. Data indicates that a toxic partner kills a greater percentage of women after leaving a toxic relationship in weeks than when they stay in the relationship.

Social burden

There is always social pressure to want a relationship from friends, family members, etc This pressure only makes the situation worse.

Societal reaction

People don’t really want to confess to someone that they are going through a tough time that cuts through relationships. For fear or guilt of being blamed or criticised, people in abusive relationships don’t want to accept the kind of violence they are going through.

Consequences of emotional stress

Afraid

This is a continuing concern or experience of risk. You tend to have confidence problems with someone with whom you find yourself that building a relationship becomes an overtime problem.

Disgrace

You may not feel free to connect with someone who knows what you’ve learned, such as friends, family members, etc., which can also contribute to isolation.

Perplexity

Your mind is always wandering, and you tend to lose concentration and can’t concentrate on a single assignment.

Narcotics or drinking

Violence also contributes to improper use of medicine and drinking. It is an illusion to believe that it will take away the pain.

Suicide

If there is so much pain and trauma, it can always result in the group taking their lives.

Trouble with sleep

You don’t have to love sleep the way you do. Anxiety and emotions become the order of every moment.

Quitting a toxic relationship

Find the better you deserve

You’ll never find someone better than your partner will wear on you in months or years of being told, and you might even begin to believe it. But it’s not real.

What abusers do is break down self-esteem and self-worth to keep their victims stuck in the relationship.

Let this be “I deserve better!” “Become your motto every day. Every day, remind yourself of your worth.

You have tried your best to make your relationship work, but love is not enough sometimes and for your own mental and physical well-being, you need to move on.

Creating support

The feelings you have for a toxic breakup are just the same as going through a good relationship breakup. You’re going to feel conflicted, lovesick, relaxed, sad, and much more.

If you have been financially dependent on your ex, leaving a toxic relationship is particularly difficult, but don’t despair!

When you take the plunge, instead of concentrating on why this will be challenging, concentrate on creating a support structure that you will need. Research indicates that help from friends and family decreases psychological distress during difficult times.

Getting a system of help around would make it easier for you to move forward.

Make firm decision

Breakups, no matter what the case is are tough. You’re leaving a life you’ve grown used to, and even if you know it’s no longer healthy to have a relationship, it still hurts, leaving the life you’ve built for yourself.

There may be moments when your partner is tempted to get back, but stand firm! You deserve a partner who supports and loves you.

Do not offer some false hope to your ex of getting back together. In your decision to leave the relationship, be firm and do not move.

Cut off all contacts

One of the biggest times for leaving a dysfunctional relationship will be after you’ve broken up, cutting off all touch with your ex.

In order to get back together, staying in touch with your ex opens the door for you. Plus, it will make the memory of the relationship feel fresh in your mind to see your ex via social media. When you feel that here’s what to do.

Focus on the future, keep yourself focused instead of living in the past. Remove your ex from social media, block your phone and find ways to stop seeing your ex in person. These acts are going to make it clear you don’t want anything to do with them.

Remove the damaged part

You have already tried all the tricks to get your partner to change their abusive ways if you are at the point of breaking up.

You may have gone to rehab, taken a relationship class, or made date nights a priority, but nothing worked.

Your spouse will not improve, and it’s necessary to always remind yourself of this.

You did what you could to encourage them and to reason with them and it didn’t work out. After a divorce, do not expect miracles.

It is definitely only because of the shock of the divorce, even though an abusive ex changes his ways. Their risk of returning to their abusive actions is extremely high if you get back together.

It is one thing to learn how to leave a toxic relationship, but to follow through with it is a completely different storey. If you have trouble leaving an abusive or toxic spouse, reach out to an abusive relationship help line like Day One to a trusted friend, family, or call/text/chat.

Ultimate experience

It is also a feeling of commitment or depression to want to get out of a toxic one instantly to get into another relationship. Take it simple, learn to find yourself, and think about how the last one started, so you don’t have the same experience. Before thinking about moving into a new one, take your time to recover fully from past relationship hurts and pains.

Start Investing with Optimum Returns

Nobody loves danger. This is the fact about us human beings that is undisputed. We like to win, but never lose. This is in no way uncommon because there is a rise in human beings. Our brains strongly resist any sort of loss. This article will show you how to start investing and get optimum returns as a risk-averse individual.

Any type of investment is risky. The only thing we can do is mitigate, not remove, the risk. This is why some degree of risk needs to be tolerated by any investor. People who do not have any tolerance for risk end up not investing at all.

It is crucial to remember that it is very risky not to invest. This is the biggest risk to your financial future that you can take. I have found that successful individuals avoid losing future returns as a financial planner and advisor for years, while average individuals avoid losing investment money.

This suggests that successful individuals work hard to get what they don’t have, while ordinary individuals work hard not to lose what they have. As they claim in sports, offence is the best form of defence. They find it easy to protect their investment, when successful individuals go after what they want.

You can not remove the risk, you can only minimise it, as I have pointed out. These five tips will help you secure returns and take minimal risks. It is feasible.

Get Information for Investment:


Investment intelligence refers to a collection of data that lets you make rational investment choices. That’s what the biggest investors have, including Warren Buffet and George Soros. From a knowledge point of view, they can judge distinct opportunities. With that, they stop making errors that might cost them billions theoretically.

As Robert Kiyosaki points out in his book, The Cashflow Quadrant of Rich Dad, investors can be put at five levels:

The “zero financial intelligence” level
The “savers are losers” level
The “I am too busy” level
The “I am a professional” level
The capitalist level

The first three stages, made up of 90% of all investors, do not have enough knowledge to make wise investment decisions. Many would choose not to spend, some would choose to put their money into a bank account, and the others would opt to assign responsibility to someone else and entrust them with the multiplication of their assets.

There is some investment awareness of the last two groups of investors. They end up being the world’s most influential citizens. As I usually say, it’s not a challenge to make money, to multiply it is.

Knowing how to start investing without much risk, therefore, begins with self-education. To learn how to decrease the risk involved while still having reasonable returns, read books and blog posts. The more that you understand, the more that you earn. Having further insight would allow you to look at the statistics and the truth as shown by the numbers.

Small Start


It is virtually inevitable that the first investment money will be wasted as a new investor. This is because to make a profit, you do not have the correct data and skills.

Even though you may have some basics, being a good investor requires practical knowledge and skills. It is wise, therefore to start small. You can increase your investment capital over time as you make returns and learn.

To make an initial investment, do not borrow millions. This is a grave mistake many individuals make. They are left deeply in bad debt when the investment goes down. Next, save your savings and test your investing concepts. You may now start risking more and more money after you have earned returns.

Diversifying


Diversification is typically the first response given by all financial advisors when asked how risk-averse individuals can start investing. This response is true. To spread the risk, diversification means investing in various asset classes.

Diversification of 2 types:

Diversification of inter-assets: This is where you invest in assets from distinct industries. You may invest in stocks and real estate, for instance. There are distinct groups of properties.
Intra- diversification of assets: This is where you invest in the same class of assets. Investing in stocks of various firms, for instance, falls into this group.
In minimising risk, inter-asset diversification is more successful because it cautions the finances against structural risks that impact numerous industries. Some cases, for instance, only affect the real estate market. Therefore, you would be highly impacted if all your investments are in this market. You would not suffer big losses if you have diversified your portfolio.

Do the due diligence you have

Due diligence is distinct from collecting information on investment. Having investment intelligence requires comprehension of the basic concepts of investment. In the other hand, doing your due diligence involves knowing the truth behind a certain potential for investment.

Go for the truth when someone tells you about an investment opportunity somewhere. If it is a fair chance or not the facts will tell you. When judging various investment choices, never rely on the opinions of others. The best thing is to do your homework and use the evidence to support the arguments. The truth would never lie.

Studying the past and predicting the future is the strongest strategy ie Forecasting . Similarly, you should pursue what’s called the preparation of scenarios. This is where you are trying now to grasp the future and make suitable choices.

You could predict, for instance, that electric cars will take over in the future. In this way, you will decide to invest in car companies that are focused on that sector in the long term. Due diligence is this.

Avoid making decisions on emotional investments


Logic and logic are missing in irrational decisions. The facts do not help them. Consequently, emotional choices are dangerous. If it comes to making investment choices, use logic at all times. This is rather than your heart, using your brain.

A friend you love and admire, for example, might tell you about an investment idea and ask you to invest in it. The natural inclination is to adhere to their requirements. It would be hard to resist when you put your emotions here, even if the offer does not benefit your financial future.

To protect your financial interests, though, it is easier to do what is emotionally incorrect. Demystify the alternatives and make a rational, educated decision.

Securities from the Treasury

Less volatile are government financial instruments. This is because, to repay its taxpayers, the government will print money. The risk of default is therefore considerably poor.

Nevertheless it is important to know that these securities yield below-average returns. If you are at your prime age, invest in them only as a tool for diversification and not as the key tool for generating profits. Consider your financial situation, therefore and make an educated decision.

Dividend-Paying Inventories

Compared to those that do not, dividend-paying stocks are less risky. And if the value of the stocks declines, the dividends you earn over the years will warn you against real financial losses.

Therefore, carefully examine the corporation in whose shares you intend to invest. If they don’t have a dividend strategy that suits the financial requirements, move on. Fortunately, year after year, many corporations pay dividends to their shareholders. Your due diligence only needs to be completed.

Chosen Stocks

Stocks that are favoured are given preference over ordinary stocks. After bondholders are figured out they are paid. Therefore in the event the company is pushed out of business, upon liquidation of the company’s assets, preferred stockholders will be compensated before ordinary shareholders.

Annuities Set

An insurance policy which pays the holder a guaranteed interest rate on their contribution is a fixed annuity. Variable annuities are called the opposite.

For fixed annuities, the best thing is that they are easy and predictable. As you know what to expect on the basis of your agreement, there is no need for you to learn about stock market shifts. There are guaranteed fixed annuities. As long as the firm is in a position to do so they are paid.

Accounts Money Market

These are interest-bearing accounts which are supplied by financial institutions. They pay an interest rate that is higher than regular savings accounts. These accounts have cover from insurers and are thus less costly.

Company Bonds


This is a security for financial debt that is provided by a company and sold to investors. For their investment, bondholders receive a fixed or variable interest and receive their investment capital upon maturity. These instruments are low-risk, especially if the issuer is an established business in the market.

Deposits Certificates (CDs)

This is a type of item that many deposit-taking institutions sell. As long as the client decides to keep the money untouched for a certain time, they offer premium interest rates on deposits.

Funds of Value

The value investing approach used by prominent investors such as Warren Buffet and Benjamin Graham is pursued by value funds. It includes finding undervalued shares and bringing money into them.

Price funds, since they are sold at a discount, are low risk. When the market undergoes an auto-correction, they later carry returns. It takes professional executives, however to recognise undervalued stocks.

Caution Word

We have so far looked at how to start investing without taking huge risks and the instruments in which to invest. It is also important to offer a word of warning about the same matter.

Let the Inflation Rate outdo the ROI
Inflation is a steady rise in consumer prices. It acts as an indicator of the changes over a period of time in the prices of goods and services. Inflation affects the cost of living and cuts into money’s purchasing power.[2] You have lost economic value if the return on investment (ROI) is smaller than the rate of inflation.

Find the cost of opportunities

Opportunity cost is the value of the option that has been foregone. Calculate the ROI if you have multiple investment choices, and invest in the option with the lowest opportunity cost.

Consider financial position

The sort of investment choice you select can decide where you are in terms of finance. People who are just beginning should look for both income and stability. You would have nothing left to rely on if your investment is wiped out.

People who are financially established can afford to take big risks. After all, they have plenty to fall back on when they lose investment money.

Consider your financial goals

People have numerous financial targets. Many want to be very affluent, while some only want to live a comfortable life. Based on your priorities, select your investment choices carefully. They should try to optimise ROI for people who want to be super good.

Ultimate Thoughts

As we have shown the reduction of threats is unlikely. Mitigating them is the best you can do. Tolerate a certain amount of risk, therefore to guarantee better returns. You will learn how to start investing by following the tips in this post, while substantially reducing the risks involved as you concentrate on the reward.

The 4-Hour Work Week, Summary

The 4-Hour Workweek is the manifestation of a fresh and better worldview, a deeply transformative shift that is the antithesis of some of the most entrenched and pervasive assumptions of modern society about the way life is and will be.

Chapter-by-Chapter Summary

Tim Ferriss has sold more than 1.3 million copies of his book and spent seven years on the New York Times bestseller list. His blog and podcast have both ranked #1 in the world in their categories. Tim has also been an investor or advisor for Facebook, Twitter, Uber, Evernote, Shopify, Duolingo, and Alibaba.

First and foremost

To leverage the techniques in this book, you don’t have to quit your job or be a risk-taker, young, or single. Instead of passively accepting things for the way they are, be a dealmaker. This book is about having a lifestyle of complete freedom without having a million dollars. Real wealth comes from time and mobility, as well as money, and those who have learned to build these dual additional currencies have become the “New Rich,” he says. The framework for most of this book is structured under the acronym “DEAL”: Forget time management; learn to ignore the unimportant. The author shares the up-and-down journey and “lucky” breaks of his life in the book, which he calls a “brave” chronology of his own life, which I respect tremendously for its boldness.

Step I: D is for Definition

Chapter 1: Cautions and Comparisons: How to Burn $1,000,000 a Night

Tim sees being financially rich and being able to live like a millionaire as two profoundly different things. What we want isn’t money; it’s the power to do what we want with our lives, he writes. Money is multiplied in practical (or “lifestyle”) value if you can control what you do, when you do it, where you do It, and with whom you doit. “Do that which excites you is. New Rich” is the subtitle of a new book by author Tim Stanley. The book is called “The New Rich: How to Live the Life You Want”

Chapter 2: Rules that Change the Rules: Everything Popular Is Wrong

Tim started making all his calls only from 8:00 – 8:30 and 6:00 – 6:30, which netted him twice the number of meetings than the people who made calls all day long from 9 – 5.
In this chapter, Tim presents ten ways that you need to redefine and solve life in order to leverage this principle.
Retirement is worst-case scenario insurance.The whole concept of retirement is predicated on the assumption that you dislike what you’re doing during the most physically capable years of your life, which is a terrible and completely unacceptable reality.
To be honest, building up enough capital to sustain a retirement above the poverty level is a mathematical impossibility for most people, given the realities of today’s market.
Only incredibly ambitious and hard-working individuals could ever reach such a goal, and if you’re that type, are you really going to want to sit around and do nothing?
You’ll probably want to get another job – so why did you wait all those years?
Interest and energy are cyclical.The key to thriving is alternating periods of work and rest, and that principle holds true at the career level.
By distributing “mini-retirements” throughout life, you not only have a more enjoyable life, but you are also more productive when you work.
Less is not laziness.Our culture tends to reward personal sacrifice over personal effectiveness, but the New Rich measure their contribution in results, not time.
Laziness isn’t working less; laziness is letting circumstances define your life for you, or “passing through life like a spectator from an office window.”
The timing is never right.Forget the pro/con list; whatever it is that you want to do someday, just do it now.
Ask for forgiveness, not permission.People will deny things on an emotional basis that they’ll actually accept after you’ve already done it.
As long as any potential damage is minimal or reversible, don’t give anyone the chance to say no; just do it, and you can ask for forgiveness later if necessary.
Things in excess become their opposite.This is true of time as well as possessions.
The point of this book is not to create excess idle time, but to allow you to use your time to do what you want to do rather than what you are obligated to do.
Money alone is not the solution.Adding more money isn’t the answer as often as we think it is.
We delude ourselves into thinking that we need more and busy ourselves trying to make more, thereby avoiding the real problem.
Relative income is more important than absolute income.Relative income is a measure of both time and money; for example, the person working 10 hours a week and making $10,000 is richer than the person working 80 hours a week and making $100,000.
Distress is bad, eustress is good.Eustress is a stress that helps you grow.
Embrace good stress instead of avoiding stress altogether.

Chapter 3: Dodging Bullets: Fear-Setting and Escaping Paralysis

By naming your worst nightmare, literally and specifically, cut through the ambiguous anxiety about doing what you want to do: what’s the worst that could happen? Then think about simple steps that you can take to recover if it happens. On a scale of 1-10, define the worst-case scenario, then do the same for the potential advantage. You might find that due to a possible temporary effect of 3, you are avoiding taking action that could have a permanent positive effect of 9. Now, compare that with the risk of being stuck for the next 40 years in an office. What does it really cost you to delay action?

Chapter 4: System Reset: Being Unreasonable and Unambiguous

Because most people are convinced they can only accomplish mediocre things, the competition for mediocre goals is actually more intense than the competition for incredible things.
Perhaps this is also partly due to motivation – we will try much harder for a dream worth dreaming.
Rather than asking yourself, “What do I want,” or “What are my goals,” try, “What excites me?”
You have to define that alternate reality to replace what you’re doing now.
Otherwise, you’re stuck with the vague, “I’ll make X dollars and then I can do what I want.”
Define what you want!
The author introduces the term “dreamlining”: applying a timeline to your dreams to make the shift from ambiguous wants to defined steps.
The goal has to be unrealistic to be effective, and it has to focus on activities to replace the work you’re doing now. • Create a 6-month and 12-month timeline, and for each one write down five things you dream of having five things you dream of being, and five things you dream of doing.Then convert each “being” into a “doing” to make it more defined.
If you need a more defined framework, write down one place to visit, one memory of a lifetime, one thing you’d love to do every day, one thing you’d love to do every week, and one thing you’ve always wanted to learn.
Out of all 15 for each timeline, circle the four that would change it all.
Research and calculate the monthly cost of each of those four.Think in terms of monthly cash flow, not the total cost.
Add up all the expenses, multiply by 1.3 (cushion for savings), then divide by 30 to get your target daily income.
Write down three first steps for each of the four dreams in your six-month timeline and take the first step now.
Do the second four steps by 11:00 a.m. tomorrow, and the last four by 11:00 a.m. the day after.
The steps should be doable enough that you can make this happen.

Step II: E is for Elimination

Chapter 5: The End of Time Management: Illusions and Italians

After defining what you want to do with your time, you have to free that time (without taking an income penalty).
The approach to time management that most people take is the wrong one:  trying to fill every moment with productivity.
Because the expectation in an office environment is constant motion, not productivity, you must remove yourself from that environment.
As an employee, you’ll need to liberate yourself with a remote working arrangement before you can automate it.
If you’re an entrepreneur, the roadblock is your business, not your employer, so you’ll be going in the reverse order – automating in order to liberate yourself.
Tim then introduces the Pareto principle, famously observed by Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto: in any field of endeavor, 80% of results come from 20% of actions.
Ask yourself the following questions: What 20% of sources are causing 80% of my problems and unhappiness?
What 20% of sources are resulting in 80% of my desired outcomes and happiness?
You’ll have to spend some time to think about these questions, but if you think you can’t answer them clearly, you haven’t thought about them enough.
There are no exceptions to the Pareto principle.
Tim’s example comes from when he realized that five of his customers were bringing in 95% of his revenue.
Two of those five were horrible, and the three others never caused any problems.
So, Tim stopped putting any effort into the 120 other customers and confronted the two problem customers.
One left; one shaped up.
Tim then focused all his effort on finding customers like the top three, and in a month doubled his income and cut his hours from 80 to 15.
If you’re going to join the New Rich, you need to make the fundamental mentality shift that “being busy is a form of laziness – lazy thinking and indiscriminate action… lack of time is actually lack of priorities.”
The other half of time management is known as Parkinson’s Law: “A task will swell in (perceived) importance and complexity in relation to the time allotted for its completion.”
These two laws are synergistic: only do the 20% to shorten time, and shorten time so you focus on the 20%.

Chapter 6: The Low-Information Diet: Cultivating Selective Ignorance

Never read the news.
If it’s actually important, people will be talking about it and you’ll find out.
Tim does email once a week for an hour, which might not be possible for those of us stuck in the 9 – 5.
But the point is that if you remove yourself as the bottleneck, the problems disappear.
As a mental reset, he also recommends taking five days to completely eliminate television (except for one hour of pleasure viewing), reading books (except for one hour of fiction), and web surfing (unless necessary for work).
To wrap up the chapter, Tim gives some other tips and tricks, the most important of which is practicing the art of nonfinishing.
Most of us are in the habit of automatically finishing whatever we start, but if you feel an article, movie, meal, or anything else is wasting your time, stop.
It will take practice to break this ingrained and wasteful habit.

My Most Favourite Book The Magic of Thinking Big

David Joseph Schwartz, best known for writing The Magic of Thinking Big in 1959, was an American motivational writer and coach. Schwartz will help you to handle difficult situations better, gain more cash, and find greater happiness and peace of mind.
In 13 separate chapters, Schwartz shows us The Magic of Thinking Big:

Chapter 1: Believe you can succeed and you will

The magnitude of your output is limited by the scale of your thought. It’s going to be harder for you if you don’t feel that you can do anything. You’re still going to look for reasons you can’t do it rather than ways you can find ways you can.
In order to have an increased capacity, we want to rebuild our mind so that we can think broader and it is within that expanded capacity, where we can find out how things work and the action steps.

Here’s a question you may want to ask yourself to assess the level of trust in yourself that you have. You think you’re going to have good relationships, alliances and friendships? If you don’t believe that, then you just aren’t. It’s just your system of belief. Every day, we don’t wake up thinking we want bad partnerships and negative prospects and partners for company.

Here are the three principles for the development and strengthening of belief power:

1) Think about success, not think about failure.

At work, substitute success thought for failure thinking in your home. Think, “I’ll win,” not “I’ll probably lose,” when you face a difficult situation. When you compete with someone else, think, “I’m equal to the best,” not “I’m outclassed.” When opportunity appears, think, “I can do it,” never “I can’t.” Let your thinking process be dominated by the master thought, “I will succeed.” Thinking of the mind’s circumstances of success to build strategies that yield success. Failure to consider does just the same. Failure to think causes the mind to think of other thoughts that cause failure.

2) Frequently remind yourself that you are better than you think you are.

Successful individuals are no supermen. Performance does not need an intelligence of supremacy. Nor is there something about performance magical. And success is not luck-based. Successful individuals are only average people who have built trust in themselves and what they do. Never sell yourself short.

3) Dream big.

The magnitude of your success is measured by the magnitude of your confidence.
You first have to believe it’s true if you want to dream of great ideas or ways of doing stuff. If you don’t believe you can achieve success in fitness or business, then you probably won’t care of all the ways you can accomplish it.

Think of small targets and expect little success. Dream about major targets and achieve great results. Also, note this! Big ideas and big plans are always simpler than small ideas and small plans, and definitely not more challenging.

Chapter 2: Cure Yourself of Excusitis, the Failure Disease

The more successful the person is the less excuses they produce! Highly successful individuals make less excuses because they are actively searching for ways to accomplish their objectives. They don’t care about their wellbeing or their lack of time.

Excusitis occurs in a wide range of ways, but health excusitis, intellect excusitis, age excusitis, and luck excusitis are the worst types of this disease.

“But it isn’t good for my health.”

Refuse to talk about the wellbeing of you. The more you talk about an ailment, the worse it appears to get even the common cold. Talking about poor health is like putting on weeds with fertiliser. Besides, it’s a bad thing to talk about your wellbeing. It bores individuals. Self-centered and old-maidish, it makes one look. One may get a little sympathy (and let me stress the word may but by being a persistent complainer one doesn’t get respect and loyalty.

Be sincerely thankful that it is as good as your wellbeing. An old saying is always worth repeating: “I felt sorry for myself because until I met a man who had no feet, I had ragged shoes.” Instead of moaning about not feeling good,” it is much easier to be grateful that you are as safe as you are.

Remind yourself sometimes, “Wearing out is better than rusting out.” Life is yours to enjoy. Don’t squander it. Don’t let yourself live by dreaming about yourself in a hospital bed.

“But to succeed, you have got to have brains.”

Never underestimate your own intellect, and never overestimate other people’s knowledge. Don’t sell short on yourself. Focus on your money. Discover the superior skills you have. Know, it’s not the amount of brains you have that matters. Instead what matters is how you use your brain. Instead of thinking about how much IQ you have, control your brain.

Remind yourself many times a day, “My attitudes are more important than my intelligence.” Positive attitudes at work and practise at home. See the reasons you should do it not the reasons you can’t do it. Build an attitude of ‘I’m winning’. Make imaginative, constructive use of your intellect. Use it to find ways of winning, not to prove that you are going to fail.

Bear in mind that the capacity to think is of much greater importance than the capacity to memorise information. To build and grow ideas, to find new and better ways of doing things, use your mind. Ask yourself, “Am I using my mental ability to make history, or am I only using it to record the history that others have made?”

Look favourably at your current generation. “Practice looking forward to new horizons and gaining the enthusiasm and feeling of youth. Think, “I’m still young,” not I’m already old.

Calculate the amount of effective time you have left. Note, a person who is thirty still has 80% of his productive life ahead of him. And the fifty-year-old still has a big 40 percent, the best 40 percent, of his years of chance left. Currently, life is longer than most individuals believe!

Invest time in doing what you really want to do in the future. Only when you let your mind go negative and think it’s too late is it too late.

Chapter 3: Build Confidence and Destroy Fear

You have to make peace with your fear because you are afraid of things that are going to drive you further in your goals.

Simply take action and do something if you want the fear to go down. Are you afraid of the next exam? More to study! Are you concerned about people talking? Go to public places and boost your skills in communication. Are you anxious that you can’t protect yourself from a mugger? Go to a class for self-defense or start weightlifting. Know that fear cures behaviour. Isolate your anxiety and take positive action afterwards.

Make a supreme effort to bring in your memory bank just good thoughts. Don’t let negative thoughts that are self-deprecatory develop into mental monsters. Refuse to simply remember traumatic incidents or circumstances.

Put a proper perspective on people. Know, individuals are more similar than they are different, far more alike. Offer the other guy a balanced view. He’s such a different human being. And cultivate an attitude of understanding. A lot of people can bark, but the one that bites is a rare one.

It’s right to practise doing what your conscience tells you. This avoids the development of a toxic guilt complex. A very realistic law for success is doing what’s right.

Chapter 4: How to Think Big

We must develop a “big thinker’s vocabulary” to become a big thinker. Use big bright, cheerful words. Use words that promise victory, hope, happiness, pleasure; avoid words that build images of loss, defeat, sorrow that are negative.

Practice adding value to persons, stuff and yourself. In this planet, what we put out is always going to be returned. It’s probably because you’re not adding enough value if you don’t get back what you say.

Think about trivial things. Concentrate your focus on big targets. Ask yourself, before getting involved in a petty matter, “Is it really important?” ”
Via thinking big, grow big!

Chapter 5: How to Think and Dream Creatively

If you truly believe in yourself and believe that things are possible, you’re more inclined to think that things can be done. He tells us that if we believe that we are able to succeed, we will succeed.

When you think it’s possible to do something the mind can find ways to do it. Trust in a solution paves the way for a solution.

Tell yourself every day How can I do better?” “Self-improvement should not have a limit. When you say, “How can I do better?” “Sound responses may emerge. Just try and see.

Ask yourself, ‘How am I going to do more? Capacity is a mental condition. Asking yourself this question puts your mind at work in order to find smart shortcuts. The business performance balance is do what you do better (improve the quality of your production) and do more of what you do (increase the quantity of your output).

Asking and listening practise. Ask and listen, and to make sound choices, you will receive raw material. Remember: listening is monopolised by big people; talking is monopolised by small people.

Stretch the imagination. Only get stimulated. Associate with individuals who can assist you in dreaming about new ideas, new ways of doing stuff. Mix with individuals with various professional and social preferences.

Chapter 6: You Are What You Think You Are

Upgrading your thought enhances your attitudes, and this creates achievement. Here is a simple way to help you make more of yourself by thinking about how important individuals think. As a reference, use the form below.

It makes you think important; it helps you think important. Your presence is speaking for you. Be sure that it raises your spirits and strengthens your confidence. Your presence speaks to other people. “Make sure that it says, “An important person is here: knowledgeable, wealthy, and trustworthy.

It’s important to think about your career. Think this way, and mental signals about how to do your job better will be given to you. Say that your job is important, and your subordinates would probably think that their job is important.

In all circumstances in life, ask yourself, “Is this the way an important person thinks?” “Obey the answer then.

Chapter 7: Manage Your Environment: Go First Class

The people you surround yourself with the clothing you wear, the area you live in the food you consume, your mind is a consequence of your environment. The way you think affects your climate. To change how you think, enhance your climate.

Make your world, not against you, work for you. Don’t let suppressive forces make you think failure, the pessimistic, you-can’t-do-it individuals.

Don’t let you be held back by small-thinking people. Jealous people would like to see you stumbling. Don’t give any pleasure to them.

Manage mentors of yours. Get your advice from influential individuals and don’t take advice from someone you’re not going to swap places with.

Throw the poison of thinking out of the environment. Just stop gossip. Speak regarding individuals, but remain on the optimistic side.

In anything you do, go first-class. You can’t afford any other way to go.

Chapter 8: Make your Attitudes your Allies

Grow the attitude of “I’m activated”. In proportion to the enthusiasm expended, results arrive. To trigger yourself, three things to do are:

1) Dive deeper into it. Look in to read more about it when you find yourself uninterested in something. It sets off excitement.
Everything about you: your smile, your handshake, your chat, even your walk. Acting alive.
Strong News Broadcast. Nobody has ever done something good by saying bad news.

2) Develop the attitude of “You are important”. When you make them feel important, people do more for you. Know these things to do:
At any opportunity, express gratitude. Make it sound important to people.
By name, call people.

3) Grow the mentality of “Service first and watch money take care of itself. In anything you do, make it a rule: give individuals more than they expect to get.

Chapter 9: Think Right Toward People

Your success in every project depends on other people’s encouragement and acceptance; you won’t achieve your goals alone. You have to be likeable to obtain this assistance. Likeability in all aspects of your life, particularly your career, is a factor.

For lifting, make yourself lighter. Be sympathetic. Practice being the kind of person that people want. This gains their confidence and brings fuel into the programme for efficient construction.

In developing friendships, take the initiative. At any chance, introduce yourself to others. Make sure you get the name of the other person right and make sure he also gets your name straight. You want to get to know your new friends better by dropping a personal message.

Consider the distinctions and shortcomings of people. Don’t expect to be fine with someone. Know, there is a right for the other person to be different. And be a reformer, don’t be.

Practice the generosity of dialogue. Be like people who are good. Encourage others to converse. Let the other person speak to you about his thoughts, his beliefs, his achievements.

Dealing with others is simple when it’s all going well. The true test comes when stuff goes wrong. But how you feel when you lose has a strong influence on when you win again.

When you receive a loss, don’t blame anyone. Know, when you lose, the way you think determines how long it will be before you win.

Chapter 10: Get the Action Habit

Activationists are good individuals; they have developed the habit of taking action. Only be an activationist. Be someone who’s doing stuff.

Do not wait for conditions to be fine. They’ll never be. Expect and overcome future challenges and problems as they occur.

Know, thoughts alone are not going to bring results. Only when you act upon them do ideas have meaning.

To cure fear and build faith, use action. Do what you are afraid of and fear vanishes. Try it out and see.

Mechanically, start your mental engine. Don’t wait for you to pass the spirit. Take action, dig in and the spirit is moved.

Think in terms of the moment. Tomorrow, next week, later, and similar phrases are often associated with the term failure, never again. Be a sort of “I’m starting right now” guy.

Get down to enterprise-pronto. Don’t waste time planning to act. Start to act instead.

Seize the initiative. Only be a crusader. Take the ball and drive. Only be a volunteer. Show that you have the desire to do it and your determination.

Chapter 11: How to Turn Defeat into Victory

In one’s attitudes towards defeats, handicaps, disincentives, and other disappointing circumstances, the difference between success and failure is found.
Five guideposts to help you turn victory into defeat are:

1. Study failures to pave the path for achievement. Learn when you lose, then go on to win next time.

2. Have the courage to be a critical critic on your own. Seek out the shortcomings and flaws and then fix them. This transforms you into a professional.

3. Avoid luck blaming. Investigate each setback. Find out what’s gone wrong. Bear in mind, blaming luck never took anyone where he wanted to go.

4. Blend persistence with experimentation. Stay with your objective, but don’t bang your head against a wall of stone. Test new tactics. Hey. Experiment.

5. Know, in each case, there is a positive side. Just find it. See the side of the positive and whip discouragement.

Chapter 12: Use Goals to Help you Grow

The significance of having objectives is emphasised by Schwartz. Objectives allow you to see where you are headed and where you want to be in one,

Get a definite fix on where you want to go. Create an image 10 years from now of yourself.

Write out your plan for ten years. To be left to chance, your life is too important. In your job, your house, and your social departments, set down on paper what you want to achieve.

Only yield to your desires. To get more control, set goals. To get things done, set targets. Set targets and discover the true pleasure of living.

Let your automatic pilot be your main objective. You’ll find yourself making the right choices to achieve your target when you let your goal absorb you.

One step at a time, accomplish your objective. Regard each task you undertake as a step toward your target, regardless of how small it can seem.

Set targets for thirty days. The effort day-by-day pays off.

In stage, take detours. A detour simply denotes a different route. It should never imply surrendering the objective.

Get invested in yourself. Purchase those things that create productivity and mental strength. Invest in schooling. Invest in a beginner’s concept.

Chapter 13: How to Think Like a Leader

A representation of your internal state is your external environment. If you don’t show yourself in a confident manner, then the world won’t see you as a person of worth.

Trade minds with the individuals you want to impact. If you see it from their eyes, it’s easy to get people to do what you want them to do. Before you act, ask yourself this question: “What would I think of this if I were to exchange places with another person?” ”

In your relations with others, apply the Be-Human” rule. Ask, ‘What is the human way of dealing with this? “Show that you put other people first in everything you do. Only offer the kind of care you want to get to other individuals. You get paid.

Dream about change, believe in progress, promote progress. Dream of improving everything you do. Think of high norms in everything you do. Subordinates appear to become mirror copies of their supervisor over a period of time. Make sure it is worth duplicating the master copy. Make this a personal solution: “I am for it at home, at work, in community life, if it’s advanced.”

Take time to confer with yourself and tap into your ultimate force of thought. Solitude Handled pays off. To unleash your creative force, use it. Use it to find solutions to issues that are personal and company. So take some time on your own every day just to remember. Use the method of reasoning used by all great leaders: confer with yourself.

How to Use the book in Most Crucial Situations

Schwartz gives several recommendations about how to remain on track and how to stop being pressured to think small. Think high, even though they try to push you back, little ones.

Magic resides in thinking high. But forgetting it is so easy. There is a risk that your thoughts will shrink in size when you reach any rough spots. And you lose when it does.

Below are some quick guides when you’re tempted to use the tiny approach to remain tall. Perhaps, for an even more convenient reference, you’ll want to place these guides on small cards.

THINK BIG when little people want to drive you down,

There are some people, to be sure, who want you to fail, to suffer tragedy, to be reprimanded. But you can’t be hurt by these people if you recall three things:

When you fail to fight petty people, you win. Little people fighting reduces you to their scale. Just stay big.

Expect to be struck by a snip. It’s evidence that you’re rising.
Remind yourself that mentally ill snipers are. Just be big. Please feel sorry for them.

Think large enough to be exempt from petty person attacks.

When the sensation of “I-Haven’t-Got-What-It-Takes” creeps up on you, THINK BIG BIG

Remember: you are if you think you’re poor. You are if you think you’re insufficient. You are if you think you’re second-class.
Whip your normal inclination with these resources to sell yourself short:

Look important, look important! It makes you believe it’s necessary. How you look on the outside has a lot to do with how on the inside you feel.
Focus on your money. Create and use a sell-yourself-to-yourself ad. Learn to self-supercharge. Recognize the good self.
Placed other individuals in the right view. The other person is just another human being, so why are you afraid of him?

To see how strong you really are, think Big Enough!

THINK BIG when an argument or quarrel seems unavoidable.

Resisting the desire to argue and quarrel successfully by:

“Asking yourself, “Is this thing really important enough to argue about, honestly now? ”
You never get something from an argument, to remind yourself, but you do lose anything.

To see that quarrels, disputes, feuds, and fusses will never help you get where you want to go, think Big Enough.

THINK BIG when you feel defeated.

Without challenges and defeats, it is not possible to achieve big success. But the rest of your life can be lived without defeat. Big thinkers respond this way to setbacks:

As a lesson, accept the setback. Only benefit from it. Study that. To drive you forward, use it. Rescue something from each setback.
Persistence of Mix of experimentation. Back off with a new strategy and resume afresh.

Think Big Enough to see that loss is nothing more than a state of mind.

THINK BIG when Romance Begins to Slip

Negative, petty, “She’s (He’s) unfair to me so I’m going to get even” kind of romance thought slaughters, kills the love that can be yours. Do this when things in the love department aren’t going right:

Focus on the best qualities of the person you want to love. In the second position, bring little things where they belong.
Do something special for your partner, and frequently do it.

To discover the key to marital joys, think Big Enough.

THINK BIG BIG When you feel like your progress on the job is slowing down,

Higher rank, higher pay, no matter what you do and regardless of your profession, comes from one thing: increasing the quality and quantity of your production. Do this:-Do this:

Say, “I can do better.” Not unattainable is the best. There is space for something to be done better. Nothing is being done as well in this universe as it should be. And when you say, “I can do better,” there will appear ways to do better. Thinking about “I can do better” turns your creative power on.
Think Big Enough to see that money takes care of itself if you put service first.

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